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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nannies tend to confuse direction and accountability with being micromanaged.

OP, it is quite possible that your micromanaging mom just never realized before how you do certain things, because she is not on site to manage you.  Now that she sees your work style on a daily basis, she may be finding certain aspects of your performance disappointing and/or inconsistent with her values.  There are many ways to care for children, and the fact that you do this for a living doesn't make your way the better way.

And the rest of you posters commenting that MBs don't know how to raise kids truly sound like morons.  Really?  You're comfortable making that statement without knowing OP, her MB, or what kind of direction the OP is complaining about?  Impressive critical thinking skills there.  Way to improve the standing of your profession.

OP, MB is your boss.  She is the primary caregiver for her children, and you are essentially her administrative assistant when it comes to raising her kids.  She is absolutely entitled to tell you what she wants done and how she wants you to do it.  Of course, if you really think your way is better instead of just easier, you should explain your thinking to her.  But waiting til she goes back to work so you can slack off again just makes you a lame, lazy employee.   [/quote]

PP didn't say anything about slacking off, she said she's looking forward to being able to do her job again without a constant running commentary/direction.

Yeah, there's more than one way to put on a diaper, but if what works for MB is different from what works for nanny, why is that a problem? There's more than one position to get kids dressed in, more than one way to feed them lunch (on a plate? on a tray? a few pieces at a time or all at once?) and none of these things are such important, value-laden issues that it warrants MB dictating how it should be done. It demeans the nanny whose job it is to handle these tasks when you assume her way doesn't work just as well as yours.

They give the same advice to moms who are watching their husbands learn how to handle/play with their kids: "Remember that dads do things differently and that's okay!" Right? I read that in all the parenting books. Same goes for grandma, nanny, and babysitter. If it isn't a safety or hygiene issue and it isn't an issue of values (courtesy perhaps?), I don't see why MB needs to be overseeing the daily minutia. [/quote]

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