Pathetic. Fend for yourself kids. Only way to grow up. |
On a 78k salary, your son could afford to share an apartment in Clarendon or Dupont with roommates. I think it's an important part of growing up, personally, to live on one's own in their twenties and learn to budget. Being able to spend more on socializing because you have free rent is not a good lesson, IMO. I guess if he is saving the amount he'd spend in rent that's good. |
I lived in both London and DC in my twenties. London has more housing that is more conducive to sharing with roommates - houses, flats with multiple bedrooms. DC has a lot of studios and one bedrooms. |
At a minimum you need to make clear to both of them that you will not be doing that for any additional children they have together. |
Condos tend to appreciate less and they have high HOA fees. Might not be wise to buy one. |
There aren't nearly as many group houses in DC now than there were in the nineties. |
Oouf that's tough. A divorced man with kids accepting hand-out from his in-laws. Save that money for your daughter in some kind of rainy day fund. Tell them you're putting it away for them to have a downpayment for a house or something like that, but all in your daughter's name. |
My 24 year old is on my phone plan and medical but that is it.
I have other younger kids so family plan I pay regardless. The phone well $50 a month |
+1 I would contribute to a fund in your daughter's name only don't say that it's for the couple/family. They should try to pay for daycare out of marital expenses not from you. If your DD knows there's a rainy day fund for her, she may be more comfortable stretching their income to cover daycare. Her DH may be a lovely human in a tough situation but there are a few red flags there and it would be better to keep the funds as a gift to her in her name. If you let them know that you are building this fund address any cards/messages to her only so it's not considered a marital asset. Alternatively, tell them you can no longer pay the full daycare and direct half to this rainy day fund. |
Helping entry-level early twenty somethings with rent is not uncommon. |
Lots of women, divorced and otherwise, accept handouts from their in-laws. |
Not in your shoes so I can’t judge. But I’d likely say get a second job. I significantly support My young adult son who suffers from mental illness. I am still hoping that it won’t be forever - still assisting with school and other avenues to increase employability. For all my kids, they had to buy their own cars and pay their own phones pretty early on - like by 18. They had jobs. |
DS will be graduating college and starting a job after graduation. He got the gift of his debt-free college degree. We have no plans to support him financially. Now, once we are retired and he has proven himself as a financially responsible adult, we may revisit. The only exception is that we may help him with the downpayment once he is more settled. |
This is us as well. |
DP: Same potential red flag. The point is putting your in-laws in a position where the care of a grandchild essentially requires a handout. Different than just 'accepting' it. |