What has a lack of sex done to you?

[Anonymous]

Divorce. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Low self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lost all respect for my husband and moved on in every sense. Left him. Apparently his hand was a better lover than his wife.

Brave of you to post a huge L like this.

Do people who angrily post about their spouse refusing to have sex with them even consider that their spouse may have a reason to not want to have sex with them?

[Anonymous]

We had marriage problems for awhile and DH declined to have sex with me.

It made me insane. I was late 30s and couldn’t imagine that this was the end of my sex life. I cried a lot. I eventually engaged in an emotional affair but cut it off because I realized I would rather divorce my husband than lose my integrity. The other man made me feel alive again. My husband and I eventually worked things out. Years ago I would have been very judgmental of someone who committed adultery but having been through the experience I had I don’t judge anyone who makes a bad decision when they have that kind of lonely desperation. It makes you nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm trying to understand my sexually unsatisifed friends.

So nice of you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lost all respect for my husband and moved on in every sense. Left him. Apparently his hand was a better lover than his wife.

Brave of you to post a huge L like this.

Do people who angrily post about their spouse refusing to have sex with them even consider that their spouse may have a reason to not want to have sex with them?

I think that's the problem. Why would you be married to someone you wouldn't want to have sex with? Just like why would you want to be married to someone who doesn't want to have sex with you. Just divorce and everyone is happier.

[Anonymous]

I'm an expert with toys

[Anonymous]

Having the one person that you’re only supposed to have sex with not want to have sex with you hurts, it just does not matter the reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having the one person that you’re only supposed to have sex with not want to have sex with you hurts, it just does not matter the reason.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having the one person that you’re only supposed to have sex with not want to have sex with you hurts, it just does not matter the reason.

I agree. It’s basically impossible for me to feel attractive.

[Anonymous]

In my case it is related to my wife's depression and a mess of fallout from that. It's been a long 8 years with a few reprieves during that time, but she's getting better and, remarkably, starting to initiate some sexual encounters. Fingers crossed it holds. But, yeah, I was pretty lonely and frustrated for nearly a decade, some of my prime age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had marriage problems for awhile and DH declined to have sex with me.

It made me insane. I was late 30s and couldn’t imagine that this was the end of my sex life. I cried a lot. I eventually engaged in an emotional affair but cut it off because I realized I would rather divorce my husband than lose my integrity. The other man made me feel alive again. My husband and I eventually worked things out. Years ago I would have been very judgmental of someone who committed adultery but having been through the experience I had I don’t judge anyone who makes a bad decision when they have that kind of lonely desperation. It makes you nuts.

This is so so true. I used to be so judgmental. But my husband has completely forgotten about me and I don’t judge people anymore. It’s the worst feeling and I absolutely understand why people do what they do now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having the one person that you’re only supposed to have sex with not want to have sex with you hurts, it just does not matter the reason.

I agree. It’s basically impossible for me to feel attractive.

Yes, same.
I’ve developed an incredible inner sex life and I’m insatiable!

But irl I feel like I’m living half a life. I know it sounds childish and people can easily live without sex but I find I miss everything that used to surround it; flirting, seducing, dressing up and the anticipation were just as if not more precious to me than the actual act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having the one person that you’re only supposed to have sex with not want to have sex with you hurts, it just does not matter the reason.

This one. I resent my wife at this point and we are simply in a co-parenting marriage. I hope my libido falls off at some point, but it is porn until then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex has made me want to bend most women over. 🤷‍♂️

Wow. In a given month I see maybe 1 even remotely bangable guy. “Most” women?