I service your child, not you.

[Anonymous]

I'm the PP.
I say this a FT working mom of 2 middle school kids, who was a SAHM until my youngest started kindergarten. So I can see both sides.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legally, is a nanny a "mandated reporter" of suspected child abuse?

No. Social workers, teachers, doctors etc. are
It would be a moral obligation for nannies though

Daycare worker? Source?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legally, is a nanny a "mandated reporter" of suspected child abuse?

No. Social workers, teachers, doctors etc. are
It would be a moral obligation for nannies though

Daycare worker? Source?

It depends on state law. Nannies are required reporters in Massachusetts and Virginia. Maryland appears to mandate reporting by everyone who has reason to believe a child has being abused or neglected, so that would include nannies. Nannies are not mandated reporters in DC. See https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/manda.pdf#Page=2&view=Fit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents are primary caregivers. They have the legal, moral and physical responsibility for their children. All decisions around raising the children belong to the parents. Nannies are trusted employees but do not know the child best, nor do they know how to raise their charges better than a parent.

OP, you are trying to start trouble here and you are failing. Give it up.

How do you know your child "best", when you're down on K St., most of your child's waking hours? Even if nanny produces a daily log with a few highlights of each day, your "getting to know your child", is second-hand, at best. It's the person who is directly providing the majority of the care, who knows the child, the best. Of course, if you keep the nanny door revolving, no one really knows the child.

One has to wonder what kind of early childhood the rich white boy, school shooters, had....

Don't get mad just because some parents are able to go off to work and bring home enough money to give their children a good upbringing. You seem resentful and hating on successful people makes you look pathetic. Just because YOU don't have the skills or education to get a decent job doesn't make it ok for you to hate on those who do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents are primary caregivers. They have the legal, moral and physical responsibility for their children. All decisions around raising the children belong to the parents. Nannies are trusted employees but do not know the child best, nor do they know how to raise their charges better than a parent.

OP, you are trying to start trouble here and you are failing. Give it up.

How do you know your child "best", when you're down on K St., most of your child's waking hours? Even if nanny produces a daily log with a few highlights of each day, your "getting to know your child", is second-hand, at best. It's the person who is directly providing the majority of the care, who knows the child, the best. Of course, if you keep the nanny door revolving, no one really knows the child.

One has to wonder what kind of early childhood the rich white boy, school shooters, had....

Don't get mad just because some parents are able to go off to work and bring home enough money to give their children a good upbringing. You seem resentful and hating on successful people makes you look pathetic. Just because YOU don't have the skills or education to get a decent job doesn't make it ok for you to hate on those who do.

Which points/statements are you responding to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legally, is a nanny a "mandated reporter" of suspected child abuse?

No. Social workers, teachers, doctors etc. are
It would be a moral obligation for nannies though

Daycare worker? Source?

It depends on state law. Nannies are required reporters in Massachusetts and Virginia. Maryland appears to mandate reporting by everyone who has reason to believe a child has being abused or neglected, so that would include nannies. Nannies are not mandated reporters in DC. See https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/manda.pdf#Page=2&view=Fit

Thank you for the link.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is making the point that some parents do not know what's best for their child, hence the "spank my child" request. So nanny is obligated to use her better judgement, and NOT spank the child. While that is quite an extreme example, it certainly does make the point.

OP why are you defending yourself? LOL. Your commas make you stick out like a sore thumb so don't try acting like a third party and stop agreeing with yourself. It's pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents are primary caregivers. They have the legal, moral and physical responsibility for their children. All decisions around raising the children belong to the parents. Nannies are trusted employees but do not know the child best, nor do they know how to raise their charges better than a parent.

OP, you are trying to start trouble here and you are failing. Give it up.

How do you know your child "best", when you're down on K St., most of your child's waking hours? Even if nanny produces a daily log with a few highlights of each day, your "getting to know your child", is second-hand, at best. It's the person who is directly providing the majority of the care, who knows the child, the best. Of course, if you keep the nanny door revolving, no one really knows the child.

One has to wonder what kind of early childhood the rich white boy, school shooters, had....

Don't get mad just because some parents are able to go off to work and bring home enough money to give their children a good upbringing. You seem resentful and hating on successful people makes you look pathetic. Just because YOU don't have the skills or education to get a decent job doesn't make it ok for you to hate on those who do.

Which points/statements are you responding to?

?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is making the point that some parents do not know what's best for their child, hence the "spank my child" request. So nanny is obligated to use her better judgement, and NOT spank the child. While that is quite an extreme example, it certainly does make the point.

