Nannies being micromanaged...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A nanny is a caregiver, but not a primary caregiver. A parent is a primary caregiver. Get it right.

When I spend 6 days out of 7 from wake time to bed time with my charge and his parents are only home on Sundays...I am the primary caregiver. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A nanny is a caregiver, but not a primary caregiver. A parent is a primary caregiver. Get it right.

When I spend 6 days out of 7 from wake time to bed time with my charge and his parents are only home on Sundays...I am the primary caregiver. Sorry.

That's sad, for both you and the child.

[Anonymous]

Caregiving means giving care, for the one poster who is wallowing in serious denial.

[Anonymous]

Parents and nannies are caregivers. If the nanny spends more time with the child she is in fact the primary caregiver. It doesn't diminish your importance or your role which is PROVIDOR, but if the only time you spend with your child is on the weekends (and some not even that) you are not the primary caregiver. I think some of you take such great offense to this fact because you're taking it to mean you are not the most important, but in this case primary simply means the person doing most of the caregiving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents and nannies are caregivers. If the nanny spends more time with the child she is in fact the primary caregiver. It doesn't diminish your importance or your role which is PROVIDOR, but if the only time you spend with your child is on the weekends (and some not even that) you are not the primary caregiver. I think some of you take such great offense to this fact because you're taking it to mean you are not the most important, but in this case primary simply means the person doing most of the caregiving.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

I keep an incredibly detailed log for my employers - mealtimes and food eaten, diaper changes, nap times (all with space for notes - how long it took him to fall asleep after he went into his crib, whether he was picky about eating vegetables that day, and so on) plus three additional sections: one is for a summary of our day, one is a space for any physical or health concerns (where I put notes about bumps and bruises acquired), and one is a description of the child's mood that day (cranky, talkative, energetic, clingy).

Is this a lot of information? Yes.

Is it all necessary? Probably not.

Does it make me feel like I am accountable and does it make his parents feel like they are involved and informed? YES.

It also saves us from any uncomfortableness ("Uh, Nanny, do you know where this big bruise came from...?") and ensures that we have a record of any issues (a few days of clingy/weepy baby tends to indicate a new tooth coming in, a couple days without BMs and we know it's time to break out the mango and prune juice, and so on). I know a lot of nannies get up in arms about keeping detailed logs but I think it benefits me as much as it does his parents.

Oh my god. I'm a parent and would run screaming from a nanny who wanted to do all this. All our nanny needs to do is tell us DD took a face-plant at the playground today for us to figure out why she's a little clingy or has some bruises. I don't need to know how many minutes it took DD to fall asleep or if she was picky about eating something. If there's a problem, the nanny will let us know. I don't need to know the minute details.

[Anonymous]

Nannies are only around for a few years. Parents are involved for the child's whole life. Parents are primary caregivers. Nannies are very important assistants. They are, in no way, as important or significant as parents. You nannies who call yourselves primary caregivers are delusional.

[Anonymous]

I believe that I was micromanaged. I will give you a few examples. The baby that I cared for had a baptism a few weeks ago. The next day he was extra tired. This happens!!! He fell asleep in the highchair after he ate. I tried to wake him up and he woke for a minute but then put his head on my shoulder. It was 11:50. He usually goes down at 12:30. The mom got upset when I told her that he went down early. She said you must have left him and thats why he fell asleep. I know my son. The next day she acted like nothing happened and we started the day great. Then it came time for his nap. I put him down at 12:25 because of her reaction to the previous day. He slept for about 1 hour. Then he woke up and was crying which is common for him. I called her because regular procedures weren't working, check diaper, put extra layer on him, wrap him in blanket etc, give him his binky. She has a camera in the nursery which I knew about. She asked if he was crying. I said yes and by the time we hung up he had settled down for a minute. The next thing I know grandpa showed up at the door. Grandpa held him and he quieted down and had stopped crying. She called him and said that she was coming home. Then she called me and said that he never cries like this. I am coming home. You can leave. Basically, accusing me of doing something to him although she didn't say it. That night the husband called me and said that we wont need your services anymore. I was fired! Babies cry for many reasons which sometimes we don't know. He was 4 months old. Maybe his ears were bothering him, etc. What do you think????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe that I was micromanaged. I will give you a few examples. The baby that I cared for had a baptism a few weeks ago. The next day he was extra tired. This happens!!! He fell asleep in the highchair after he ate. I tried to wake him up and he woke for a minute but then put his head on my shoulder. It was 11:50. He usually goes down at 12:30. The mom got upset when I told her that he went down early. She said you must have left him and thats why he fell asleep. I know my son. The next day she acted like nothing happened and we started the day great. Then it came time for his nap. I put him down at 12:25 because of her reaction to the previous day. He slept for about 1 hour. Then he woke up and was crying which is common for him. I called her because regular procedures weren't working, check diaper, put extra layer on him, wrap him in blanket etc, give him his binky. She has a camera in the nursery which I knew about. She asked if he was crying. I said yes and by the time we hung up he had settled down for a minute. The next thing I know grandpa showed up at the door. Grandpa held him and he quieted down and had stopped crying. She called him and said that she was coming home. Then she called me and said that he never cries like this. I am coming home. You can leave. Basically, accusing me of doing something to him although she didn't say it. That night the husband called me and said that we wont need your services anymore. I was fired! Babies cry for many reasons which sometimes we don't know. He was 4 months old. Maybe his ears were bothering him, etc. What do you think????

They had better do their own babysitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are only around for a few years. Parents are involved for the child's whole life. Parents are primary caregivers. Nannies are very important assistants. They are, in no way, as important or significant as parents. You nannies who call yourselves primary caregivers are delusional.

Please explain how you're "involved," when you aren't there much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are only around for a few years. Parents are involved for the child's whole life. Parents are primary caregivers. Nannies are very important assistants. They are, in no way, as important or significant as parents. You nannies who call yourselves primary caregivers are delusional.

Please explain how you're "involved," when you aren't there much.

Oh yeah, you review the log every night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are only around for a few years. Parents are involved for the child's whole life. Parents are primary caregivers. Nannies are very important assistants. They are, in no way, as important or significant as parents. You nannies who call yourselves primary caregivers are delusional.

Please explain how you're "involved," when you aren't there much.

Oh yeah, you review the log every night.

Are you trying to get yourself out of a job? If you keep trying to make parents feel guilty for working and they actually listen to you and quit their jobs to stay home you will be out of a job. Or maybe it's the anonymity of this forum that makes you feel like a big important person by being a bully and putting down other people's choices. Not every parents who WOH is not "involved" or not "there much."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Nannies are only around for a few years. Parents are involved for the child's whole life. Parents are primary caregivers. Nannies are very important assistants. They are, in no way, as important or significant as parents. You nannies who call yourselves primary caregivers are delusional.

Please explain how you're "involved," when you aren't there much.

Oh yeah, you review the log every night.

Trolling to start a fight on an old thread. Good luck with that. Most thinking people understand the difference between nannies and parents. Nannies are very important for the time they are involved in a child's life, but a parent is the primary caregiver and the one raising the child for the child's entire life. Apples and oranges. Not the same at all.