Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had marriage problems for awhile and DH declined to have sex with me.
It made me insane. I was late 30s and couldn’t imagine that this was the end of my sex life. I cried a lot. I eventually engaged in an emotional affair but cut it off because I realized I would rather divorce my husband than lose my integrity. The other man made me feel alive again. My husband and I eventually worked things out. Years ago I would have been very judgmental of someone who committed adultery but having been through the experience I had I don’t judge anyone who makes a bad decision when they have that kind of lonely desperation. It makes you nuts.
This is so so true. I used to be so judgmental. But my husband has completely forgotten about me and I don’t judge people anymore. It’s the worst feeling and I absolutely understand why people do what they do now.
I didn’t think it was important, more of a nice to vs must have. We were living like roommates with high conflict and no path to resolution, but kids were thriving (both under 5). We stopped communicating to avoid conflict.
Ended up sleeping with somebody unmarried but much younger. Told DW about it thinking it would either get us on a path to fixing things or divorcing fast. We are divorcing. Always wondered what kind of uniquely shitty person does this. Turns out it’s me.
Don’t regret it at all- would rather have something real than live a lie to maintain optics. I’m going to miss continuous time with my kids and don’t hold DW in contempt at all. We rushed into marriage, never built the foundation/real intimacy and 10 years later here we are at age ~40. Life is funny