What state law forbids a married parent from taking their kid out of state. I’ll wait. |
If they are married there is nothing stopping her from taking them. Even if they are divorced and there is an order, rarely do they hold the mother accountable for custody/visitation refusal. |
Grow up. Her spouse isn't getting free child care. Their marriage/parenting arrangement is she cares for the kids summers because she doesn't work summers. She can work to pay for child care. |
He's saying he will file for divorce and a custody agreement if she up and takes the kids. That's not unreasonable given she's said they are basically living together caring for the kids and there is a good possibility she will not return. There is clearly more to this. He should file now. |
How about they both work tougher and find child care if she wants to go away for the entire summer. Their problem is they refuse to work together. He probably is paying for the bulk of the expense if she refuses to divorce and they are still living together was she does't have the income to support a second household which is why its suspicious that she'd move away. |
Nope. She cares for the kids AND takes them to see her parents to build those relationships. She’s not the help to whom he can dictate her working location. He wants childcare for free? Kids go to see the grandparents. Otherwise he can enjoy his summer of leaving work at 4:55 to make sure he can do camp pick up. May cramp some happy hour style. |
Why should she find childcare? She has already offered 7 weeks of childcare at no cost to him. He turns that down it’s his problem. |
You parent your kids. You are not a child care provider. Both the parents can work together to make a child care plan while she chooses to go out of town. These parents need to divorce if they cannot work together. |
Exactly. She’s choosing to parent her kids in their grandparents home as she has in previous summers. He’s the one with an issue, he’s the one who needs to solve it or quit whining. |
Op, I'm not a lawyer (and you should consult one) but your dh's threat to file and send police to your parents house...i'm pretty sure that's not how it works.
Like, what's he going to say to the police? 'Officer, my wife took our kids to visit her parents like she does every year for the summer, but I filed for divorce yesterday so can you show up at her folks house and make them come home RIGHT NOW?' I would defenitley not leave them with the dh for the summer. You really need to see a lawyer OP and should think about your next steps as far as the marriage, which sounds over. |
If you take a child out of state for 2 months at the beginning of rancorous divorce proceedings, over the objections of their other parent, you best be ready for legal action. |
They are not her kids, they are their kids and its a joint decision. |
Yep. That’s what OP is headed towards. And she will not get the kids for 7 weeks over the summer. |
I mean, the way he will solve it is to file for divorce and 50-50 custody. Is that what OP wants? |
His logic doesn’t make sense to me.
1. He doesn’t want you to go alone to see your parents and leave the kids with him, and he won’t take time off to watch them. 2. He doesn’t want you to take the kids to visit your parents. 3. He has threatened he’ll seek emergency custody if you take the kids. Wouldn’t that mean he would have the problem in #1? He would need to hire childcare? Is he trying to set a trap for you? Maybe he hopes you will take the kids and he can then get custody? Would his parents help HIM out with childcare? |