Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny and I'm currently going through the same thing. I cried on my way to work today because I'm just tired of it. My schedule used to be 9-5 but I can't tell you the last time that happened. Now that they are busier it's always 8-6. But of course they are constantly asking for nights and weekends or running late. They have me working 8am-11pm sometimes and then back to work the next day at 8am. I can't tell you how it makes me feel to see them sitting around in their pjs and enjoying coffee while I've had no sleep. I'm so burnt out. With traffic most days I'm not home until 7pm. I've got a fiancé and two dogs. I feel like I meet get stuff at home done and I'm running around all weekend catching up. That's if they haven't asked me to work over the weekend. Sometimes it's hard saying no. Be thankful that she was open and honest with you. If I could go back I would have never agreed to be so flexible. Please get a back up sitter.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know with two working parents with demanding jobs has back up/evening care. It is way too much to work the long regular hours and then add in the extra nights as well. I would be worried about how she is interacting with the kids in the morning after numerous late nights.

I'm OP. We have an infant and why should I be worried? Our nanny is amazing, morning, noon, and night. Never have I seen someone do job so gracefully and lovingly. Her level of care has never decreased or changed. True professionals get the job done well no matter the reason.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are selfish, self-absorbed, and self-consumed. Try to remember that your nanny is a human being not an automaton. Your needs do not trump her needs. Find a night nanny and make an appointment to see your children a couple of hours every week because, thus far, you and your husband are crap for parents.

Anonymous wrote:High Profile employers with unpredictable schedules hire 24 hour nannies. One during the week and another for the weekend. Maybe that is what you need OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are selfish, self-absorbed, and self-consumed. Try to remember that your nanny is a human being not an automaton. Your needs do not trump her needs. Find a night nanny and make an appointment to see your children a couple of hours every week because, thus far, you and your husband are crap for parents.

Forget the nanny, what about the kids?

I'm sorry, but why in the HELL do people have children who clearly see no value in spending time with them. I say this as a working parent. My spouse and I both stagger our days. No way are my kids going to be in the care of someone else for more than 40hrs a week, PLUS we actually want to be with our children. Not just for their development, but I want to experience them growing up.

Damn, I respect my sister and her DH so much. They both have busy jobs that are their life. The chose not to have children because they don't have time for them.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are selfish, self-absorbed, and self-consumed. Try to remember that your nanny is a human being not an automaton. Your needs do not trump her needs. Find a night nanny and make an appointment to see your children a couple of hours every week because, thus far, you and your husband are crap for parents.

Forget the nanny, what about the kids?

I'm sorry, but why in the HELL do people have children who clearly see no value in spending time with them. I say this as a working parent. My spouse and I both stagger our days. No way are my kids going to be in the care of someone else for more than 40hrs a week, PLUS we actually want to be with our children. Not just for their development, but I want to experience them growing up.

Damn, I respect my sister and her DH so much. They both have busy jobs that are their life. The chose not to have children because they don't have time for them.

Responses like this are judgmental in the worst way. My husband and I went through years of infertility and treatment before having our daughter. We value her more than anything in our lives.

We are also both physicians. We worked hard for years to have the privilege of taking care of our patients and making a difference in their lives. Due to our demanding schedules, our daughter is in the care of my mother and a nanny for the 40 hours a week PP references. Although these wonderful people are helping to raise our daughter, only WE are her parents. We love her and want to be with her just as much as any other parent. We are the ones who get up with her at night, devote every minute not at work to her care, celebrate the smallest of milestones, and, despite having time consuming and stressful jobs, value our time with her very much.

To imply that parents with demanding jobs don't want to be with their children or don't have the appropriate time for them is presumptuous, unkind, and simply untrue. We're making the best choices for our family, and we hope our daughter will be proud of her two physician parents whose love for her, like all parents' love for their children, goes so far beyond 40 hours a week.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are selfish, self-absorbed, and self-consumed. Try to remember that your nanny is a human being not an automaton. Your needs do not trump her needs. Find a night nanny and make an appointment to see your children a couple of hours every week because, thus far, you and your husband are crap for parents.

Forget the nanny, what about the kids?

I'm sorry, but why in the HELL do people have children who clearly see no value in spending time with them. I say this as a working parent. My spouse and I both stagger our days. No way are my kids going to be in the care of someone else for more than 40hrs a week, PLUS we actually want to be with our children. Not just for their development, but I want to experience them growing up.

Damn, I respect my sister and her DH so much. They both have busy jobs that are their life. The chose not to have children because they don't have time for them.

Responses like this are judgmental in the worst way. My husband and I went through years of infertility and treatment before having our daughter. We value her more than anything in our lives.

We are also both physicians. We worked hard for years to have the privilege of taking care of our patients and making a difference in their lives. Due to our demanding schedules, our daughter is in the care of my mother and a nanny for the 40 hours a week PP references. Although these wonderful people are helping to raise our daughter, only WE are her parents. We love her and want to be with her just as much as any other parent. We are the ones who get up with her at night, devote every minute not at work to her care, celebrate the smallest of milestones, and, despite having time consuming and stressful jobs, value our time with her very much.

To imply that parents with demanding jobs don't want to be with their children or don't have the appropriate time for them is presumptuous, unkind, and simply untrue. We're making the best choices for our family, and we hope our daughter will be proud of her two physician parents whose love for her, like all parents' love for their children, goes so far beyond 40 hours a week.

If you need coverage only 40 hours a week, that doesn't seem to demanding to me. I've worked nanny jobs 60 hours a week. Now, that's demanding.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are selfish, self-absorbed, and self-consumed. Try to remember that your nanny is a human being not an automaton. Your needs do not trump her needs. Find a night nanny and make an appointment to see your children a couple of hours every week because, thus far, you and your husband are crap for parents.

Forget the nanny, what about the kids?

I'm sorry, but why in the HELL do people have children who clearly see no value in spending time with them. I say this as a working parent. My spouse and I both stagger our days. No way are my kids going to be in the care of someone else for more than 40hrs a week, PLUS we actually want to be with our children. Not just for their development, but I want to experience them growing up.

Damn, I respect my sister and her DH so much. They both have busy jobs that are their life. The chose not to have children because they don't have time for them.

Responses like this are judgmental in the worst way. My husband and I went through years of infertility and treatment before having our daughter. We value her more than anything in our lives.

We are also both physicians. We worked hard for years to have the privilege of taking care of our patients and making a difference in their lives. Due to our demanding schedules, our daughter is in the care of my mother and a nanny for the 40 hours a week PP references. Although these wonderful people are helping to raise our daughter, only WE are her parents. We love her and want to be with her just as much as any other parent. We are the ones who get up with her at night, devote every minute not at work to her care, celebrate the smallest of milestones, and, despite having time consuming and stressful jobs, value our time with her very much.

To imply that parents with demanding jobs don't want to be with their children or don't have the appropriate time for them is presumptuous, unkind, and simply untrue. We're making the best choices for our family, and we hope our daughter will be proud of her two physician parents whose love for her, like all parents' love for their children, goes so far beyond 40 hours a week.

If you need coverage only 40 hours a week, that doesn't seem to demanding to me. I've worked nanny jobs 60 hours a week. Now, that's demanding.

Anonymous wrote:If you need coverage only 40 hours a week, that doesn't seem to demanding to me. I've worked nanny jobs 60 hours a week. Now, that's demanding.