It is never appropriate for a nanny to impose her "better judgment" over what the parents have specifically asked her to do. The nanny's obligation in such a circumstance is to tell the parents that spanking is not something she is comfortable with, and therefore she can't comply with that request. Then suggest an alternative approach to behavior modification. If the parents don't get on board with your suggestion, find a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents are primary caregivers. They have the legal, moral and physical responsibility for their children. All decisions around raising the children belong to the parents. Nannies are trusted employees but do not know the child best, nor do they know how to raise their charges better than a parent.

OP, you are trying to start trouble here and you are failing. Give it up.

How do you know your child "best", when you're down on K St., most of your child's waking hours? Even if nanny produces a daily log with a few highlights of each day, your "getting to know your child", is second-hand, at best. It's the person who is directly providing the majority of the care, who knows the child, the best. Of course, if you keep the nanny door revolving, no one really knows the child.

One has to wonder what kind of early childhood the rich white boy, school shooters, had....

Don't get mad just because some parents are able to go off to work and bring home enough money to give their children a good upbringing. You seem resentful and hating on successful people makes you look pathetic. Just because YOU don't have the skills or education to get a decent job doesn't make it ok for you to hate on those who do.

Which points/statements are you responding to?

I'm responding to the pathetic woman who continues to overuse commas in all of her MB/DB hating threads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents are primary caregivers. They have the legal, moral and physical responsibility for their children. All decisions around raising the children belong to the parents. Nannies are trusted employees but do not know the child best, nor do they know how to raise their charges better than a parent.

OP, you are trying to start trouble here and you are failing. Give it up.

How do you know your child "best", when you're down on K St., most of your child's waking hours? Even if nanny produces a daily log with a few highlights of each day, your "getting to know your child", is second-hand, at best. It's the person who is directly providing the majority of the care, who knows the child, the best. Of course, if you keep the nanny door revolving, no one really knows the child.

One has to wonder what kind of early childhood the rich white boy, school shooters, had....

Don't get mad just because some parents are able to go off to work and bring home enough money to give their children a good upbringing. You seem resentful and hating on successful people makes you look pathetic. Just because YOU don't have the skills or education to get a decent job doesn't make it ok for you to hate on those who do.

Which points/statements are you responding to?

I'm responding to the pathetic woman who continues to overuse commas in all of her MB/DB hating threads.

What was said that made you so mad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legally, is a nanny a "mandated reporter" of suspected child abuse?

No. Social workers, teachers, doctors etc. are
It would be a moral obligation for nannies though

Daycare worker? Source?

It depends on state law. Nannies are required reporters in Massachusetts and Virginia. Maryland appears to mandate reporting by everyone who has reason to believe a child has being abused or neglected, so that would include nannies. Nannies are not mandated reporters in DC. See https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/manda.pdf#Page=2&view=Fit

This is a good link for dc nannies and parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every parent "works", well ok, most. Some work with their kids, actually raising them. Other parents work in an office, while someone else is paid to become the caretaker (usually primary caretaker, because it's hard to pull off PT office jobs). No one human does it all.

I have no purpose to offend, nor do I aspire to political correctness. I simply desire engagement in an open and honest discussion with sincere and thoughtful adults.

Are you game?

Absentee means absent from the children while at the office. It's a straight forward fact for many parents. It either is, or isn't, depending on factual circumstances. The fact that indeed many of them love their children dearly, doesn't change the actual situation at hand.

That's not what absentee means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every parent "works", well ok, most. Some work with their kids, actually raising them. Other parents work in an office, while someone else is paid to become the caretaker (usually primary caretaker, because it's hard to pull off PT office jobs). No one human does it all.

I have no purpose to offend, nor do I aspire to political correctness. I simply desire engagement in an open and honest discussion with sincere and thoughtful adults.

Are you game?

Absentee means absent from the children while at the office. It's a straight forward fact for many parents. It either is, or isn't, depending on factual circumstances. The fact that indeed many of them love their children dearly, doesn't change the actual situation at hand.

That's not what absentee means.

Absentee - One who is absent
Absent - Not present

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legally, is a nanny a "mandated reporter" of suspected child abuse?

No. Social workers, teachers, doctors etc. are
It would be a moral obligation for nannies though

Daycare worker? Source?

It depends on state law. Nannies are required reporters in Massachusetts and Virginia. Maryland appears to mandate reporting by everyone who has reason to believe a child has being abused or neglected, so that would include nannies. Nannies are not mandated reporters in DC. See https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/manda.pdf#Page=2&view=Fit

In case anyone wanted to know DC law...