Can I ask my nanny to handle housekeeping?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find the PP’s comment that a Nanny who provides childcare ONLY is an EXTREME Nanny.

????

Isn’t that what a Nanny IS??!
So if a Nanny does not do any laundry or unload any dishes from the dishwasher, then she is an Extremist?

This is such a weird, goofy comment.

Your post doesn't make sense. She's saying adding on lots of chores can create stress. I think this is something employer's overlook. Many nannies will not speak up about stress and they stay in this field because it's easy money.

This person nailed it. I used to nanny years ago and this is spot on. Lots of nannies are burnt out. Go to the parenting forum to see how stressful being with young children can be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think asking her to cook for you is way outside a nanny's job description. Emptying the dishwasher is really pushing it. I don't see anything wrong with accepting packages.

Are you a nanny? Our nanny does our grocery shopping, cooks, and will empty the dishwasher if it gets run while she's there. That wasn't part of her job when the kids were babies, but became part of it once they got older and started going to preschool (so she was alone for part of the day). She only cooked for the kids before they went to school, now she'll cook things for all of us. She does like to cook, and we discussed whether this was something she'd be willing to do, but to say that emptying the dishwasher is outside the scope of things a nanny could do is crazy to me.

Same here. Kid sleeps twice a day so she cooks cleans and rests then.

Ask your nanny point blank what she intends to do during the four hours of naps and how open you are to her ideas of how she can help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are looking to hire a nanny for our infant. We need a nanny 3 days a week for 33 hours. We will be offering $23 hour net, 4 weeks paid vacation, 5 paid sick days, paid holidays, guaranteed hours, and a stipend for health insurance. We expect the nanny to handle baby housekeeping but also want her to handle emptying the dishwasher, receiving groceries and packages, and throwing a recipe in the crock pot 1-2 times a week. Is it unreasonable to ask?

It’s always reasonable to ask. The nanny may say no, and you may lose the candidate you want (or have to make other concessions), but the ask itself is completely reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are looking to hire a nanny for our infant. We need a nanny 3 days a week for 33 hours. We will be offering $23 hour net, 4 weeks paid vacation, 5 paid sick days, paid holidays, guaranteed hours, and a stipend for health insurance. We expect the nanny to handle baby housekeeping but also want her to handle emptying the dishwasher, receiving groceries and packages, and throwing a recipe in the crock pot 1-2 times a week. Is it unreasonable to ask?

It’s always reasonable to ask. The nanny may say no, and you may lose the candidate you want (or have to make other concessions), but the ask itself is completely reasonable.

Should we ask the secretary to clean the office toilets?

[Anonymous]

Should we ask the secretary to clean the office toilets?

Sure, if we ask her up front and agree on an elevated rate. Why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Should we ask the secretary to clean the office toilets?

Sure, if we ask her up front and agree on an elevated rate. Why not?

Perhaps ask her to wipe your ass, while you're at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Should we ask the secretary to clean the office toilets?

Sure, if we ask her up front and agree on an elevated rate. Why not?

I know, right? Haven't you ever seen scrubs first pp? When JD tells the janitor "I can do your job, but you can't do mine?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Should we ask the secretary to clean the office toilets?

Sure, if we ask her up front and agree on an elevated rate. Why not?

Perhaps ask her to wipe your ass, while you're at it.

Not my ass, my kids ass. And can we please stop pretending that dealing with the toilet is not part of the job of caring for a two year old?

[Anonymous]

You will not find an educated, experienced and dedicated nanny who will do housework.

You can find a housekeeper who will babysit and call herself a nanny, however.

It all depends on what is important to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will not find an educated, experienced and dedicated nanny who will do housework.

You can find a housekeeper who will babysit and call herself a nanny, however.

It all depends on what is important to you.

One consideration is that not all families can afford both, and the housekeeper/nanny model might free up MB & DB (presumably also educated, experienced, dedicated) to spend more time with their kids. I think it could be worth the trade-off. Also, a nanny whose gets her hackles up about petty chores like unloading the dishwasher in a home in which she also eats/cooks (for the herself and the children) is not a team player and probably not someone who is going to be an asset to the family in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Poster 18:19 is delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will not find an educated, experienced and dedicated nanny who will do housework.

You can find a housekeeper who will babysit and call herself a nanny, however.

It all depends on what is important to you.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will not find an educated, experienced and dedicated nanny who will do housework.

You can find a housekeeper who will babysit and call herself a nanny, however.

It all depends on what is important to you.

One consideration is that not all families can afford both, and the housekeeper/nanny model might free up MB & DB (presumably also educated, experienced, dedicated) to spend more time with their kids. I think it could be worth the trade-off. Also, a nanny whose gets her hackles up about petty chores like unloading the dishwasher in a home in which she also eats/cooks (for the herself and the children) is not a team player and probably not someone who is going to be an asset to the family in the long run.

Anyone who can afford a true teacher/Nanny (college degree, teaching experience) will also have a housekeeper and probably a cook. The teacher/nanny is not affordable to the average nanny family unless they really prioritize education for their child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's a nanny, not your maid or cleaning lady.

Receiving packages is ok, since it's not something you get everyday.
Groceries : NO. Then SHE will have to put the food away.
Cooking for you is NOT ok either.

I disagree.

I’m not a housekeeper, but I am a nanny and to many families that means a third parent. I don’t mind getting groceries, doing light housekeeping (never toilets, sweeping/mopping entire house, windows etc...), and cooking easy meals a couple of times a week. If, and only if, my pay reflects my duties. The more tasks added on, the higher my rate. Also duties are outlined and clear and never will be the majority of my job. Child always comes first. Make sure job creep doesn’t happen and make sure you don’t ignore your weekend duties and pile them on for her on Monday. (I.e. don’t ignore dishes all weekend because nanny will do them Monday. That’s a quick way to lose a nanny.