Nannies being micromanaged...
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Anonymous
| Nannies out there? Do you sometimes feel you can't breathe & exactly follow what the parents want for their children? What are the signs that you are being micromanaged and will you ever think about quitting? |
Anonymous
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Sounds like a spin-off from another thread...
I don't tolerate micro-management. If they want to have a newbie to train, they don't want me. |
Anonymous
| No, I am particular about discussing this at the interview stage to make sure it isn't an issue that will crop up and it hasn't (since my first position, which was a learning experience in more than one way). |
Anonymous
| MB is on maternity leave and basically acts as if I'm a moron, micromanaging everything. I'm putting up with it, because in 2 months she will be back at work for nice long 12hr days and I won't have to see or hear from her. |
Anonymous
| It's so crazy what some mb's do to feel like they're being the primary caregiver, even when they aren't. |
Anonymous
More importantly, they are incapable of doing so. |
Anonymous
It's pretty sad, but true for many mb's; they've never held a baby before they had one. What does that say for the future of humanity, as we've known it? |
Anonymous
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Leaving aside the drama, PPs, what exactly do you mean by micromanaging? What does it look like? What does an environment look like that isn't what you'd would call micromanaging?
Nannies love to complain about micromanaging, but no one defines it. |
Anonymous
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Nannies tend to confuse direction and accountability with being micromanaged.
OP, it is quite possible that your micromanaging mom just never realized before how you do certain things, because she is not on site to manage you. Now that she sees your work style on a daily basis, she may be finding certain aspects of your performance disappointing and/or inconsistent with her values. There are many ways to care for children, and the fact that you do this for a living doesn't make your way the better way. And the rest of you posters commenting that MBs don't know how to raise kids truly sound like morons. Really? You're comfortable making that statement without knowing OP, her MB, or what kind of direction the OP is complaining about? Impressive critical thinking skills there. Way to improve the standing of your profession. OP, MB is your boss. She is the primary caregiver for her children, and you are essentially her administrative assistant when it comes to raising her kids. She is absolutely entitled to tell you what she wants done and how she wants you to do it. Of course, if you really think your way is better instead of just easier, you should explain your thinking to her. But waiting til she goes back to work so you can slack off again just makes you a lame, lazy employee. |
Anonymous
| I dealt with it for 6 months and quit. NEVER AGAIN will I work with a parent who is home. |
Anonymous
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Defining:
Mb would tell me DAILY when to change diapers, feed, put down to nap, go on a walk, etc. I already knew the schedule. It was the same daily. I had to log every single thing and she remind me to log every single day. I nicely tried to remind her I FUCKING KNEW WHAT TO DO but she didn't listen. She would be 5 feet away when I was on my break eating lunch (nap time). She would tell me when I should grab a book, go take them on the porch, etc. 99% of the time for 6 months. I ran away so fucking fast & IM HAPPY! I miss the babies but never again. |
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Micromanagement (in virtually any job) means that your boss doesn't want to (or can't) do the job themselves, but they feel 110% sure that they know the best way TO do the job they don't want/can't do, and they are constantly in your face about how you are doing things all wrong.
Generally speaking, if the micromanager had to do the job he/she doesn't want to do/can't do, all hell would break loose and they would lose their minds. And yes, this applies to the office boss who just KNOWS the best way to write a sales report, or produce a power point project, or delegate tasks to people. |
Anonymous
PP didn't say anything about slacking off, she said she's looking forward to being able to do her job again without a constant running commentary/direction. Yeah, there's more than one way to put on a diaper, but if what works for MB is different from what works for nanny, why is that a problem? There's more than one position to get kids dressed in, more than one way to feed them lunch (on a plate? on a tray? a few pieces at a time or all at once?) and none of these things are such important, value-laden issues that it warrants MB dictating how it should be done. It demeans the nanny whose job it is to handle these tasks when you assume her way doesn't work just as well as yours. They give the same advice to moms who are watching their husbands learn how to handle/play with their kids: "Remember that dads do things differently and that's okay!" Right? I read that in all the parenting books. Same goes for grandma, nanny, and babysitter. If it isn't a safety or hygiene issue and it isn't an issue of values (courtesy perhaps?), I don't see why MB needs to be overseeing the daily minutia. |
Anonymous
| MBs typically have very limited experience with early childhood development, so the smart ones want an experienced professional nanny to teach them. |
Anonymous
With smaller families and the decline in babysitting, this is not surprising. How many DBs have held a newborn before their own? Everyone has to start somewhere! |