If you're 55+, do you ever think of people you dated in college and your 20s?

[Anonymous]

Mostly I think about them briefly and think how grateful I am I grew up and focused on what truly matters before I dated my wonderful husband. Occasionally though I miss that carefree feeling of sex with the first boyfriend I had sex with where we just would have multiple sessions and we were so giddy and we didn't worry about kids, real jobs, maintaining a house, aging parents. We used condoms and I was a birth control so there was not much to worry about, just lots of sex!

[Anonymous]

I like to look them up on Facebook and see how bad they turned out. Divorces, balding, alcoholics, etc. It makes me glad I didn't get stuck with any of them.

[Anonymous]

Sure. Got dozens of memories locked away in the spank bank. Any man that tells you he never reminisces about banging Kristin in the shower stall of their old apartment is a bald faced liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure. Got dozens of memories locked away in the spank bank. Any man that tells you he never reminisces about banging Kristin in the shower stall of their old apartment is a bald faced liar.

Posts like yours are so juvenile. I like sex as much as the next person, and had plenty in my dating years, but grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like to look them up on Facebook and see how bad they turned out. Divorces, balding, alcoholics, etc. It makes me glad I didn't get stuck with any of them.

I’m sure that right now you look exactly as hot as you did in college. 🙄

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a girlfriend in college who was not a looker. I liked her but was embarrassed to be seen with her. One time she knocked on my dorm room door and I wasn’t there but a bunch of my guy friends were. They answered and said I wasn’t there. They shut the door and she started leaving me a note on the outside of the my door. They thought she had left and starting talking about her. She heard one of them say “[She] is a nice girl but is so f_cking ugly.” It devastated her. She told me it was said and the guy who said it later admitted that he said it and felt TERRIBLE about it. This was more than 40 years ago.

She ended up marrying a guy who was literally worth hundreds of millions of dollars. They were together for 30 years and had four kids. He died of cancer in his 50s.

Yea, I think about her.

Oh, I feel so bad for her! Glad she was happily married but very sad to lose your husband in his 50s.

I don't care how much money someone has. This woman has probably never forgotten what that person said about her.

You may be surprised. The shadow of death has a way of cleansing these irritations from your memory.
NP

I dunno, to her dying day my mom stayed mad at her XH (who she divorced in 1972) and her dad (who died in 1986).

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I still think about my old girlfriends from high school and college but nah I’m not going to look them up on the internet let alone contact them. When it’s over, it’s over. Everyone has moved on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly dated people I met at work so our professional circles occasionally overlap. A couple of them are also the kind of minor policy people who occasionally end up in the news. One of them was on CNN a couple of weeks ago and my husband and I watched him and had a laugh. Before I met my macho husband the guys I dated were like dweebs and policy wonks so usually that’s what we laugh about. Dudes with no muscle tone and soft hands. Blech!!

Wow! Just wow! Says so much about you!

I've always had good taste in men. My old flames ended up with great jobs and happy families and I'm happy for them. Just because we were great together doesn't mean we both don't deserve happiness.

[Anonymous]

I do think of one guy when great 90s music comes on from dance clubs—we dated casually no heavy feelings but man did we love to dance (alternative clubs—Cagney, Black Cat, etc). It was just sweet fun with kissing and beer involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. But mostly one and largely because we’ve both coincidentally moved across the country twice and each time crossed paths - ran into him for the first time as a parent at our little private school in one city then the only decent house in my price range near work in the other city is just a few miles from his. Small world.

Or one of you is stalking lol

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think of one guy when great 90s music comes on from dance clubs—we dated casually no heavy feelings but man did we love to dance (alternative clubs—Cagney, Black Cat, etc). It was just sweet fun with kissing and beer involved.

That right there is what I miss about youth.

[Anonymous]

Not the one I have a restraining order on.
The one gave me an STD
The one put sugar in my gas tank
The one who did another guy in hood of my car
The stalkers

I think of the four who wanted to marry me.

The hit 1NS’s of course

But oddly the ones I could have done and didn’t, regrets and think about the most.

And the women whose husband like to watch. I had to warn her up first

[Anonymous]

For a while, occasionally, but then I looked them up and realized it was best those relationships were in the past.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sure. Got dozens of memories locked away in the spank bank. Any man that tells you he never reminisces about banging Kristin in the shower stall of their old apartment is a bald faced liar.

Posts like yours are so juvenile. I like sex as much as the next person, and had plenty in my dating years, but grow up.

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DP what he said is true though.

And somewhere out there are guys pulling it while thinking of the 20-something you.