Do families usually allow nanny to do personal shopping on paid time?

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There is a lot to be said for children (at least, age 3 and above) simply accompanying adults as they go through the various errands of the day... they learn to be patient,

Children can also learn patience while the nanny takes on more housework at the employer's home. Oh wait....in this situation developing patience in a child is not in the best interest of the child. Clearly, the difference is that something is ONLY beneficial to the child if the nanny is doing something that benefits the nanny.

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This is what I mean. They can learn patience while cleaning toys or loading a dishwasher with nanny. They really don't have to go to CVS to learn patience..

Do you have children? Because asking a one or two yo to entertain themselves with their toys and books while you empty the dishwasher is completely different from asking them to stand in line at a store, use an indoor voice, and conduct themselves appropriately in public.

My DC runs errands with me on the weekend, so he gets lots of practice standing in line at a store, using an indoor voice, and conducting himself appropriately in public. He also helps me unload the dishwasher, cleans up after meals, and helps "fold" the laundry. Making those activities fun and interesting for him all require the same level of engagement - having him pick out apples and put them in the cart, vs. having him pull out all the red clothes for me to fold. If you assume unloading a dishwasher requires you to ignore a one or two year old, it's hard not to assume you are similarly ignoring the same one or two year old when you drag him around running your own errands - engaging kids is the same, wherever you are doing it.

Engaging kids requires the same skills, but it is not the same.

At home DC puts away the flatware and his cups and plates while I unload the knives and dishes.

In a store, DC and I talk about things we see, waiting our turn, and what different people's titles are and what they are doing.

I'm glad your DC gets plenty of practice? My point was if you are trying to teach patience, circumstances matter. When DC is done with his dishes he'll go line up his trucks or sing a song to his baby brother...can't do that in a store. Not sure where you got ignoring from, you're only proving the point that a lot of MBs on this site are kind of mean people. Thanks for accusing me of ignoring my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:No employer ever tried to tell me what to do. In fact, they give me envelopes of cash to do what I want to do. And they love how their kid is at the end of the day. Happy, rested, and brilliant, of course!

They give you envelopes of cash to run your personal errands ?

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Anonymous wrote:No employer ever tried to tell me what to do. In fact, they give me envelopes of cash to do what I want to do. And they love how their kid is at the end of the day. Happy, rested, and brilliant, of course!

They give you envelopes of cash to run your personal errands ?

Reread my post. I have my own $$$ for my personal purchases. The envelopes of cash are for doing what I want, during the course of my work. We have a great time every day.

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Anonymous wrote:No employer ever tried to tell me what to do. In fact, they give me envelopes of cash to do what I want to do. And they love how their kid is at the end of the day. Happy, rested, and brilliant, of course!

They give you envelopes of cash to run your personal errands ?

Reread my post. I have my own $$$ for my personal purchases. The envelopes of cash are for doing what I want, during the course of my work. We have a great time every day.

I assume parents must be super busy if they don't care what their kids do during the day.

I cannot imagine nanny doing what SHE wants to do.

I always discuss our nanny's plans for the day.

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Anonymous wrote:No employer ever tried to tell me what to do. In fact, they give me envelopes of cash to do what I want to do. And they love how their kid is at the end of the day. Happy, rested, and brilliant, of course!

They give you envelopes of cash to run your personal errands ?

Reread my post. I have my own $$$ for my personal purchases. The envelopes of cash are for doing what I want, during the course of my work. We have a great time every day.

I assume parents must be super busy if they don't care what their kids do during the day.

I cannot imagine nanny doing what SHE wants to do.

I always discuss our nanny's plans for the day.

1. The parents ARE super busy. That's why they wanted to hire me, and not have to worry about their children every day. That's exactly how they DO care about their children.

2. I DO what I want every day. It's apparantly beyond your limited imagination that a professional nanny actually WANTS to do what's best for the children.

