Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an idea.

Starve the child to make a point to your employer that you want to eat when you want to eat. And you will not eat at the same time with him, anything, in order to coax him to eat better.

Better yet, starve the child and then cook & eat your own meal while the child wets himself in the corner because you're busy drinking your shake.

Someone else can teach the child to eat. Maybe on the weekends or something. You're busy with your own food and time table.

Yes, nanny's need to eat exactly what she wants, when she wants, is the most important thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and sorry to have started such a war!

Anyway, I mentioned it to my son's wonderful nanny and she immediately agreed to eat vegetables and fresh fruit with him at lunch. She knows he has been having some issues with eating and was more than willing to do anything she could to help him.

I am blessed. Had she said no I would have respected that and not thought less of her.

Thank you for the perspectives. You all did make me realize what a sacrifice this was for her and I appreciate her all the more. And I laughed out loud over the "Todd" run!

People need to pay attention. OP's nanny agreed to eat with her charge immediately. We can stop arguing now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an idea.

Starve the child to make a point to your employer that you want to eat when you want to eat. And you will not eat at the same time with him, anything, in order to coax him to eat better.

Better yet, starve the child and then cook & eat your own meal while the child wets himself in the corner because you're busy drinking your shake.

Someone else can teach the child to eat. Maybe on the weekends or something. You're busy with your own food and time table.

You took this to a whole different level. Are you mentally ill?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child has three meals a day. Is it only lunch with the nanny? Kids can learn that people are hungry at different times, choose different foods, and so on. That's good for them. She should be sitting with him during the meal, and it'd be lovely if she wanted to have some carrots or apple slices with him, but please let this go. You have 66.6% of his meals to model "how our family eats" - he will survive one meal a day with someone who eats differently.

And two thumbs up to the hilarious part of the thread up above! You're a mom, OP. Can't you recognize how exhausting it is to field unending demands and questions and requests for a bite of your food at every meal? Let her eat in peace on her own time! "No Henry, you may not put your foot on my plate. No, we don't put our feet on our own plates either, our feet go under the table. Food stays ON the table, only feet go under it..." was the general narration of my most recent lunch as a nanny.

you think I pay you 50k a year to wake up early, dress everyone and then cook/feed my children breakfast before I go to the office at 8am. let me guess, I do that all to make your life easier when you show up to make your own oatmeal and sit at the counter.

are you really a nanny? if so you'd know you are a big part of breakfast, lunch and often dinners.

Your comment made absolutely no sense.

[Anonymous]

There are some things you just have to be flexible about when working with a nanny, and this sounds like one of them. You obviously cannot ask her to change her diet for your child. Even though you want her to eat the same thing & at the same time as your child, you can't have that with this nanny. Either accept that or if it really bothers you find a new one and make that clear in the interview. Work on the food therapy during the weekends and evenings when YOU are with your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child has three meals a day. Is it only lunch with the nanny? Kids can learn that people are hungry at different times, choose different foods, and so on. That's good for them. She should be sitting with him during the meal, and it'd be lovely if she wanted to have some carrots or apple slices with him, but please let this go. You have 66.6% of his meals to model "how our family eats" - he will survive one meal a day with someone who eats differently.

And two thumbs up to the hilarious part of the thread up above! You're a mom, OP. Can't you recognize how exhausting it is to field unending demands and questions and requests for a bite of your food at every meal? Let her eat in peace on her own time! "No Henry, you may not put your foot on my plate. No, we don't put our feet on our own plates either, our feet go under the table. Food stays ON the table, only feet go under it..." was the general narration of my most recent lunch as a nanny.

you think I pay you 50k a year to wake up early, dress everyone and then cook/feed my children breakfast before I go to the office at 8am. let me guess, I do that all to make your life easier when you show up to make your own oatmeal and sit at the counter.

are you really a nanny? if so you'd know you are a big part of breakfast, lunch and often dinners.

Your comment made absolutely no sense.

+1 What?

OP said, I thought, it was only lunch the nanny was having there. And what does pay scale or other responsibilities have to do with anything at all?

Anyway, I'm so glad things worked out for you OP! Sounds like she really cares about your family and recognizes that you respect and value her

[Anonymous]

I hate hate hate eating with my charge. He always wants what I have or in constant wiping up something or trying to get him to eat. My lunch is the only time I can enjoy a few moments of quiet time.

[Anonymous]

Hence the "Nanny as Parent" thread.

[Anonymous]

In all honesty, if this is the worst thing you can say about your nanny, then you have won the nanny lottery!

However, just to compromise...Perhaps your nanny can feed him some of the healthy meals she prepares or at least sit down when he eats and enjoy a healthy snack.

If she prefers not to, then I would just let this issue be.

If she is a great nanny in all other respects, this is cotton candy. (No pun.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is very important that DC always have "family meals". Our nanny, who is wonderful, is always on a diet and prefers to eat her lunch (which she brings everyday) after DC goes down for her nap. While I understand her position, I think it is important that DC eat lunch with the nanny.

Anyone else face this and what did you do?

Are you going to insist that his teachers sit and eat lunch with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is very important that DC always have "family meals". Our nanny, who is wonderful, is always on a diet and prefers to eat her lunch (which she brings everyday) after DC goes down for her nap. While I understand her position, I think it is important that DC eat lunch with the nanny.

Anyone else face this and what did you do?

Are you going to insist that his teachers sit and eat lunch with him?

OP already talked to her nanny and the nanny immediately agreed. Keep up, PP.

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous. When my kids were little, I made their breakfast and lunch and rately sat down and ate with them.

[Anonymous]

Parents absolutely should eat with their own children, imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In all honesty, if this is the worst thing you can say about your nanny, then you have won the nanny lottery!

However, just to compromise...Perhaps your nanny can feed him some of the healthy meals she prepares or at least sit down when he eats and enjoy a healthy snack.

If she prefers not to, then I would just let this issue be.

If she is a great nanny in all other respects, this is cotton candy. (No pun.)

No- it is a red flag that this is a nanny who will put her own preferences about the developmental needs of her charge.