Asked our nanny to come in 30 min earlier and got a NO as an answer

[Anonymous]

OMG. All the princesses on here saying 7 is too early are ridiculous. You aren't asking her to work at 3:30 in the morning! She needs to be an adult and work with you, or find another job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need a reality check please, am I asking for too much?

I had some changes at work and my schedule now requires me to be at work s little bit earlier. I spoke to my nanny about this and asked if she could start at 7am as opposed to 7:30am. Her response was a "NO" right away with a reason being it is too early for her and she cannot get up so early. We had her for about two years and have been super flexible, gave her time off whenever she needed it and salary advances to name a few. I am very frustrated, what do we do in this situation?

What's it worth to you to have her come in that early? Make an offer she can't refuse.

Here is the offer I would make, OP - Come in one half hour earlier or you are fired.

Perhaps OP is wiser than you, and she understands that her child requires stability of care. Your revolving door nannies are tragic to the development of your own child. Some parents are just so selfish, but thank goodness not all of them are like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:30 minutes is not an entire schedule change.

Will you be paying her for that additional time?
Does she have a very long commute?
Does she rely on public transportation?

Hi, thanks everyone. I am NOT asking her to work extra, I am just asking to come earlier and leave earlier. She has her own car and her commute is about 25-30 min. She worked from 7am at her previous family, so I didn't think this would be a problem. Also, her explanation is " it is way too early, I can't" is very frustrating.

Maybe she had a night job?

Also Op you don't need to be at work at 7 am. You just don't. You want to be there at 7 am to leave earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:30 minutes is not an entire schedule change.

Will you be paying her for that additional time?
Does she have a very long commute?
Does she rely on public transportation?

Hi, thanks everyone. I am NOT asking her to work extra, I am just asking to come earlier and leave earlier. She has her own car and her commute is about 25-30 min. She worked from 7am at her previous family, so I didn't think this would be a problem. Also, her explanation is " it is way too early, I can't" is very frustrating.

Maybe she had a night job?

Also Op you don't need to be at work at 7 am. You just don't. You want to be there at 7 am to leave earlier.

Unless shes going to time travel shes not going to be at work at 7.......she needs to leave her house at 7. Plenty of people in this area do that.
When I was a Nanny I worked from 6.30am-5.30pm 5 days a week. I didnt do dinner with the kids, they did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need a reality check please, am I asking for too much?

I had some changes at work and my schedule now requires me to be at work s little bit earlier. I spoke to my nanny about this and asked if she could start at 7am as opposed to 7:30am. Her response was a "NO" right away with a reason being it is too early for her and she cannot get up so early. We had her for about two years and have been super flexible, gave her time off whenever she needed it and salary advances to name a few. I am very frustrated, what do we do in this situation?

What's it worth to you to have her come in that early? Make an offer she can't refuse.

Here is the offer I would make, OP - Come in one half hour earlier or you are fired.

Perhaps OP is wiser than you, and she understands that her child requires stability of care. Your revolving door nannies are tragic to the development of your own child. Some parents are just so selfish, but thank goodness not all of them are like you.

I am the PP and I am a nanny. I feel very strongly that nannies like OP's nanny are childish and unprofessional. She deserves to be fired if she cannot make this unavoidable adjustment. The children will be better off without such an immature and selfish nanny.

I am being honest here and I generally always side with nannies on this forum. But this like of entitled childish stupidity just rubs me the wrong way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:30 minutes is not an entire schedule change.

Will you be paying her for that additional time?
Does she have a very long commute?
Does she rely on public transportation?

Hi, thanks everyone. I am NOT asking her to work extra, I am just asking to come earlier and leave earlier. She has her own car and her commute is about 25-30 min. She worked from 7am at her previous family, so I didn't think this would be a problem. Also, her explanation is " it is way too early, I can't" is very frustrating.

Maybe she had a night job?

Also Op you don't need to be at work at 7 am. You just don't. You want to be there at 7 am to leave earlier.

Even so, if that's the difference between OP eating dinner with her kids and not, then that is far more important than whether she changes nannies.

[Anonymous]

I see posts on MOTH all the time asking for nanny shares starting at 7, so I don't think this is so unusual. If you have a 30 minute - 1 hour commute to work, 7 nanny start means 8 am work start. I feel like 50% of prople start work by 8. What's weird about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's very simple.

You need an employee to start at 7 am.
She can not (or will not) come in to work at 7 am.

So you need to find a new nanny and she needs to find a new job.

I don't see what the question is.

7 am is not that early.

Many jobs that support other people working (people who work at coffee shops, train operators/bus drivers, etc.) need to start work hours before the typical work day. Your nanny also has a job that "supports someone else working" (you and your spouse.) An early start time is expected.

Yes. You need someone who can work your new hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:30 minutes is not an entire schedule change.

Will you be paying her for that additional time?
Does she have a very long commute?
Does she rely on public transportation?

Hi, thanks everyone. I am NOT asking her to work extra, I am just asking to come earlier and leave earlier. She has her own car and her commute is about 25-30 min. She worked from 7am at her previous family, so I didn't think this would be a problem. Also, her explanation is " it is way too early, I can't" is very frustrating.

Maybe she had a night job?

Also Op you don't need to be at work at 7 am. You just don't. You want to be there at 7 am to leave earlier.

How do you know what hours OP needs to work?

[Anonymous]

Some people say 7 AM is too early, others say NBD. What is relevant here is that the nanny's current schedule is 7:30 AM. Someone who normally starts at 9 AM can reasonably balk at starting at 7 AM, but someone who already goes to work at 7:30 AM can't complain that 30 minutes earlier is unreasonably early. How is 7:30 okay and 7 AM is so unacceptable? Don't get me wrong, I'm a worker bee and getting into work 30 minutes earlier would suck for me, too. But I would have the sense not to complain to my boss and say no unless I had a concrete reason for being unable to.

[Anonymous]

The main issue is that the nanny probably felt taken advantage of before this event and so when the new request came in, she turned it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The main issue is that the nanny probably felt taken advantage of before this event and so when the new request came in, she turned it down.

Then she should be fired! It's a job and we cannot meet the new requirements then she needs to be replaced

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need a reality check please, am I asking for too much?

I had some changes at work and my schedule now requires me to be at work s little bit earlier. I spoke to my nanny about this and asked if she could start at 7am as opposed to 7:30am. Her response was a "NO" right away with a reason being it is too early for her and she cannot get up so early. We had her for about two years and have been super flexible, gave her time off whenever she needed it and salary advances to name a few. I am very frustrated, what do we do in this situation?

Did you tell her agree, or else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The main issue is that the nanny probably felt taken advantage of before this event and so when the new request came in, she turned it down.

Then she should be fired! It's a job and we cannot meet the new requirements then she needs to be replaced

If it isn't in the nanny's contract that she is expected to swap her work times then good luck on 'firing' her.

[Anonymous]

As long as you aren't asking her to work more hours, I don't see the big deal.