"I eat everything," she said in the interview...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to put the two car seats together - one side and one in the middle and give her an end seat at the minimum or you sit back there.

OP here. I would love to sit in the back, if au pair could drive well (which she also can't do nearly as well as she claimed. I doubt she had ANY regular driving experience before she came here, which she wasn't honest about, but none of them are). But she can't drive well (which is why her driving the second car is ALSO a problem in this situation). And my ill family member can't drive and shouldn't try to squeeze into the back (though she offered!). if a frail elderly person is offering to sit between the carseats (to drive to lunch 15 minutes away, not to drive to California), and the au pair balks, then YES, I have a problem with that. There is plenty of room and a seatbelt. And we were taking her out for a free lunch! Do we need to provide an extra car that she can't drive safely to transport her to a free lunch?!

The entitled au pair trolls on this board are ridiculous.

No, its absurd you don't have any consideration for the Au Pair. You can put the two car seats next to each other and she sit on the side. Simple. Are you sure she wants a free lunch? Sounds like she's working and that's not exactly a free lunch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP - just curious - what country is she from? Seems like a very extensive things not to eat but there have been some prior posts about APs with a "white food" type diet - sounds like you've got one of those - kind of like my 3yo! My condolences!

OP here-- I don't want to get too specific, but it's a German-speaking country. Yes, it's basically a "white food" diet. I don't really care if she doesn't eat some things, as long as it doesn't affect me or the kids. But when my kid offered her a green bean yesterday, and she said, "I don't like green beans," it made me feel like I should say something about role modeling at the dinner table. She's also hugely obese (bigger than I expected after Skyping) and doesn't have the slightest clue about nutrition (like, I had to explain to her that Coco Puffs are basically just sugary carbohydrates, and my kids can't just have 2 bowls of them on demand for an afternoon snack).

I know, you are wondering why I chose this one-- frankly, there are numerous aspects of my family (location, culture, chronic illnesses, etc.) that would make a lot of au pairs rule us out, but she was willing to choose us. But I wouldn't choose a fat one again. Way too many issues, from the crazy eating (while also telling me that diet soda is bad for me!) to her complaining that she's "hot" with the temperature set at 65 degrees at night (we turned it to 60 for her, and now my kids are constantly complaining that it's too cold), to her refusing to sit in the middle seat between the car seats (I made her do it anyway, and if she gets too fat to squeeze in there, we're done).

When I read your post I was thinking...MUST be a German! They eat potatoes, meat, and spaghetti with ketsup on it and a ton of junk sugar cereal and sugar yougurt.

We just give ours an extra 30/week to supplement our food. She also does not eat vegetables, seafood, or anything "unusual" like hummus or pistachios. She lives on nutalla, cocopuffs and spaghetti with ketsup.

[Anonymous]

I am French and in France we also eat spaghetti (or any pasta) with ketchup And we add a little shredded swiss cheese on top of that. Well, children mainly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am French and in France we also eat spaghetti (or any pasta) with ketchup And we add a little shredded swiss cheese on top of that. Well, children mainly

Nothing wrong with that, but when you are a grown up and eat primarily white foods with condiments on top, that's a problem, especially when you are living in family and eating family meals with people who eat primarily vegetables, a small amount of meat and complex carbs.

[Anonymous]

This board is so interesting. In one camp, it’s my au pair only eats junk food and refuses to eat vegetables, and in the other camp, it’s my au pair asked for salmon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board is so interesting. In one camp, it’s my au pair only eats junk food and refuses to eat vegetables, and in the other camp, it’s my au pair asked for salmon.

I wish our AuPair would eat seafood. We eat it 2xs a week and she throws us shade over it.

[Anonymous]

Wow... so PC with the "fat shaming" accusations.

HM is welcome to her own opinions and evaluation of AP's diet. Simply don't enable her. Don't buy her the junk and keep serving green beans at dinner. Let your LCC know you have plenty of healthy food in the house and refuse to cater to AP's junk food diet. AP can complain about it or buy her own. You might end up in rematch over greater lifestyle incompatibility or if AP can't keep up with young kids physically or energy levels.

And I can't believe it's not a troll posting about moving the car seats. Not every car can accommodate 2 car seats next to each other by using the middle seat. A real parent knows it's a giant puzzle to figure out what fit and where. AP can choose to remain home because she "doesn't fit" in the car and OP has said she can't drive well enough.

Yes, your AP misrepresented herself to match (i.e., lied). You can get over it or rematch. Find another place to vent because the santimommies are vicious here and there are nannies who entertain themselves in the AP forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board is so interesting. In one camp, it’s my au pair only eats junk food and refuses to eat vegetables, and in the other camp, it’s my au pair asked for salmon.

We had that happen to us---but the AP said she would eat whatever we ate, but our salmon wasn't good enough for her.

[Anonymous]

Our AP is a white only eater. She's stuffing terrible in our home. I WFH which gives me pleanty of time to cook healthy. We have almost no convenience food in the home. She eats no fruit or veggies. I kind of figure that's her problem. I give her a food allowance to buy whatever she wants above and beyond what we have on the home of $25/wk. Live on bread and frosted flakes for all I care. Not my body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New Poster here. Fat is not healthy. And we are a healthy family. We are not super thin, but we are in no way fat. Give it another month, then try again with a rematch.

can she keep up with the kids?

You felt the need to randomly come in and share this because...?

[Anonymous]

11:26, it has nothing to do with "PC". I know Fox News et all thinks that means "anything I don't personally like the sound of" but nope
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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New Poster here. Fat is not healthy. And we are a healthy family. We are not super thin, but we are in no way fat. Give it another month, then try again with a rematch.

can she keep up with the kids?

I'm fat (size 16-18). And I can run a half marathon, have zero health problems at 45 years old, and can definitely keep up with my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New Poster here. Fat is not healthy. And we are a healthy family. We are not super thin, but we are in no way fat. Give it another month, then try again with a rematch.

can she keep up with the kids?

I'm fat (size 16-18). And I can run a half marathon, have zero health problems at 45 years old, and can definitely keep up with my kids.

Yea, sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New Poster here. Fat is not healthy. And we are a healthy family. We are not super thin, but we are in no way fat. Give it another month, then try again with a rematch.

can she keep up with the kids?

Healthy (especially healthy eating!) and fat are not synonymous.

I’m overweight, but my sodium, triglycerides, etc run low. I’m hypoglycemic, polar opposite of diabetic. And not only am I capable of keeping up with kids, I am physically capable of carrying a child (up to ~85 pounds) up two flights of stairs, and I do it frequently.

Fat shaming is totally unnecessary. OP’s AP eats crap food, which is not what was advertised. OP should move the car seats together and give AP the window. Those have both been addressed.

[Anonymous]

Although I have never been obese, I have been both normal weight and overweight (my BMI now is right on the edge but I’ve been 15 pounds heaver than I am now) and have been much healthier at a higher weight. I used to smoke and skip meals to stay thin. My favorite dinner was 2 glasses of wine on an empty stomach. I never exercised. You might call me fat but I can probably outrun and bench press the thin me.