Some of you are completely irrationally scared about STIs. Like to the point of it is keeping you from even considering a relationship. That’s not normal and you need to see a therapist. Get tested yourself and ask whoever you plan to be physical with to get tested. Anyone who actually cares isn’t going to give you a hard time.
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Agree, it’s often just an excuse to avoid dating to avoid possible disappointment. |
Same here. I think it's common but not discussed for perimenopausal women to lose enough of their sex drive so that unsatisfying sex with their partner just isn't enough to overcome the lack of hormone driven urges anymore. What makes it extra hard is that once you've been with someone for 10-20+ years, you've already tried to communicate, teach, etc. and have probably just given up and settled with what you've got. So the dissatisfaction seems to come out of nowhere for the partner, but it's really nothing new from the woman's perspective. It's hard for both partners, and I really don't know how to fix it. |
A year of bad sex is a lot better than a year of no sex. My husband, who I love, is not the best I've ever had but at times he can leave me shaking. I just have to live with the other times. |
+1 |
Ask men how they act upon learning a potential female partner has genital herpes. They run and don’t look back. |
And the sex likely wouldnt be that great with the loser/jerks after X years either. |
Really? What did you not already know? |
Is your friend Michael Scott, OP? |
Ewwww. |
Nope. That was not my experience at all. My longtime ex gave it to me and I was 3 for 3 after we broke up. Number 3 is now my DH. Didn’t give it to anyone. |
+1000000. I love him and we have a family but no longer feel the same way I once did. He taught me I can’t turn to him for sex. I’m on my own. |
You think getting tested for STIs is gross? |
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It’s your experience. There are plenty of online resources where you can find different feedback from women. Men don’t want to continue dating if she discloses HSV2 in most cases. When it’s early in the relationship and nobody knows if it becomes LTR, people think it’s not the risk worth taking. It pretty much ends free dating for women (add to this middle age when pickings are slim already!) |