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FWIW we live in dc metro area, walkable to metro and bus, and have never given our au pairs a car. We have one car in the family that’s shared among three adults and it has worked out just fine.
Yes to emphasis on having another family member. Just like having kids, it’s extremely gratifying when it works but can be extremely taxing as well. It seems like a lot of families go this route because it’s cheaper and more flexible than a nanny but don’t fully think through what it will be like to have another young adult living with you. We have loved the program overall but very much entered in with the understanding of our responsibilities as not just bosses, but host mom and dad. Clearly communicated expectations are a must!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband works from home and laughed and said there is no such thing as rerouting or reprogramming a wireless internet router.
Your husband has no clue. We have all kinds of gadgets that control the internet, and my husband can shut it off with an app.
I know this comment is so unrelated but why use an app? Why not just unplug the router manually? It just seems odd to utilize an app when it is quicker to just unplug something right then and there.
We use it to block kids. Our home phone, camera, and other things use WiFi.
If someone had told me watching young kids at a zoo, aquarium, museum, etc. was my birthday present (even if I was being financially compensated for it) I would have just laughed and demanded a homebaked birthday cake afterwards.
I reread the original post and I didn’t read anything where the father boss told this nanny in no uncertain terms to not turn on the tv.
So I do not understand why people are pointing their finger toward her. ??
But this IS DCUM and people are always placing blame on ops.
But even if this nanny wasn’t supposed to turn on the tv, the father boss should be mature enough to tell his nanny directly that the tv is not allowed while the kid(s) is awake or whatever.
I personally think intentionally shutting off the WiFi so the tv will not operate is psycho behavior.
ESP for a man.
It’s like unplugging something then acting like something became unplugged on its own!?
So I do not understand why people are pointing their finger toward her. ??
But this IS DCUM and people are always placing blame on ops.
But even if this nanny wasn’t supposed to turn on the tv, the father boss should be mature enough to tell his nanny directly that the tv is not allowed while the kid(s) is awake or whatever.
I personally think intentionally shutting off the WiFi so the tv will not operate is psycho behavior.
ESP for a man.
It’s like unplugging something then acting like something became unplugged on its own!?
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Were you paid for watching the kids?
Were you paid for watching the kids?
I thought he deported her because he couldn't handle how much he wanted her any longer.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny here.
Sorry but I won't be on your side.
You're not respectful of his wishes.
He told you he doesn't want the tv on when you're there ... so why do you do it ?
You can do it when he's not working from home since the mom doesn't care so much ...
I've always respected my bosses when I was a live-in or live-out nanny. Even if I didn't agree.
I do the dishes when the children are napping and then I can have some time to myself to relax with a cup of coffee.
PP from above here-So this gives OP’s dad boss the right to intentionally turn off the wi-fi?? Then to lie about it and deny he did it on purpose? I cannot believe a nanny would be ok with being lied to on the job. Respect needs to be imparted from an employer and outright lying is a clear sign of it being nonexistent in this case……
It's passive agressive from him to intentionallly turn off the wi fi but his nanny is also being dishonest by turning the tv on after being told not to.
As I've said, as a nanny I've always respected the parents wishes, so something like that wouldn't happen to me.
I have worked for liars though and this is another topic because I was a good nanny and I didn't appreciated being lied to.
I once was given something similar.
A past nanny family (nf) included me in a weekend trip to stay on their boat for two nights.
They told me it was a surprise birthday gift but I had to watch three kids on Sat/Sun for 8 hours each day so when I didn’t have them with me I was automatically spent.
A past nanny family (nf) included me in a weekend trip to stay on their boat for two nights.
They told me it was a surprise birthday gift but I had to watch three kids on Sat/Sun for 8 hours each day so when I didn’t have them with me I was automatically spent.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband works from home and laughed and said there is no such thing as rerouting or reprogramming a wireless internet router.
Your husband has no clue. We have all kinds of gadgets that control the internet, and my husband can shut it off with an app.
I know this comment is so unrelated but why use an app? Why not just unplug the router manually? It just seems odd to utilize an app when it is quicker to just unplug something right then and there.
Anonymous wrote:My husband works from home and laughed and said there is no such thing as rerouting or reprogramming a wireless internet router.
Your husband has no clue. We have all kinds of gadgets that control the internet, and my husband can shut it off with an app.
Whatever happened with this?
Ha! We had 3 au pairs. All in the DMV also expect a car that they can use whenever they want.
Anonymous wrote:An au pair is not cheaper. For us, it is more flexible, which is why we prefer this arrangement. In addition to the agency fees and weekly stipend (which is a minimum requirement, we pay more), you are responsible for:
- cell service
- groceries for a full grown adult
- car insurance if AP is driving
- transportation to/from monthly cluster meetings with LCC
- transportation to/from airport when she arrives and departs
- education costs up to $500 each year
- transportation to/from education classes
Those are the minimums. But as a GOOD host family, we also:
- order her take out when we as a family are eating take out
- invite her out to eat with us when we are out as a family
- invite her to accompany us on some family vacations, where we cover flight, extra room, all food, etc.
- birthday and holiday gifts
All of this adds up because you're supporting a fully grown adult in your home. So on top of making sure you are okay with sharing your home and your family life with someone, please make sure your expectations are aligned with what it takes to be a good host family.
Anonymous wrote:My husband works from home and laughed and said there is no such thing as rerouting or reprogramming a wireless internet router.
^^i have never heard of this either.
What does this even mean???????
The only thing people do to their routers is possibly move them to another location, such as to another room in the house.
An WiFi outage is very unlikely, especially more than 1x.
Some “gift.”
Haha
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