Anyone get a nanny more as a companion for themselves?

[Anonymous]

I think if you are compatible, a friendship is a natural byproduct of mb nanny relationships. Especially if you are spending a lot of time together. I am no longer a nanny, but I worked with two families over my career -- both 3+years, and I am still friends with both mbs. Neither was close in age to me, but my friends have always been older.

[Anonymous]

I think that caring for children is something that is difficult to do alone-- and according to OP-- she is basically a single mom. I went through this while my husband was deployed and I had a newborn-- if she can afford to have someone to share the care of a newborn with- go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You might want to consider a PT nanny for while you are working and then someone that is more of a mother's helper to help out when you are home. You can find someone that is less experienced but wanting to gain more, and she can help out with little things around the house or companionship. I think it might be better to keep that as a separate position so that you can keep the position as long as you feel you need it, but that your work hours are covered by a professional that will probably only be interested in childcare and not companionship with you. You will want that position to be the strongest and last longest, so keep it totally professional.

OP here. I think this is excellent advice. Thanks for your thoughts on this!

[Anonymous]

I was this nanny

7+ yrs later we're still best friends!

I started off babysitting her 2 kids, then moved in after the baby was born.

However, this all happened due to our chemistry. she didn't SEEK this. but nothing wrong with it. However, youll have to find the right person.

[Anonymous]

after the 3rd was born*

[Anonymous]

Use your time wisely - the nanny can help out with things while you spend time scheduling meetups and and trying to connect with new people. You need support. It's freaking hard as hell to have nobody (I know).

[Anonymous]

OP, I can understand but that would be really sad - to be buying a friend.

[Anonymous]

Op... Are you at all religious? I find going to church is great! Lots of support! Esp if you go to the moms group