"I eat everything," she said in the interview...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: You can do you, and I can do me- both are fine. But sharing a dinner table is going to make it difficult for me so it's just not the best match. And that's okay. APs screen for the same. Weight is a lifestyle issue and people with compatible lifestyles are more likely to get along.

So if I have an extra scoop of mashed potatoes and am a size 12 instead of a 6 we can't get along?

We can. But trust me, you don't want to live with me, because I don't make enough for you to have seconds. Not because I'm concerned about you, but because I know the limits of my ability to resist temptation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: for all the people who think I was so mean to this poor girl, she'll be in rematch soon with APIA (for a major safety violation with my kids, which I doubt will be listed on rematch documents). She called for rematch first, because she is so unhappy that I was "mean" to her by reporting the major safety violation to the agency. So good luck with that one-- I am glad to be rid of her!

OP-can you share what the major safety violation was?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: You can do you, and I can do me- both are fine. But sharing a dinner table is going to make it difficult for me so it's just not the best match. And that's okay. APs screen for the same. Weight is a lifestyle issue and people with compatible lifestyles are more likely to get along.

So if I have an extra scoop of mashed potatoes and am a size 12 instead of a 6 we can't get along?

We can. But trust me, you don't want to live with me, because I don't make enough for you to have seconds. Not because I'm concerned about you, but because I know the limits of my ability to resist temptation.

So you also restrict portions of your growing children by not making enough food for seconds if they are still hungry? Just trying to determine the level of your fear of fat and if you'd harm your children to make sure they are never pudgy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: You can do you, and I can do me- both are fine. But sharing a dinner table is going to make it difficult for me so it's just not the best match. And that's okay. APs screen for the same. Weight is a lifestyle issue and people with compatible lifestyles are more likely to get along.

So if I have an extra scoop of mashed potatoes and am a size 12 instead of a 6 we can't get along?

We can. But trust me, you don't want to live with me, because I don't make enough for you to have seconds. Not because I'm concerned about you, but because I know the limits of my ability to resist temptation.

I hope you are setting funds aside for your kids treatment programs for the eating disorders you are engendering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: for all the people who think I was so mean to this poor girl, she'll be in rematch soon with APIA (for a major safety violation with my kids, which I doubt will be listed on rematch documents). She called for rematch first, because she is so unhappy that I was "mean" to her by reporting the major safety violation to the agency. So good luck with that one-- I am glad to be rid of her!

OP-can you share what the major safety violation was?

OP here. So now that she's rematched, I will say that she let my special needs 3-year-olds run in front of a moving school bus. It was horrifying-- the bus honked and screeched to a halt, and I came running out of the garage to see her pulling them back from the street. And then, she didn't understand why her failure to hold their hands was a big deal, and she got mad at *me* for contacting the cluster leader about this and other, previous safety incidents. This was after two weeks of me doing the bus routine with her everyday. She claims this and her other safety violations (like boiling water on the front burner with the handle sticking out where my kids could reach it) are all *cultural differences*. Because her culture allows special needs toddlers to get hit by a bus or boil their faces off.

After that, she had a sulky attitude and barely did anything helpful. The last straw was when I asked her to cut up the thigh and drumstick of a cooked rotisserie chicken for my kids, and she sulked and pouted and pretended to not know which part was the drumstick (her English is perfect, and I was standing right there if she had a question). She just didn't want to do it, because she thinks meat with bones is yucky.

APIA rematched her and no one ever contacted me for a reference. Amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: for all the people who think I was so mean to this poor girl, she'll be in rematch soon with APIA (for a major safety violation with my kids, which I doubt will be listed on rematch documents). She called for rematch first, because she is so unhappy that I was "mean" to her by reporting the major safety violation to the agency. So good luck with that one-- I am glad to be rid of her!

OP-can you share what the major safety violation was?

OP here. So now that she's rematched, I will say that she let my special needs 3-year-olds run in front of a moving school bus. It was horrifying-- the bus honked and screeched to a halt, and I came running out of the garage to see her pulling them back from the street. And then, she didn't understand why her failure to hold their hands was a big deal, and she got mad at *me* for contacting the cluster leader about this and other, previous safety incidents. This was after two weeks of me doing the bus routine with her everyday. She claims this and her other safety violations (like boiling water on the front burner with the handle sticking out where my kids could reach it) are all *cultural differences*. Because her culture allows special needs toddlers to get hit by a bus or boil their faces off.

After that, she had a sulky attitude and barely did anything helpful. The last straw was when I asked her to cut up the thigh and drumstick of a cooked rotisserie chicken for my kids, and she sulked and pouted and pretended to not know which part was the drumstick (her English is perfect, and I was standing right there if she had a question). She just didn't want to do it, because she thinks meat with bones is yucky.

APIA rematched her and no one ever contacted me for a reference. Amazing.

It sounds like you were flagged as a problem family and gave your version of events less credit, as a result.

[Anonymous]

OP again-- the incident was caught on video because the school bus has cameras. There is no other version of this story-- which is why APIA had to lie to rematch her.

[Anonymous]

This is why you always talk to the host family to get their side of the story before taking in a rematch.

Obviously, AP told the new family that you yelled at her, wouldn't accept "cultural differences," and wouldn't feed her.

