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[Post New]06/15/2013 16:43
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Anonymous wrote:If I, as a mom, met you with your baby and nanny in tow, I would think less of you and ironically, it would turn me off from becoming your friend which is what you say you lack and want.


Why in the world would you think less of someone with a nanny?


Im with PP on this. When did it become okay to pay someone to take care of your child when you are more than capable of doing so yourself, not to mention essentially paying someone to be your friend. OP, join a new mommy club, find a real friend please, and hire a nanny for when you actually need care.
[Post New]06/15/2013 18:22
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OP here. If it were that easy to make friends, I wouldn't need a nanny to be my friend. But it is incredibly hard when you're new to the area. I just want companionship so I'm not alone all the time, and DH works such long hours. A friend can't provide the all-day companionship I am seeking.
[Post New]06/15/2013 18:59
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aurora151989

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hi op, if you're open to a live in nanny, go ahead and e-mail me at aurora151989 at comcast dot net
[Post New]06/15/2013 21:04
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. What I envision for this situation is that the nanny will be with my child while I am working part-time, probably 2-3 days per week. The rest of the days, nanny, myself, and the baby will go out for lunch, shopping, zoo, park, do baby activities together, or watch the baby while I clean the house, do errands, etc. and it would be great if the nanny could teach me some skills I'd like to learn (cooking, sewing, knitting, language skills, etc.)

Does this sound like a job that would appeal to some nannies? This is my first experience working with a nanny and I am still learning about this whole process.



I want this job!!!
[Post New]06/15/2013 21:09
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. If it were that easy to make friends, I wouldn't need a nanny to be my friend. But it is incredibly hard when you're new to the area. I just want companionship so I'm not alone all the time, and DH works such long hours. A friend can't provide the all-day companionship I am seeking.


Maybe you should spend some of your free time that you'll have seeing a therapist to work on why you feel you need ALL DAY companionship.
[Post New]06/15/2013 21:18
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:If I, as a mom, met you with your baby and nanny in tow, I would think less of you and ironically, it would turn me off from becoming your friend which is what you say you lack and want.


Why in the world would you think less of someone with a nanny?


Im with PP on this. When did it become okay to pay someone to take care of your child when you are more than capable of doing so yourself, not to mention essentially paying someone to be your friend. OP, join a new mommy club, find a real friend please, and hire a nanny for when you actually need care.

Aren't most MBs "more than capable" of caring for their own children? Of course they are. They simply choose to do something else, for which they were educated. If a parent prefers to be a FT mom and have a nanny, more power to her if she can afford it.

I'm impressed that OP wants to learn parenting skills. It's not something that we all learned growing up. Second hand information from your girlfriends and the Internet, isn't the same.
[Post New]06/15/2013 22:03
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. If it were that easy to make friends, I wouldn't need a nanny to be my friend. But it is incredibly hard when you're new to the area. I just want companionship so I'm not alone all the time, and DH works such long hours. A friend can't provide the all-day companionship I am seeking.


Maybe you should spend some of your free time that you'll have seeing a therapist to work on why you feel you need ALL DAY companionship.


OP here. Actually I am seeing a therapist. I need all day companionship because DH works 80 hours a week and travels for work and is never home. I am lonely constantly. I hate being alone. I go out for lunch by myself, go to movies by myself, shop by myself. My family is 4000 miles away. It would be nice to have someone to be with me, to have companionship. Also, I am a FTM and have no idea how to take care of an infant.
[Post New]06/15/2013 22:14
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aurora151989

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you could also try getting some kittens for company
[Post New]06/15/2013 22:25
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I was hired as a companion and loved it...until just recently. We will likely always maintain a friendship but our working relationship went sour. No worries as it has nothing to do with our friendship she is just a shitty employer. I'm sorry you are feeling lonely. Make connections however you must. No shame in that. Also try meetup.com
[Post New]06/15/2013 22:58
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aurora151989 wrote:you could also try getting some kittens for company


OP here. Actually, I have 3 kittens. They are lovely, but I need companionship, connection, and conversation.
[Post New]06/15/2013 23:05
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Hi OP, seeking companionship, connection, and conversation is a normal and pro-social feeling to be seeking. However, how much companionship and connection can really be fostered when the basis of your relationship is formed on a contract?

I know it's hard to find friends, but it would be worth your while to at least put yourself out there. There are alot of new and young moms in the same situation as yourself. I agree you shouldn't be socially isolated, but you may find yourself even more lonely if you have to pay people to be your friend.
[Post New]06/16/2013 00:06
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Are you depressed Op? I get a sense of sadness in your posts. Maybe a therapist is a good way to go. But until you can get in to see a therapist, are there any groups or classes in your area?
[Post New]06/16/2013 02:42
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Anonymous
I say go for it!!
[Post New]06/16/2013 10:27
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Anonymous wrote: Are you depressed Op? I get a sense of sadness in your posts. Maybe a therapist is a good way to go. But until you can get in to see a therapist, are there any groups or classes in your area?


OP here. I do see a therapist. A very good one. I am putting myself out there, a lot. I go to meetup groups, other social groups. But people are "crazy busy" and don't have time for me. They already have all the friends they need. It's very discouraging. Same thing at work.
[Post New]06/16/2013 13:47
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Op, if you find a nanny that meets your needs, go for it. I completely understand your situation. I also think as you go and do things with your baby, you will find other parents in the same situation and you will make friends that way.
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