My MB is 37 and I am 23.. she is like an older sister to me and we do everything together. She didn't hire me to be a friend but it just happened that way. I started as soon as her first baby was born so she was on a long maternity leave..we were always together so we just grew to be close friends.
Good luck OP I hope you find a good fit for your family! |
I think this could work if you are up front about the details of the job. You should not market this as just a nanny job but as a nanny/adult companion position. I know some nannies would not be interested in coming into work just to " hang out" with their boss while other nannies would love it. |
If I, as a mom, met you with your baby and nanny in tow, I would think less of you and ironically, it would turn me off from becoming your friend which is what you say you lack and want. |
Why in the world would you think less of someone with a nanny? |
What kind of pathetic bitch would think that way, much less say it to a pregnant mummy? |
+1 |
Not the PP but I think a lot of women do/would think less of another mom who has her child's nanny tagging along. As a nanny myself I witnessed this first hand when both my mb and I are at the park or when she has me tag along to her mom groups. My mb is oblivious to any of the judgement but I hear/see it all. Women will give the side eye or even make comments like "does she REALLY need a nanny to go with her to the park?" or stuff similar. Women tend to be very catty, snarky, and holier than thou when it comes to a mom using "help" when "she should be doing it herself". |
I am a nanny that knits and sews! It's so funny that you brought that up. |
Ripley's Believe it or not, a pregnant mummy! How can this be? |
OP, I think that wanting a nanny to help keep you company is not really the best idea. Many more experienced nannies (who would have the skill set to help you learn the baby care basics) would shy away from what you want because it would be very hard to maintain any sort of boundaries and keep the employer/nanny relationship professional.
I would suggest that you look into seeking out friends through local MeetUp groups (sewing, knitting, book club, new moms, expectant moms, almost anything that piques your interest) and through networking in your OB's office and other places where you meet other new moms or moms-to-be. Maybe you will even meet a mom who is also returning to work PT after her baby is born and is interested in a nanny share with you! |
Hi Op!
I was a nanny for a mom who needed a friend! It didn't start off that way but we had a lot of the same opinions on life stuff! There were many days we would sit and chat all afternoon! It was great! I was there to help her! We worked well as a team! ![]() |
Or she's British... |
This is awesome! Good for OP so she won't be fooled into thinking you're a good friend. Please keep your attitude so we all can stay away from cunts like you. |
OP, people often thought MB and I were a lesbian couple who had adopted the kids. It was so funny to see all the comments and frowns wherever we were. |
Listen to nannydeb, OP. She's right on this. |