If you're 55+, do you ever think of people you dated in college and your 20s?

[Anonymous]

Or is it so far back in the past that combined with all your daily obligations, never in your mind?

[Anonymous]

I do, actually. There weren't that many (got married at 25), but I do think of them sometimes. Why are you asking?

[Anonymous]

I mostly dated people I met at work so our professional circles occasionally overlap. A couple of them are also the kind of minor policy people who occasionally end up in the news. One of them was on CNN a couple of weeks ago and my husband and I watched him and had a laugh. Before I met my macho husband the guys I dated were like dweebs and policy wonks so usually that’s what we laugh about. Dudes with no muscle tone and soft hands. Blech!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly dated people I met at work so our professional circles occasionally overlap. A couple of them are also the kind of minor policy people who occasionally end up in the news. One of them was on CNN a couple of weeks ago and my husband and I watched him and had a laugh. Before I met my macho husband the guys I dated were like dweebs and policy wonks so usually that’s what we laugh about. Dudes with no muscle tone and soft hands. Blech!!

What a mean-spirited way to think of your past lovers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly dated people I met at work so our professional circles occasionally overlap. A couple of them are also the kind of minor policy people who occasionally end up in the news. One of them was on CNN a couple of weeks ago and my husband and I watched him and had a laugh. Before I met my macho husband the guys I dated were like dweebs and policy wonks so usually that’s what we laugh about. Dudes with no muscle tone and soft hands. Blech!!

All I hear is that you're ugly and/or fat so you had to date nerds when you were young and then settle for a low iq/poor as an adult.

[Anonymous]

I'm only 52, but yea, I still think about him which I find kind of weird. I know definitely that we are not compatible. Maybe it's just because the way we left things was so abrupt. I didn't have good closure. Sometimes he's in my dreams, but nothing sexual. The relationship did have a deep impact on me emotionally, though, so maybe that's why.

[Anonymous]

I do. I text to one of them weekly. All above board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do, actually. There weren't that many (got married at 25), but I do think of them sometimes. Why are you asking?

OP - sparked by going to a HS reunion. Mind drifted after to college and my 20s and wondered if it was bizarre to look back so long ago?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly dated people I met at work so our professional circles occasionally overlap. A couple of them are also the kind of minor policy people who occasionally end up in the news. One of them was on CNN a couple of weeks ago and my husband and I watched him and had a laugh. Before I met my macho husband the guys I dated were like dweebs and policy wonks so usually that’s what we laugh about. Dudes with no muscle tone and soft hands. Blech!!

I only dated guys with brains. We keep in touch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or is it so far back in the past that combined with all your daily obligations, never in your mind?

I think of many people I came across - elementary school friends and teachers, team mates, college friends, old boyfriends, old work mates, relatives who have passed. If you didn't, I think you'd be a goldfish.

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Anonymous wrote:Or is it so far back in the past that combined with all your daily obligations, never in your mind?

I think of many people I came across - elementary school friends and teachers, team mates, college friends, old boyfriends, old work mates, relatives who have passed. If you didn't, I think you'd be a goldfish.

Same. I wonder what it will be like for today's 20-somethings who will likely remain at least somewhat connected via social media to all these people that passed through their lives. Back when I was 20-something, it took real effort to stay connected to people.

[Anonymous]

Nope. They weren't serious and I married so much better.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. They weren't serious and I married so much better.

You must be thinking about them to know how they're doing now.

[Anonymous]

I was thinking last night about how I wasted my college years dating the boy back home. I knew I wasn't going to marry him. I regret not exploring opportunities at school.

[Anonymous]

Very occasionally.

There was this one guy I had a brief relationship with back in college that I thought was the love of my life for the longest time. Every few years he'd pop into my head and I'd google him to see what he's been up to. It's very random.