I service your child, not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Frankly, OP, if you said that to me, I'd fire you in a quick second.

You work for me. I am the parent. What you think is right doesn't trump what I think is right and if you defy my parenting wishes, we are not a good fit and you are welcome to leave.

But make no mistake. The parent is the one in charge. So if you think it's fine to ignore my child while you text on your phone because you think it's important she learn 'independent play' (as ridiculous an example as your nonsense spanking example), I will fire you because your judgment isn't better simply because you're the nanny.

Texting is one thing. Spanking is on a completely different level!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It boils down to the question of who is the Primary caregiver. That person is either the parent or someone else. Whoever it is, knows the child the best.

Knowing a child takes more than a few minutes a day of "quality time".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It boils down to the question of who is the Primary caregiver. That person is either the parent or someone else. Whoever it is, knows the child the best.

Knowing a child takes more than a few minutes a day of "quality time".

Sorry I don't remember where I recently heard this quote:

"The notion of 'quality time' was made up by a parent with very little time for parenting their child."

Ain't that the truth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents are primary caregivers. They have the legal, moral and physical responsibility for their children. All decisions around raising the children belong to the parents. Nannies are trusted employees but do not know the child best, nor do they know how to raise their charges better than a parent.

OP, you are trying to start trouble here and you are failing. Give it up.

How do you know your child "best", when you're down on K St., most of your child's waking hours? Even if nanny produces a daily log with a few highlights of each day, your "getting to know your child", is second-hand, at best. It's the person who is directly providing the majority of the care, who knows the child, the best. Of course, if you keep the nanny door revolving, no one really knows the child.

One has to wonder what kind of early childhood the rich white boy, school shooters, had....

+1...I think some parents are in denial because they WANT to be the ones who know their child best but in all honesty, you're not. I don't even say that to be rude but it's just a fact. I am with my charge 78 waking hours per week and my MB/DB are with him for 13. I take him to all appointments-medical, dental, haircuts...all playgroups and activities- music class, gymnastics, swim lessons....I am positive that I know him better than my MB/DB. It's just reality.

This is interesting to me.

[Anonymous]

Nanny or M B, it's irrelevant. If I knew that either were not acting in a child's best interest, I would report them to CPS.

It doesn't matter who is the boss. Anyone in the child care industry is a legally mandated reporter. That trumps "being the boss".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It boils down to the question of who is the Primary caregiver. That person is either the parent or someone else. Whoever it is, knows the child the best.

Knowing a child takes more than a few minutes a day of "quality time".

Sorry I don't remember where I recently heard this quote:

"The notion of 'quality time' was made up by a parent with very little time for parenting their child."

Ain't that the truth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want me to do something that isn't the best thing for your child, I will not do it. Yes, you do sign my paycheck. But my professional responsibility is to your child. I would resign before doing anything that didn't seem right. So far, it's happened only once, when a high-powered attorney mom asked me to spank her child. It was shocking.

Don't hire a professional if you want a sitter to only obey your orders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want me to do something that isn't the best thing for your child, I will not do it. Yes, you do sign my paycheck. But my professional responsibility is to your child. I would resign before doing anything that didn't seem right. So far, it's happened only once, when a high-powered attorney mom asked me to spank her child. It was shocking.

This is very vague and subjective and personal. Do you say this exact thing when interviewing. hope so.

[Anonymous]

How come parents keep thinking THEY need a nanny? Nannies specialize in CHILD care, not mommy care.

She needs someone else for that task, but not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How come parents keep thinking THEY need a nanny? Nannies specialize in CHILD care, not mommy care.

She needs someone else for that task, but not a nanny.

Because the parents determine the childcare needs and they do the hiring. Newborns aren't particularly discerning employers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How come parents keep thinking THEY need a nanny? Nannies specialize in CHILD care, not mommy care.

She needs someone else for that task, but not a nanny.

Because the parents determine the childcare needs and they do the hiring. Newborns aren't particularly discerning employers.

Most first time parents of newborns have zero experience with babies. All they "know" is what they've been reading on the internet and what their girlfriends told them. Once they get a real baby of their own, they want an expert to show them things they never learned before. It's ok. No one is an expert in everything.

[Anonymous]

2013 thread.

Some archive troll needs to get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2013 thread.

Some archive troll needs to get a life.

+1

[Anonymous]

Now that it's 2015, maybe it's finally time for parents to stop calling us *your* nanny. We're not. Perhaps you have a housekeeper or a personal assistant, but "nanny"? No.

I should hope not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now that it's 2015, maybe it's finally time for parents to stop calling us *your* nanny. We're not. Perhaps you have a housekeeper or a personal assistant, but "nanny"? No.

I should hope not.

You should let go of this gripe - it's pretty meaningless.

Would you prefer that a parent refer to you as "our employee"

Whom do you consider your employer - the parents or the child(ren)? Who signs your checks?ather than "our nanny"? Is that somehow less offensive?

Seems like wasted energy to go on complaining about this specific nomenclature.