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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are selfish, self-absorbed, and self-consumed. Try to remember that your nanny is a human being not an automaton. Your needs do not trump her needs. Find a night nanny and make an appointment to see your children a couple of hours every week because, thus far, you and your husband are crap for parents.

Forget the nanny, what about the kids?

I'm sorry, but why in the HELL do people have children who clearly see no value in spending time with them. I say this as a working parent. My spouse and I both stagger our days. No way are my kids going to be in the care of someone else for more than 40hrs a week, PLUS we actually want to be with our children. Not just for their development, but I want to experience them growing up.

Damn, I respect my sister and her DH so much. They both have busy jobs that are their life. The chose not to have children because they don't have time for them.

Responses like this are judgmental in the worst way. My husband and I went through years of infertility and treatment before having our daughter. We value her more than anything in our lives.

We are also both physicians. We worked hard for years to have the privilege of taking care of our patients and making a difference in their lives. Due to our demanding schedules, our daughter is in the care of my mother and a nanny for the 40 hours a week PP references. Although these wonderful people are helping to raise our daughter, only WE are her parents. We love her and want to be with her just as much as any other parent. We are the ones who get up with her at night, devote every minute not at work to her care, celebrate the smallest of milestones, and, despite having time consuming and stressful jobs, value our time with her very much.

To imply that parents with demanding jobs don't want to be with their children or don't have the appropriate time for them is presumptuous, unkind, and simply untrue. We're making the best choices for our family, and we hope our daughter will be proud of her two physician parents whose love for her, like all parents' love for their children, goes so far beyond 40 hours a week.

You must understand that people do in fact judge your parenting. If you nannied a child who hardly saw his parents, what would you think? Oh yeah, they magically manage to find time to have dinner out with their friends. How many hours a week did you see your parents?