Au pair -- indentured servitude or cultural exchange

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its better to find tofether a positive solution to this then if you people want to help instead of doing destruction.

You CHOSE to have child(ren) and caring for them is YOUR problem. Under no circumstances should a young woman (or man) from a foreign country be a live-in for minimum wage and I do not care that you have you pay the agency. It is still cheap childcare/maid service for you or you wouldn't be using this program.

Overhaul program with US labor laws applicable or do away with it altogether.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope Trump and Tillerson kill the au pair program dead, dead, dead.

Only Americans gets the best out of this. Sad. But Its nice to see kind Americans treating very nice to thier Aupairs.

Lmao wasnt Trump's wife a foreigner and came to this country with a work visa or aupair and with a work permit plan snd got inmediatly a permanent residence from Trump?
Lol hypocrites, look at yourself in the mirror.

Not sure why only Americans get the best out of this program when virtually every developed country has this program and Americans sometimes ARE the Au pairs. I’ve met American Au pairs overseas; it’s a great program. Obama’s mom was an Au pair. BTW, the US pays its Au pairs the most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope Trump and Tillerson kill the au pair program dead, dead, dead.

Only Americans gets the best out of this. Sad. But Its nice to see kind Americans treating very nice to thier Aupairs.

Lmao wasnt Trump's wife a foreigner and came to this country with a work visa or aupair and with a work permit plan snd got inmediatly a permanent residence from Trump?
Lol hypocrites, look at yourself in the mirror.

Not sure why only Americans get the best out of this program when virtually every developed country has this program and Americans sometimes ARE the Au pairs. I’ve met American Au pairs overseas; it’s a great program. Obama’s mom was an Au pair. BTW, the US pays its Au pairs the most.

Imo it's mostly exploitation of young naive women (usually) who typically can't afford to travel on their own.

I can see what I see. These girls are afraid to report their abusers because they don't want to experience the shame of getting "sent home" as a failure.

There simply isn't much incentive for the agencies to do the required work to search for a successful re-match. The 14-day limit isn't enough time. It's more profitable to send home the victimized (whistleblower) au pair, and get the abusive family a brand new au pair.

And yes, sometimes these girls are getting sexually assaulted by the man in the house when his wife isn't home.

[Anonymous]

Another horror story of the abuse endured by au pairs and agencies doing nothing to help.

http://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2017/03/au-pair-program-abuse-state-department-214956

[Anonymous]

I don't know what it's for sure, all I know that these girls are taking employment from qualify nannies who are seeking meaningful employment. I lose a well paying job to one. I was told by my employers that they couldn't afford me. However, I am beginning to believe it was more my age than anything else. When I was told of my employment coming to an end I started calling and asking around to find another job. I've gone on may interviews and no one would hire me. They have given me all kind of excuses to why they don't find me employable but none could say to my face, it's my age...because of lawsuits I was told....I wish one was bold enough to tell me the truth as my friends have. My work history is impeccable, I've always aimed to do the best job possible and I believed I have done an excellent job with all the families I had the opportunity to worked with. Someone says it's time to pack away my working shoes. However as for me I am not ready just yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know what it's for sure, all I know that these girls are taking employment from qualify nannies who are seeking meaningful employment. I lose a well paying job to one. I was told by my employers that they couldn't afford me. However, I am beginning to believe it was more my age than anything else. When I was told of my employment coming to an end I started calling and asking around to find another job. I've gone on may interviews and no one would hire me. They have given me all kind of excuses to why they don't find me employable but none could say to my face, it's my age...because of lawsuits I was told....I wish one was bold enough to tell me the truth as my friends have. My work history is impeccable, I've always aimed to do the best job possible and I believed I have done an excellent job with all the families I had the opportunity to worked with. Someone says it's time to pack away my working shoes. However as for me I am not ready just yet.

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

When I was au pair ages ago I felt I was cheap labor. I think many families use au pairs first because it’s flexible childcare and while I know many families do understand the cultural exchange aspect my family didn’t care about where I came from, what culture and such.

[Anonymous]

I was an au pair years ago, and a nanny as wel. I am now a mom to 3 and have hosted 3 au pairs. We treat our aps like family and each of them has told us repeatedly how happy they are with their time with us. The cultural exchange is paramount to us and having flexibility with our weird work schedules is needed. Yes, some people abuse the program but I don’t think it is the majority by far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was an au pair years ago, and a nanny as wel. I am now a mom to 3 and have hosted 3 au pairs. We treat our aps like family and each of them has told us repeatedly how happy they are with their time with us. The cultural exchange is paramount to us and having flexibility with our weird work schedules is needed. Yes, some people abuse the program but I don’t think it is the majority by far.

It makes a huge difference to the mis-treated snd abused au pair, doesn't it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was an au pair years ago, and a nanny as wel. I am now a mom to 3 and have hosted 3 au pairs. We treat our aps like family and each of them has told us repeatedly how happy they are with their time with us. The cultural exchange is paramount to us and having flexibility with our weird work schedules is needed. Yes, some people abuse the program but I don’t think it is the majority by far.

It makes a huge difference to the mis-treated snd abused au pair, doesn't it?

Yes, but there are many levels of steps taken to prevent abuse, and obviously there could be more. Saying a program that generally works well for both sides should be abolished because it has been difficult for a minority doesn’t make sense. I’m absolutely for more checks and balances and regulations but I don’t think it needs to fundamentally change.

[Anonymous]

Pompeo is streamlining the state Dept. I hope this program is deep sixed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2017/03/au-pair-program-abuse-state-department-214956

If even one au pair is treated so shamefully, this program must be discontinued.

The arrangement is full of abuse, not to mention how often the au pairs are taking on additional employment.

[Anonymous]

The people who avail themselves of this program are as immoral as slave owners of the old south.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people who avail themselves of this program are as immoral as slave owners of the old south.

True, for the most part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was an au pair years ago, and a nanny as wel. I am now a mom to 3 and have hosted 3 au pairs. We treat our aps like family and each of them has told us repeatedly how happy they are with their time with us. The cultural exchange is paramount to us and having flexibility with our weird work schedules is needed. Yes, some people abuse the program but I don’t think it is the majority by far.

Idk PP...check out the post where the OP's DH keeps "running into" the AP in his boxers.