3. We discuss our days usually after the fact.

What you have my friend, is called a sitter who requires your micromanagement. You have no clue about the nanny world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No employer ever tried to tell me what to do. In fact, they give me envelopes of cash to do what I want to do. And they love how their kid is at the end of the day. Happy, rested, and brilliant, of course!

They give you envelopes of cash to run your personal errands ?

Reread my post. I have my own $$$ for my personal purchases. The envelopes of cash are for doing what I want, during the course of my work. We have a great time every day.

I assume parents must be super busy if they don't care what their kids do during the day.

I cannot imagine nanny doing what SHE wants to do.

I always discuss our nanny's plans for the day.

1. The parents ARE super busy. That's why they wanted to hire me, and not have to worry about their children every day. That's exactly how they DO care about their children.

2. I DO what I want every day. It's apparantly beyond your limited imagination that a professional nanny actually WANTS to do what's best for the children.

3. We discuss our days usually after the fact.

What you have my friend, is called a sitter who requires your micromanagement. You have no clue about the nanny world.

I am not your friend.

I have a very professional nanny I am very happy with. She is definitely not a sitter that you seem to be.

And be careful with "limited imagination" because your IP is known to the administrator of this site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No employer ever tried to tell me what to do. In fact, they give me envelopes of cash to do what I want to do. And they love how their kid is at the end of the day. Happy, rested, and brilliant, of course!

They give you envelopes of cash to run your personal errands ?

Reread my post. I have my own $$$ for my personal purchases. The envelopes of cash are for doing what I want, during the course of my work. We have a great time every day.

I assume parents must be super busy if they don't care what their kids do during the day.

I cannot imagine nanny doing what SHE wants to do.

I always discuss our nanny's plans for the day.

1. The parents ARE super busy. That's why they wanted to hire me, and not have to worry about their children every day. That's exactly how they DO care about their children.

2. I DO what I want every day. It's apparantly beyond your limited imagination that a professional nanny actually WANTS to do what's best for the children.

3. We discuss our days usually after the fact.

What you have my friend, is called a sitter who requires your micromanagement. You have no clue about the nanny world.

You are so "prefessional" that you spend time on DCUM forum instead of taking care of the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No employer ever tried to tell me what to do. In fact, they give me envelopes of cash to do what I want to do. And they love how their kid is at the end of the day. Happy, rested, and brilliant, of course!

They give you envelopes of cash to run your personal errands ?

Reread my post. I have my own $$$ for my personal purchases. The envelopes of cash are for doing what I want, during the course of my work. We have a great time every day.

I assume parents must be super busy if they don't care what their kids do during the day.

I cannot imagine nanny doing what SHE wants to do.

I always discuss our nanny's plans for the day.

1. The parents ARE super busy. That's why they wanted to hire me, and not have to worry about their children every day. That's exactly how they DO care about their children.

2. I DO what I want every day. It's apparantly beyond your limited imagination that a professional nanny actually WANTS to do what's best for the children.

3. We discuss our days usually after the fact.

What you have my friend, is called a sitter who requires your micromanagement. You have no clue about the nanny world.

You are so "prefessional" that you spend time on DCUM forum instead of taking care of the kids.

Is that all you can say for yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No employer ever tried to tell me what to do. In fact, they give me envelopes of cash to do what I want to do. And they love how their kid is at the end of the day. Happy, rested, and brilliant, of course!

They give you envelopes of cash to run your personal errands ?

Reread my post. I have my own $$$ for my personal purchases. The envelopes of cash are for doing what I want, during the course of my work. We have a great time every day.

I assume parents must be super busy if they don't care what their kids do during the day.

I cannot imagine nanny doing what SHE wants to do.

I always discuss our nanny's plans for the day.

1. The parents ARE super busy. That's why they wanted to hire me, and not have to worry about their children every day. That's exactly how they DO care about their children.

2. I DO what I want every day. It's apparantly beyond your limited imagination that a professional nanny actually WANTS to do what's best for the children.

3. We discuss our days usually after the fact.

What you have my friend, is called a sitter who requires your micromanagement. You have no clue about the nanny world.

