Asked our nanny to come in 30 min earlier and got a NO as an answer

[Anonymous]

Do you need to leave at7 or are you asking nanny to come early so you can get ready?

[Anonymous]

Look, I get that for a lot of people 30 minutes earlier isn't a big deal. But, for a lot of other people, it IS a big deal. But the bottom line is you agreed on a job with a start time of 7:30. Now you need to change that. For your nanny, it's a big change in the contract. As such, try offering her something in consideration for the change. That way you're getting something and she's getting something. Maybe it's a slight raise, maybe it's a one-time payout, maybe it's an extra day or two off during the year. That way you're both giving, and you're both getting. If she's not open to that, then you'll have to let her go.

[Anonymous]

Contract?

So the job can never ever change?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you need to leave at7 or are you asking nanny to come early so you can get ready?

both

I need to leave the house no later than 7:15, 7 am arrival ensures she can come in, take off her shoes, wash hands, take the baby...etc. Frequesntly,she is late 5-10 min sometimes, and it is a big deal for us especially in the morning when we are rushing to get out!

[Anonymous]

Your nanny is frequently late and is giving you a hard time about coming in 30 minutes earlier? Can her ass, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you need to leave at7 or are you asking nanny to come early so you can get ready?

both

I need to leave the house no later than 7:15, 7 am arrival ensures she can come in, take off her shoes, wash hands, take the baby...etc. Frequesntly,she is late 5-10 min sometimes, and it is a big deal for us especially in the morning when we are rushing to get out!

It took you four pages to come up with this? Bull!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you need to leave at7 or are you asking nanny to come early so you can get ready?

both

I need to leave the house no later than 7:15, 7 am arrival ensures she can come in, take off her shoes, wash hands, take the baby...etc. Frequesntly,she is late 5-10 min sometimes, and it is a big deal for us especially in the morning when we are rushing to get out!

It took you four pages to come up with this? Bull!

Stop. Who cares why your boss needs you to do something different. Accept the change like a big girl or find another job. End of discussion.

I hope you told your nanny by now, OP. Not asked her - told her.

And again, I am a nanny (a nanny who is tired of the silly little girls who don't seem to understand what a "job" means or what the employer/employee relationship is).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Contract?

So the job can never ever change?

No, obviously a job can change. But some consideration should be given for that change.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure your nanny doesn't have kids who need to be dropped off or a pet who needs to be walked etc? Not that those things are your problem per se, but it may be a legit reason your nanny can't make it work

[Anonymous]

Start looking for a new nanny.

and tell her you will need to start looking for a new nanny, because starting at 7am is a necessity for you. You hope she can make it work, but if not, you will need someone who can be there at 7.

Be matter of fact, unemotional, and unequivocal, and she can decide

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She accepted position with a start time that is acceptable and convenient to her personal life. Maybe she has other things that she must do and coming in earlier means she is inconvenienced. OP, et AL, would have a fit if nanny suddenly told you--not asked-- but told you that she had to come in earlier. Fire her so she can find a Job working for someone who does not look upon her as a slave to kowtow to your every whim.

Youve clearly never had a real job before, have you? Note that OP's boss is now requiring her to be at work earlier. Does she throw a fit, say no, and quit? No, she does the job.

OP is your nanny very young? I can't imagine a mature adult making a big deal out of this.

And this is why some blue collar workers will neber be white collar professionals. They just dont get it.

Id interview for a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

What did you end up doing, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She accepted position with a start time that is acceptable and convenient to her personal life. Maybe she has other things that she must do and coming in earlier means she is inconvenienced. OP, et AL, would have a fit if nanny suddenly told you--not asked-- but told you that she had to come in earlier. Fire her so she can find a Job working for someone who does not look upon her as a slave to kowtow to your every whim.

Youve clearly never had a real job before, have you? Note that OP's boss is now requiring her to be at work earlier. Does she throw a fit, say no, and quit? No, she does the job.

OP is your nanny very young? I can't imagine a mature adult making a big deal out of this.

And this is why some blue collar workers will neber be white collar professionals. They just dont get it.

Id interview for a new nanny.

Most would be more likely than regard nannying as either pink collar or outside that type of categorization. It's not an office job (white collar), nor is it considered grueling manual labor (blue collar). It is traditionally grouped with other domestic help (pink collar).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She accepted position with a start time that is acceptable and convenient to her personal life. Maybe she has other things that she must do and coming in earlier means she is inconvenienced. OP, et AL, would have a fit if nanny suddenly told you--not asked-- but told you that she had to come in earlier. Fire her so she can find a Job working for someone who does not look upon her as a slave to kowtow to your every whim.

Youve clearly never had a real job before, have you? Note that OP's boss is now requiring her to be at work earlier. Does she throw a fit, say no, and quit? No, she does the job.

OP is your nanny very young? I can't imagine a mature adult making a big deal out of this.

And this is why some blue collar workers will neber be white collar professionals. They just dont get it.

Id interview for a new nanny.

So being a doormat makes a nanny a white collar professional?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She accepted position with a start time that is acceptable and convenient to her personal life. Maybe she has other things that she must do and coming in earlier means she is inconvenienced. OP, et AL, would have a fit if nanny suddenly told you--not asked-- but told you that she had to come in earlier. Fire her so she can find a Job working for someone who does not look upon her as a slave to kowtow to your every whim.

Youve clearly never had a real job before, have you? Note that OP's boss is now requiring her to be at work earlier. Does she throw a fit, say no, and quit? No, she does the job.

OP is your nanny very young? I can't imagine a mature adult making a big deal out of this.

And this is why some blue collar workers will neber be white collar professionals. They just dont get it.

Id interview for a new nanny.

So being a doormat makes a nanny a white collar professional?

That is not being a doormat, Dear, that is simply being employed - in any profession and in any job. Nanny included.