Weird way to get joy. Why would it give you joy to give a kid that maybe is worth more than you, just more money? Hopefully that sibling either donates it or gives it to the other sibling. That is literally what I told my parents…giving me thousands of dollars is a rounding error…give more to a sibling that needs it. |
My kids will never live just on their income alone thanks to a generation skipping trust. We have never lived on just our own income either although my husband worked hard.
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My sibling who's almost 30 lives at home and is being supported by my parents, who are both still working full-time despite being past retirement age. Sibling is currently unemployed and has never worked a full-time job despite having a relatively employable degree. |
Nope, not too many strings. I don't think requiring your kids to have a career/be contributing to society a string. We don't care what they do, but they shouldn't be sitting at home playing video games all day and no job. We also don't want them to spend it on extreme luxury items---at this point they are in their 20s. So yes, if they decide to purchase a $100K+ vehicle, we might wind back how much we send. We want them to thrive in life and be fully functioning adults, and they are. They largely use our contributions to Save, Save, Save and they have a great job that they are dedicated to and doing great. |
You can lie to yourself all you want...but you keep mentioning strings. It's a gift, right? I mean, if they are actually doing well on their own...it's found money. Why can't they indulge? Or perhaps...they aren't doing all that well and need the money. No shame in admitting that. |
My kid has a budget and can fully afford everything needed in life with their own income. They live in a nice 1 bedroom/1 bath apartment in one of the top suburbs in their area. Only difference is they would save less overall and in their 401K if we didn't gift them $$. We feel we pay so much in taxes already, it's only logical we want our kids to maximize tax benefits and max out their 401K from an early age. Our kid literally saves saves saves. One drives a 10+ yo vehicle (we gave them) and plans to keep it another 4-5 years, unless there are any major issues. Because they know it's the financially savy thing to do. We take our kids and their SO on family vacations. We plan them, attempt to do it when the kids can join if they want. If it doesn't work out, no harm, they just dont come. There are no edicts that they Must join us. We all live in different areas of the country, so it's a fun way to get together (outside of the holidays), rather than just sitting at home and being together. If you gotta fly to gather, might as well fly to someplace fun. You quite frankly sound a bit jealous that you cannot afford to gift your kids $$. We are wealthy, and feel it's much better our kids benefit from the $$$ when it matters most, not when they are 50+ and we are dead. |
I am proud to say that my kid got a fully funded offer to attend grad school. (That is the only kind of programs she applied to.) She is living on a small stipend from the school, but fully supporting herself.
That was the deal so I could retire. (I did let her live here rent-free until she got into grad school—which took one year. She worked part-time during that period, for spending money. I also added her car to my car insurance, which is much cheaper than a standalone policy. But she pays her share of that bill.) |
This topic is discussed also in the Adult Child forum. |
Not jealous at all. I actually have tons of money I could gift. It's funny how everyone likes to say "your just jealous"...maybe my kids are actually successful vs. fake successful like yours? However, this isn't about maximizing tax giving or anything else...this is you continuing to try to control your kids through money. I mean, if you are really so wealthy, then why does it matter if your kid uses your gift to buy a fancy car? You are really wealthy, right? |
Because we don't want our kids to be spoiled brats, at age 25 they don't need to be living life of luxury. Our jump from HNW to UHNW happened recently, so they definately did not grow up spoiled, as we have always lived well below our means. FYI===we are not really concerned they will blow the money, as I stated they are fiscally very frugal and focus on investing/saving. Why would you call mine "fake success"? They are employed by a great company, in the top 10% of their team each year and advancing well in their career. They have fully launched as an adult and we are extremely proud of them. |
I'm in my late forties and my parents have always helped me financially. I've always worked but have never made enough. They also help my sibling, who is very wealthy. They're able to and happy to do it. |
Glad you are proud of your failure. Embarrassing that you are in your 40s and can’t exist as an independent adult. They may give you welfare…but not sure that are bragging to their friends about it. |
Another rude response. Not every child is going to have an income higher than their parents did. The man works and his income is on the low side. That is not a failure. His parents are probably like the majority of parents and are plenty proud of their children. What is wrong with you. |
Your adult children are in the top 10% of their teams? At work? I bet you were one of those insufferable parents who always announced your child’s GPA, top percent in school, best athletes in their school. You should be proud but they are adults stop bragging unless they do something worthwhile. |
This isn’t having more income than your parents…it’s not even self-sufficient. Maybe don’t brag on DCUM that you still need an allowance. |