They were lucky to escape. |
Looks change, looks fade. Does Brad Pitt look like he did 20 years ago? Assuming someone stayed in shape, they will still look different. And so will you. |
53 man here. Happily married to college sweetheart I met at age 20. Since I settled locally, yes there are plenty of reminders of past flames but zero regrets - I married the best girl! |
Love you! |
* to be clear, I’m not his wife |
I'm not quite 55 yet, but yes, I do. |
Sure. Some more than others. I'm facebook friends w/ one, and we exchange pleasantries - so I'm pretty current on what's going on w/ him.
Others I never saw again but remember fondly for one reason or another, one tried to make a booty call a few years back (not knowing I was married), another made weird overtures that reminded me why I broke up with him, and one or two I regret not leaning into more. Sometimes they're fun little rabbit hole fantasies to dive down... |
Randomly sexually, i’ve had some fun sexual moments. None now. |
Yeah, sure I do. Some it's just curious about where they ended up (esp. the ones it didn't end so amicably with). Others, there is no longing for them or anything. But I may have wondered what it would have been like to end up with person A or B. But then you have to remind yourself that those relationships were a point in time and would still have various stressors in those relationships as time progressed too. You won't be a 23 yo grad student, with no responsibilities to kids, jobs, etc. forever (and like you were at that point in time). |
Yes. But mostly one and largely because we’ve both coincidentally moved across the country twice and each time crossed paths - ran into him for the first time as a parent at our little private school in one city then the only decent house in my price range near work in the other city is just a few miles from his. Small world. |
You may be surprised. The shadow of death has a way of cleansing these irritations from your memory. NP |
Reread it and try to understand if this reflects more on you or on people you dated? |
Yes, I broke up with my post college BF because he seemed to lack ambition but he was very sweet, handsome and just a nice guy but I was on a path! Well, I was wrong as he’s been very successful running very large, well known companies and apparently he’s been happily married for a very long time. My career peaked early, I married and divorced and now I’m remarried and reasonably happy living a MC life. I have followed him on LinkedIn for many years and I doubt if he thinks about me. |
Sometimes but I only had a few boyfriends before my husband and none of them rocked my world. Nice guys but I was never really in love with any of them. I think about them once in awhile when something triggers a memory but I certainly don’t fantasize about them. |
I only think about them when something triggers a memory of an annoying comment or behavior of theirs. Then I feel thankful I married DH. Least annoying man ever! |