You are so "prefessional" that you spend time on DCUM forum instead of taking care of the kids.

She is right. Spend more time with kids and be more polite here.

[Anonymous]

Funny how DCUM parent posters are usually "working" parents. During "working" hours. So funny how that works, isn't it?
You manage find plenty of time for your personal stuff during your "working" hours, but damn the nanny when she does the same. Just amazing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny how DCUM parent posters are usually "working" parents. During "working" hours. So funny how that works, isn't it?
You manage find plenty of time for your personal stuff during your "working" hours, but damn the nanny when she does the same. Just amazing!

Most parents posting on here are employed in professional, overtime-exempt positions. They get paid for completing their workload or meeting a production or billable hours quota. If a non-exempt employee takes a break during the day to check out DCUM, she'll probably have to work late at some point to catch up. Nannies are non-exempt from overtime and get paid by the hour. If they are hanging out on DCUM during the work day when they are being paid to engage with the kids, plan activities, or whatever, they are effectively stealing from their employers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Funny how DCUM parent posters are usually "working" parents. During "working" hours. So funny how that works, isn't it?
You manage find plenty of time for your personal stuff during your "working" hours, but damn the nanny when she does the same. Just amazing!

Most parents posting on here are employed in professional, overtime-exempt positions. They get paid for completing their workload or meeting a production or billable hours quota. If a non-exempt employee takes a break during the day to check out DCUM, she'll probably have to work late at some point to catch up. Nannies are non-exempt from overtime and get paid by the hour. If they are hanging out on DCUM during the work day when they are being paid to engage with the kids, plan activities, or whatever, they are effectively stealing from their employers.

This should have said "exempt employee."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how DCUM parent posters are usually "working" parents. During "working" hours. So funny how that works, isn't it?
You manage find plenty of time for your personal stuff during your "working" hours, but damn the nanny when she does the same. Just amazing!

Most parents posting on here are employed in professional, overtime-exempt positions. They get paid for completing their workload or meeting a production or billable hours quota. If a non-exempt employee takes a break during the day to check out DCUM, she'll probably have to work late at some point to catch up. Nannies are non-exempt from overtime and get paid by the hour. If they are hanging out on DCUM during the work day when they are being paid to engage with the kids, plan activities, or whatever, they are effectively stealing from their employers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how DCUM parent posters are usually "working" parents. During "working" hours. So funny how that works, isn't it?
You manage find plenty of time for your personal stuff during your "working" hours, but damn the nanny when she does the same. Just amazing!

Most parents posting on here are employed in professional, overtime-exempt positions. They get paid for completing their workload or meeting a production or billable hours quota. If a non-exempt employee takes a break during the day to check out DCUM, she'll probably have to work late at some point to catch up. Nannies are non-exempt from overtime and get paid by the hour. If they are hanging out on DCUM during the work day when they are being paid to engage with the kids, plan activities, or whatever, they are effectively stealing from their employers.

So true.

I would fire a nanny finding time to hang out on DCUM or FB instead of taking care of my kids. She is getting paid by the hour and she should focus on the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how DCUM parent posters are usually "working" parents. During "working" hours. So funny how that works, isn't it?
You manage find plenty of time for your personal stuff during your "working" hours, but damn the nanny when she does the same. Just amazing!

Most parents posting on here are employed in professional, overtime-exempt positions. They get paid for completing their workload or meeting a production or billable hours quota. If a non-exempt employee takes a break during the day to check out DCUM, she'll probably have to work late at some point to catch up. Nannies are non-exempt from overtime and get paid by the hour. If they are hanging out on DCUM during the work day when they are being paid to engage with the kids, plan activities, or whatever, they are effectively stealing from their employers.

So true.

I would fire a nanny finding time to hang out on DCUM or FB instead of taking care of my kids. She is getting paid by the hour and she should focus on the kids.

You know it's a Saturday right? And most kids take naps and that is the only break a nanny gets? I seriously doubt anyone posting here is ignoring their charges to argue with strangers on the internet.