Asked our nanny to come in 30 min earlier and got a NO as an answer

[Anonymous]

This back and forth classscm and nanny matryism s rdiculous.
Bottom line
You need someone to start at 7.

Nanny does not want to do this. It doesn't matter if she worked at 7 for her other job. T doesn't matter if 500 other nannies start at 7. 7 isn't going to work for her.

You can tell her that starting on X date you'll need someone who can come at 7am. You think she's great and would like for her to stay on but understand if she can't.

f she chooses not too then you find a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

My guess is she has a morning gig.

I did something like this where I had to get to a house in time for mom to leave for her early shift job so I'd get there about 5 am and stay until about 7:15 when the other parent got home.

I took the job because it was about 15 minutes away from my other job and they paid like $350 a week for me to basically just be in the house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She accepted position with a start time that is acceptable and convenient to her personal life. Maybe she has other things that she must do and coming in earlier means she is inconvenienced. OP, et AL, would have a fit if nanny suddenly told you--not asked-- but told you that she had to come in earlier. Fire her so she can find a Job working for someone who does not look upon her as a slave to kowtow to your every whim.

Youve clearly never had a real job before, have you? Note that OP's boss is now requiring her to be at work earlier. Does she throw a fit, say no, and quit? No, she does the job.

OP is your nanny very young? I can't imagine a mature adult making a big deal out of this.

And this is why some blue collar workers will neber be white collar professionals. They just dont get it.

Id interview for a new nanny.

So being a doormat makes a nanny a white collar professional?

That is not being a doormat, Dear, that is simply being employed - in any profession and in any job. Nanny included.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to her again - tell her that she must come in this 30 minutes earlier or you need to find someone else.

Job requirements change. We have had to let a brilliant and beloved nanny of two years go because she was unable to travel with us. When she was hired, traveling with us was not a part of her job but our needs changed and DH and I must travel for our company. Nanny understood completely and is still very much a part of our lives.

Things change.

same here. I got a new job w longer commute and needed an earlier start time. First she complained, then agreed but was constantly late. Then we talked about having two nannies, an AM and a PM one or cutting her hours. She didn't want that. Ended up with new, younger nanny a few months later.

As you know, nannies are there to (1) allow you both to do your jobs and (2) provide excellent childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:30 minutes is not an entire schedule change.

Will you be paying her for that additional time?
Does she have a very long commute?
Does she rely on public transportation?

maybe she could stay at your place Monday -thursday evenings?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:30 minutes is not an entire schedule change.

Will you be paying her for that additional time?
Does she have a very long commute?
Does she rely on public transportation?

Hi, thanks everyone. I am NOT asking her to work extra, I am just asking to come earlier and leave earlier. She has her own car and her commute is about 25-30 min. She worked from 7am at her previous family, so I didn't think this would be a problem. Also, her explanation is " it is way too early, I can't" is very frustrating.

Interesting. There are lots of potential solutions here and many nannies have a busy early morning getting the children out (7-9am), rest a bit, get preschoolers out or after regular school. 'You could make it clear she can nap later in the day.

But really, sounds like be a mismatch for you both. not a big deal

[Anonymous]

I have a feeling that OP has taken advantage of her nanny many times and this was the last straw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling that OP has taken advantage of her nanny many times and this was the last straw.

well then it will be good for both parties to move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:30 minutes is not an entire schedule change.

Will you be paying her for that additional time?
Does she have a very long commute?
Does she rely on public transportation?

maybe she could stay at your place Monday -thursday evenings?

Are you kidding? If it was a start time between midnight and 5, maybe. Otherwise? No!

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and some of these replies are ridiculous. Jobs change over the years, you need to learn be flexible if you want to stay in a job long term.

I've been with my nanny family for just over 5 years. When I first started my start time was 9:30. It was like that for almost 2 years. Then my DB got a new job and had to leave the house really early in the morning, so my start time changed to 8. It was 8 for about a year and then my charges were starting preschool. We would to leave the house at 8 to get there on time, so my start time changed to 7:30. My end time has also changed with each of these changes so that I wasn't working too many hours.

During all of these changes I sat down with my employers and we had a discussion about the new needs and figured out a new schedule that worked. I used to love my 9:30 start time, but that's not what they need anymore. I've also been flexible with my duties and taken on more household manager type stuff as the kids have grown and needed less.

Guess what? Here I am in a job 5 years later that I love. My employers treat me like gold. They thank me every day for helping to make their lives run better. My charges are now in school full time and I'm still getting paid the same amount of money, no cut in hours. So many of you these days are always complaining about every little thing and forget that this is a service industry. Being flexible and adapting to changes in your job is the key to being able to stay in a job long term.

[Anonymous]

My only question is whether she has a child of her own to get out the door no that's what she meant by 7 being too early? Failing that or another morning job, it sounds like you're no longer a good fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny and some of these replies are ridiculous. Jobs change over the years, you need to learn be flexible if you want to stay in a job long term.

I've been with my nanny family for just over 5 years. When I first started my start time was 9:30. It was like that for almost 2 years. Then my DB got a new job and had to leave the house really early in the morning, so my start time changed to 8. It was 8 for about a year and then my charges were starting preschool. We would to leave the house at 8 to get there on time, so my start time changed to 7:30. My end time has also changed with each of these changes so that I wasn't working too many hours.

During all of these changes I sat down with my employers and we had a discussion about the new needs and figured out a new schedule that worked. I used to love my 9:30 start time, but that's not what they need anymore. I've also been flexible with my duties and taken on more household manager type stuff as the kids have grown and needed less.

Guess what? Here I am in a job 5 years later that I love. My employers treat me like gold. They thank me every day for helping to make their lives run better. My charges are now in school full time and I'm still getting paid the same amount of money, no cut in hours. So many of you these days are always complaining about every little thing and forget that this is a service industry. Being flexible and adapting to changes in your job is the key to being able to stay in a job long term.

Sounds like your employers try to consider your needs, as well as their own. Count your blessings. Not all employers are like yours.

[Anonymous]

She sounds lazy. Your job requirements changed, and if she can't/won't meet your needs anymore you'll have to replace her.

[Anonymous]

Our last nanny "retired" to move to her adult children. Then called us and said she did not move but was looking for a 9-5 nanny job with an easier age, a baby. Fine, we helped her look for that.
If she can afford to be that specific, fine with me, she'll have to find a family that wants that as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:30 minutes is not an entire schedule change.

Will you be paying her for that additional time?
Does she have a very long commute?
Does she rely on public transportation?

Hi, thanks everyone. I am NOT asking her to work extra, I am just asking to come earlier and leave earlier. She has her own car and her commute is about 25-30 min. She worked from 7am at her previous family, so I didn't think this would be a problem. Also, her explanation is " it is way too early, I can't" is very frustrating.

Interesting. There are lots of potential solutions here and many nannies have a busy early morning getting the children out (7-9am), rest a bit, get preschoolers out or after regular school. 'You could make it clear she can nap later in the day.

But really, sounds like be a mismatch for you both. not a big deal

NAP!?!? At work??? What is wrong with you people!?!