[Anonymous]

Also that your special needs kids needed more help than an AP could handle. So what you needed was a professional nanny instead of an AP here for "cultural exchange."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again-- the incident was caught on video because the school bus has cameras. There is no other version of this story-- which is why APIA had to lie to rematch her.

I call BS that a school district would give you the camera video without a FOIA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also that your special needs kids needed more help than an AP could handle. So what you needed was a professional nanny instead of an AP here for "cultural exchange."

So if they didn't have special needs, it would be okay to not hold their hands near a moving vehicle and balk at cutting up their dinner? They're 3. I don't know any 3-year-olds who are cutting up their own meat and waiting for the bus without an adult holding their hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: You can do you, and I can do me- both are fine. But sharing a dinner table is going to make it difficult for me so it's just not the best match. And that's okay. APs screen for the same. Weight is a lifestyle issue and people with compatible lifestyles are more likely to get along.

So if I have an extra scoop of mashed potatoes and am a size 12 instead of a 6 we can't get along?

We can. But trust me, you don't want to live with me, because I don't make enough for you to have seconds. Not because I'm concerned about you, but because I know the limits of my ability to resist temptation.

I hope you are setting funds aside for your kids treatment programs for the eating disorders you are engendering.

Just like not all overweight moms are raising their kids to be stars on my 600 pound life, not all healthy weight moms are raising future anorexics. And if you read what I posted carefully, I am not blaming overweight people for being overweight. I'm pointing out that it's largely due to social conditioning that warps perceptions of proper portions, etc. And saying that I want to keep my perception and my kid's perception healthy. I'm not underweight, nor are my kids. It's not like you have to be overweight or disordered. You can be healthy and normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: You can do you, and I can do me- both are fine. But sharing a dinner table is going to make it difficult for me so it's just not the best match. And that's okay. APs screen for the same. Weight is a lifestyle issue and people with compatible lifestyles are more likely to get along.

So if I have an extra scoop of mashed potatoes and am a size 12 instead of a 6 we can't get along?

We can. But trust me, you don't want to live with me, because I don't make enough for you to have seconds. Not because I'm concerned about you, but because I know the limits of my ability to resist temptation.

I hope you are setting funds aside for your kids treatment programs for the eating disorders you are engendering.

Just like not all overweight moms are raising their kids to be stars on my 600 pound life, not all healthy weight moms are raising future anorexics. And if you read what I posted carefully, I am not blaming overweight people for being overweight. I'm pointing out that it's largely due to social conditioning that warps perceptions of proper portions, etc. And saying that I want to keep my perception and my kid's perception healthy. I'm not underweight, nor are my kids. It's not like you have to be overweight or disordered. You can be healthy and normal.

Most children who have eating disorders are beget by mothers with disordered eating - and a “tell” for disordered eating is a lot of shame around food and eating. Shaming others is frequently acting out as an expression of self-hatred. I am sorry you are struggling. You are worthy no matter what your size. Please get help so you do not pass this on to your kids.,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: You can do you, and I can do me- both are fine. But sharing a dinner table is going to make it difficult for me so it's just not the best match. And that's okay. APs screen for the same. Weight is a lifestyle issue and people with compatible lifestyles are more likely to get along.

So if I have an extra scoop of mashed potatoes and am a size 12 instead of a 6 we can't get along?

We can. But trust me, you don't want to live with me, because I don't make enough for you to have seconds. Not because I'm concerned about you, but because I know the limits of my ability to resist temptation.

I hope you are setting funds aside for your kids treatment programs for the eating disorders you are engendering.

Just like not all overweight moms are raising their kids to be stars on my 600 pound life, not all healthy weight moms are raising future anorexics. And if you read what I posted carefully, I am not blaming overweight people for being overweight. I'm pointing out that it's largely due to social conditioning that warps perceptions of proper portions, etc. And saying that I want to keep my perception and my kid's perception healthy. I'm not underweight, nor are my kids. It's not like you have to be overweight or disordered. You can be healthy and normal.

You restrict portions for your growing children. That’s messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: You can do you, and I can do me- both are fine. But sharing a dinner table is going to make it difficult for me so it's just not the best match. And that's okay. APs screen for the same. Weight is a lifestyle issue and people with compatible lifestyles are more likely to get along.

So if I have an extra scoop of mashed potatoes and am a size 12 instead of a 6 we can't get along?

We can. But trust me, you don't want to live with me, because I don't make enough for you to have seconds. Not because I'm concerned about you, but because I know the limits of my ability to resist temptation.

I hope you are setting funds aside for your kids treatment programs for the eating disorders you are engendering.

Just like not all overweight moms are raising their kids to be stars on my 600 pound life, not all healthy weight moms are raising future anorexics. And if you read what I posted carefully, I am not blaming overweight people for being overweight. I'm pointing out that it's largely due to social conditioning that warps perceptions of proper portions, etc. And saying that I want to keep my perception and my kid's perception healthy. I'm not underweight, nor are my kids. It's not like you have to be overweight or disordered. You can be healthy and normal.

You restrict portions for your growing children. That’s messed up.

No, I don't. That would be abuse. But go ahead and keep thinking that everyone who isn't overweight is anorexic or full of self hatred. There is such a thing as the right answer, which is eating as much as your body can metabolize while maintaining a healthy weight. And since we are biologically wired to overeat, that's not easy to do. Especially when people around you have unhealthy eating habits, which distorts your perception of "normal".