Anonymous wrote:Yeah that’s not a good present.
My NF paid for memberships to the science center and aquarium for me so I could take the kids as part of my day with them.

Anonymous wrote:So it was my birthday about two weeks ago and my employer (NF) had been talking about taking me to the local amusement park in our area for a week prior.
She had been telling the kids that we would be celebrating my special day at this park and told me how exciting it would be!
Well on my birthday the kids and I were driven to this park by the father. He paid my admission to enter and told me Happy Birthday and that this was his birthday present for me. I thanked him graciously.
Well he then stated that he actually was called into work that day and after dropping me and the kids off inside he left and promised to pick us all up three hours later at the exit gate which he did.
When I later told a few of my Nanny friends how nice it was that my DB paid for me to enter this amusement park for my birthday they laughed and told me that that was what employers always do when their nanny takes her charges somewhere.
One Nanny told me she had an annual zoo pass paid for by her employers since part of her job was taking her charge to the zoo weekly.
They told me a real present would have been if I could have spent the entire day there, more than three hours without having small kids in tow!

Did my employer think I am dumb?
Or am I just ungrateful?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah that’s not a good present.
My NF paid for memberships to the science center and aquarium for me so I could take the kids as part of my day with them.

Yes a family does typically pay for the nanny’s way if she will accompany the child(ren) inside a venue.

So your boss needs to do better.
So much better.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So it was my birthday about two weeks ago and my employer (NF) had been talking about taking me to the local amusement park in our area for a week prior.
She had been telling the kids that we would be celebrating my special day at this park and told me how exciting it would be!
Well on my birthday the kids and I were driven to this park by the father. He paid my admission to enter and told me Happy Birthday and that this was his birthday present for me. I thanked him graciously.
Well he then stated that he actually was called into work that day and after dropping me and the kids off inside he left and promised to pick us all up three hours later at the exit gate which he did.
When I later told a few of my Nanny friends how nice it was that my DB paid for me to enter this amusement park for my birthday they laughed and told me that that was what employers always do when their nanny takes her charges somewhere.
One Nanny told me she had an annual zoo pass paid for by her employers since part of her job was taking her charge to the zoo weekly.
They told me a real present would have been if I could have spent the entire day there, more than three hours without having small kids in tow!

Did my employer think I am dumb?
Or am I just ungrateful?

It sounds like you weren't bothered about this gift until your friends made fun of you. Why do you think your employers think you're dumb? Was it a great gift? No, not at all. It's something that should be standard for a nanny to receive. But that doesn't make you dumb. Being appreciative of a special outing isn't dumb.