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[Post New]05/25/2013 07:48
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Anonymous
how much do you pay your live-in?
[Post New]05/25/2013 08:12
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jerrica5615

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Maybe she doesn't like you ? maybe you don't pay enough? maybe she works more hours and isn't compensated for them. When I was a live-in I worked for a family that expected a lot of housework out of me, but as I got older and gained more experience, I noticed families that hired me did not expect as much housework and only cared about me focusing on the child. But...now that I look back, I wish I would have just looked for a family to work for who didn't care so much about the housework aspect.

Sometimes when you're young, people tend to take advantage and go over board with the housework thing. After 8 months I couldn't take it anymore so I quit . I just wasn't comfortable working for those people. They never thanked me for all my hard work. The MB was so selfish. She was the type of person to take over any conversation and turn it into sonething about her.

I felt self conscious about sitting , like they are watching me and wondering why I am sitting down to eat. I found a different type of job with different more caring people that I felt happier about. Try to realize it may also be you. Not all people are a joy to work for...but that doesn't mean you have to be stuck with them forever.
[Post New]05/25/2013 09:00
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Anonymous
OP may be a pain to work for and that would totally justify nanny quitting. It would not justify the type of sloth and lack of interest in the kids that OP has described.
[Post New]05/25/2013 09:33
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Anonymous
OP, your nanny sounds either lazy or uninterested in your job. I think you should let her go and find a nanny who wishes to be engaged with your kids and does the common work of a nanny.
[Post New]05/26/2013 13:13
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nannydebsays

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And OP, when you do start the process to find a new nanny, ask her how she would handle the morning issues you are having!

Also, it's not only important to tell nanny she is in charge, but also tell your KIDS nanny is in charge, and that they are to go to her first.

Good luck in finding a nanny who is professional AND proactive.
[Post New]05/26/2013 15:32
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Anonymous
jerrica5615 wrote:Maybe she doesn't like you ? maybe you don't pay enough? maybe she works more hours and isn't compensated for them. When I was a live-in I worked for a family that expected a lot of housework out of me, but as I got older and gained more experience, I noticed families that hired me did not expect as much housework and only cared about me focusing on the child. But...now that I look back, I wish I would have just looked for a family to work for who didn't care so much about the housework aspect.

Sometimes when you're young, people tend to take advantage and go over board with the housework thing. After 8 months I couldn't take it anymore so I quit . I just wasn't comfortable working for those people. They never thanked me for all my hard work. The MB was so selfish. She was the type of person to take over any conversation and turn it into sonething about her.

I felt self conscious about sitting , like they are watching me and wondering why I am sitting down to eat. I found a different type of job with different more caring people that I felt happier about. Try to realize it may also be you. Not all people are a joy to work for...but that doesn't mean you have to be stuck with them forever.



So you just sat around at your jobs and waited for instruction without having any initiative? Because that is what OP was describing her nanny as doing. If this does not describe you, then your experience is irrelevant.
[Post New]05/26/2013 16:15
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Anonymous
As mentioned before, it's tough to find a nanny who will obey your every desire, yet be "proactive". Some parents find this hard to comprehend.
[Post New]05/26/2013 19:22
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:As mentioned before, it's tough to find a nanny who will obey your every desire, yet be "proactive". Some parents find this hard to comprehend.


OP does not appear to be one of these parents.
[Post New]05/26/2013 19:30
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As mentioned before, it's tough to find a nanny who will obey your every desire, yet be "proactive". Some parents find this hard to comprehend.


OP does not appear to be one of these parents.

16:15 here. I agree.
[Post New]05/26/2013 19:54
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Anonymous
Sounds like she's just not a good fit. There are more proactive nannies - usually the ones with more experience
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