If you're 55+, do you ever think of people you dated in college and your 20s?

[Anonymous]

The thing that is oddest for me now is realizing that the two older guys with whom I had relationships (both 13 years older than me---I dated one when I was 25 and he was 38 and the other when I was 32 and he was 45) are now getting close to 70. Now THAT makes me feel old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, there’s a guy I dated in grad school that I think about frequently. I remember our conversation vividly and imagine him being in my current life. I’ve had no contact with him since our parting, 32 years ago. I always wonder about what could have been…

How did he wind up?

Don't know! Totally lost contact. I think he got married a few years later, but no idea if he still is or if he has kids etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Love of my life was college boyfriend. Wanted to marry him. He broke up with me mostly because we were too young and he wanted to do his own thing. I moved abroad for a few years and when I came back he was married.

Wish it had worked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly dated people I met at work so our professional circles occasionally overlap. A couple of them are also the kind of minor policy people who occasionally end up in the news. One of them was on CNN a couple of weeks ago and my husband and I watched him and had a laugh. Before I met my macho husband the guys I dated were like dweebs and policy wonks so usually that’s what we laugh about. Dudes with no muscle tone and soft hands. Blech!!

It sounds and your husband are both sad pathetic people and your exes dodged a bullet!

[Anonymous]

Some I'm still friends with. And the hot ones I absolutely think about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly dated people I met at work so our professional circles occasionally overlap. A couple of them are also the kind of minor policy people who occasionally end up in the news. One of them was on CNN a couple of weeks ago and my husband and I watched him and had a laugh. Before I met my macho husband the guys I dated were like dweebs and policy wonks so usually that’s what we laugh about. Dudes with no muscle tone and soft hands. Blech!!

Love this poster's fantasy of Gaston from Beauty and the Beast booming "ha-HA!" while watching CNN on some sofa in Ashburn.

[Anonymous]

Once in a while, then I google them and am grateful they were the ones that got away!

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman and trust me, they allll come back. I’ve gotten some sort of contact from every dude I ever had a relationship with.

[Anonymous]

Sure! My spouse and I mention our past partners because we share and reshape stories and photos from our past (and repeat ourselves) now and then.

Our kid is going to my alma mater and I’m remembering lots of stories from that time now and those involve old flames.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure! My spouse and I mention our past partners because we share and reshape stories and photos from our past (and repeat ourselves) now and then.

Our kid is going to my alma mater and I’m remembering lots of stories from that time now and those involve old flames.

Reshare and not reshape

[Anonymous]

I had a girlfriend in college who was not a looker. I liked her but was embarrassed to be seen with her. One time she knocked on my dorm room door and I wasn’t there but a bunch of my guy friends were. They answered and said I wasn’t there. They shut the door and she started leaving me a note on the outside of the my door. They thought she had left and starting talking about her. She heard one of them say “[She] is a nice girl but is so f_cking ugly.” It devastated her. She told me it was said and the guy who said it later admitted that he said it and felt TERRIBLE about it. This was more than 40 years ago.

She ended up marrying a guy who was literally worth hundreds of millions of dollars. They were together for 30 years and had four kids. He died of cancer in his 50s.

Yea, I think about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a girlfriend in college who was not a looker. I liked her but was embarrassed to be seen with her. One time she knocked on my dorm room door and I wasn’t there but a bunch of my guy friends were. They answered and said I wasn’t there. They shut the door and she started leaving me a note on the outside of the my door. They thought she had left and starting talking about her. She heard one of them say “[She] is a nice girl but is so f_cking ugly.” It devastated her. She told me it was said and the guy who said it later admitted that he said it and felt TERRIBLE about it. This was more than 40 years ago.

She ended up marrying a guy who was literally worth hundreds of millions of dollars. They were together for 30 years and had four kids. He died of cancer in his 50s.

Yea, I think about her.

Oh, I feel so bad for her! Glad she was happily married but very sad to lose your husband in his 50s.

[Anonymous]

I only had a few serious boy friends before I met my husband and I think about them periodically. They were very nice guys but even though they were well educated they all lacked drive and ambition possibly due to coming from high income families. I was never really in love with any of them but when you are in your early 20’s it’s nice to have a boy friend.

I met my now husband at work but we didn’t date for a few years but I got to know him as a friend and I could see how smart he was and that he was going to be successful. He knew 2 of my boyfriends and years later he asked me what I saw in them and I didn’t have a great answer other than me thinking the sex was pretty good. First time sex with my now husband was awesome and since we were good friends I knew he was the one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a girlfriend in college who was not a looker. I liked her but was embarrassed to be seen with her. One time she knocked on my dorm room door and I wasn’t there but a bunch of my guy friends were. They answered and said I wasn’t there. They shut the door and she started leaving me a note on the outside of the my door. They thought she had left and starting talking about her. She heard one of them say “[She] is a nice girl but is so f_cking ugly.” It devastated her. She told me it was said and the guy who said it later admitted that he said it and felt TERRIBLE about it. This was more than 40 years ago.

She ended up marrying a guy who was literally worth hundreds of millions of dollars. They were together for 30 years and had four kids. He died of cancer in his 50s.

Yea, I think about her.

Oh, I feel so bad for her! Glad she was happily married but very sad to lose your husband in his 50s.

I don't care how much money someone has. This woman has probably never forgotten what that person said about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or is it so far back in the past that combined with all your daily obligations, never in your mind?

Sometimes. I imagine them as they were then though. If I were to see them now I would not likely like it.