Better to own your home outright AND have good 401(k) and other savings. |
Ok you meant "rich." I'm rich because finances didn't have any impact on the number of children we had and we have savings in addition to the equity in our house. |
There is no way I could live the way some of you do. I admire your commitment to your principles, but I caution you: being young and poor can be romantic; being old and poor sucks. And one other thing: my mother was a fantastic mom, who also worked. I don't remember who changed my diapers during the day when I was little, but I sure as hell am grateful for the fact that I didn't have to take out loans to go to college, and I sure remember all the great family trips we took. |
I've read most of the posts in this thread and haven't come across anyone who is poor. I think the lowest income reported is $55,000. How is that poor? Yes, we live in an affluent area, and then this forum is self-selected to be mostly higher income folks even for this area. But we're not poor people here! I'm one of the posters who has a HHI on the lower side (as compared with other posters). I'm not a young parent (around 40 with a toddler and #2 on the way) and don't feel like I'm young and poor or old and poor. And my HHI isn't really based on a commitment to principles. My husband and are both well educated, but in fields that just don't bring in huge salaries. But we make a little more than the the median household income for this area - and those medians are some of the highest in the country. |
If I had a lazy, unmotivated kid there would be no way I would be paying for their college. If children are motivated and bright enough there are many scholarships out there for them to lighten the load. Then I would of course help them out. Some parents let their children get through college on their own and then at graduation will pay off any outstanding balance. They know their child has really done it on their own then. The child does not know this before hand and it is a huge gift for them. |
husband makes $127K and we live in NW DC near the cathedral....love love love staying home!!! We make it work and are both very frugal, cars are paid off, no credit card debt, |
Do you rent or own? |
New poster. I didn't read the first 12 pages. We have an unusual situation. I SAH, husband only makes 60-65k, but we have over 1 million in the bank which brings in some interest, and 3 homes, all paid off and 2 of which are rental properties. We're in our early 30's with 2 kids, a toddler and an infant. |
did you inherit? |
yes |
I just did the math the other day and figured out we COULD keep up our savings and current bills (including Roths, life insurance and 529 savings) and such if I SAH on DH's salary of $90K. But I also enjoy working PT and think I would be a horrid SAHM. |
Wow quite a few 250's what do you or your husband do? Us lowly engineers are only bringing in 60 or so. Boy did we pick the wrong majors! |
Huh? Starting salaries for engineers were ~$50k 15 years ago (from a top school). What kind of engineer is only making $60k now? Right out of school? |
32yo working SoCal mama, SAHD, 3 yo toddler, baby #2 on the way. My motto is: moderation in all things, and that's how we live.
Started bringing in 100K for my family about 4 years ago. (Before that it was 50K combined income and renting.) First in my family to go to college or own a house, so I (usually... try to) feel privileged and blessed with what we have. So happy to read that I'm not the only one struggling with how to save money for college on this income! I really want my kids to have a better life and education is the KEY. Drive older Honda, eat at home, do our own maintenance, cleaning, and yard work. No cable, no cell phones, no gym membership, etc. We eat out on special occasions and do yearly weekend (local!) getaways for our anniversary. Buy clothing on ebay or deep discount sale at dept store, cook every meal from staples, do my own mani/pedis/hair at home, find cheap/free family outings on weekends. I did splurge last year and buy my hubby some leather shoes from Aldo and a few outfits from Guess for going out. And for my birthday we went to brunch at a nice restaurant. But moderation is the key to our ability to pay our bills, that's for sure. I put away 10K a year into retirement and that's about all we save. (It's always something, right? This month it was a broken dishwasher and car troubles.... ) We have 30K in student loans but no other debt besides house (300K left, ouch!). (We just bought a foreclosed home last year on an FHA or we'd be renting FOREVER.) We get no financial support from parents - in fact I send $ to my sister each month. It's amazing how much a small inheritance can make a big difference. Wish I had one coming my way! My friends who get parental support of any kind are in a much better place financially, and I hope I can give that kind of freedom to my kids someday. And WHAT kind of job do you get that pays 250-500K a year?! Can I have one?! Wow! I still remember when I hit the 6 figure mark. I still get a little teary eyed thinking about it. The promotion was a surprise. We bought a bottle of champagne to celebrate the end of living month to month, nightly pasta dinners, and public transportation. Here's to the American dream! |