Nanny doesn't want to eat lunch with DC

[Anonymous]

I prefer to eat by myself for 2 reasons.
1. Lunch is usually the only time I have to relax. I don't want to rush through lunch just to make sure I'm actually able to eat. Between cleaning up spills and making sure your child eats-my lunch can get interrupted.
2. I portion, measure and track everything I eat.
I don't want to share my lunch with your kid. Kids always ask for food that isn't theirs.
Don't make this an issue. Really. Don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.

That's nice but it is also your choice, just as it is OP's nanny's choice to drink her protein shake once her charge is napping. I am sure you have a designated break at work to eat your lunch, but in no way would your boss dictate what you must consume, nor with whom.
Most people who work full time enjoy eating their lunch in peace, why should this situation be any different?

OP has two opportunities a day to spend with her child creating "family meal time", and she needs to work within those confines. Is she going to ask her kid's teacher to eat with him once he is in school? Will all guests consuming food in the home be required to do so at the family table together? Just how much do her child's eating issues get to dictate daily life?

Actually, in many jobs there are team lunches, client lunches, etc, which means it is dictated when, with whom, and to some extent what (if you go to a certain restaurant) you eat! Another example of nannies thinking there job is in some super-special category without the requirements many working people face.

Does your boss ask 800 times to try a bite of your potatoes?
Does your client drop food all over the floor?
Does your coworker spill 3/4 of his lunch all over the table?
Do you have to remind Todd from HR that he has to finish his peas in order to have to an M&M 27 times?
If so, out have a valid point. Comparing the two is RIDICULOUS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.

That's nice but it is also your choice, just as it is OP's nanny's choice to drink her protein shake once her charge is napping. I am sure you have a designated break at work to eat your lunch, but in no way would your boss dictate what you must consume, nor with whom.
Most people who work full time enjoy eating their lunch in peace, why should this situation be any different?

OP has two opportunities a day to spend with her child creating "family meal time", and she needs to work within those confines. Is she going to ask her kid's teacher to eat with him once he is in school? Will all guests consuming food in the home be required to do so at the family table together? Just how much do her child's eating issues get to dictate daily life?

Actually, in many jobs there are team lunches, client lunches, etc, which means it is dictated when, with whom, and to some extent what (if you go to a certain restaurant) you eat! Another example of nannies thinking there job is in some super-special category without the requirements many working people face.

Does your boss ask 800 times to try a bite of your potatoes?
Does your client drop food all over the floor?
Does your coworker spill 3/4 of his lunch all over the table?
Do you have to remind Todd from HR that he has to finish his peas in order to have to an M&M 27 times?
If so, out have a valid point. Comparing the two is RIDICULOUS.

lol Thank you. The image of asking my boss if he put strawberries in his diaper again clarified your point perfectly.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous] Get a life that is not your business about her diet I hope you get help .[/quote]

it is not about her diet, a good nanny should be able to find a way to make the meal a joint experience with the child. this is about what the child needs, not the nanny's preference.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] Get a life that is not your business about her diet I hope you get help .[/quote]

it is not about her diet, a good nanny should be able to find a way to make the meal a joint experience with the child. this is about what the child needs, not the nanny's preference. [/quote]


I disagree. A meal should be relaxing and enjoyable. Forcing a nanny to eat meat when she is a vegetarian or eat on a religious day of fasting is going too far. What we ingest is personal even if it is a nanny who only eats junk food - that is her choice.

You child not sharing five meals out of twenty-one per week is not going to have any effect on his eating.

[Anonymous]

Do you have to remind Todd from HR that he has to finish his peas in order to have to an M&M 27 times?

Fuck Todd from HR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Do you have to remind Todd from HR that he has to finish his peas in order to have to an M&M 27 times?

Fuck Todd from HR.

Is he the one who always puts strawberries in his pants?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Do you have to remind Todd from HR that he has to finish his peas in order to have to an M&M 27 times?

Fuck Todd from HR.

Is he the one who always puts strawberries in his pants?

He tends to go with what's in season.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Do you have to remind Todd from HR that he has to finish his peas in order to have to an M&M 27 times?

Fuck Todd from HR.

Is he the one who always puts strawberries in his pants?

He tends to go with what's in season.

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.

That's nice but it is also your choice, just as it is OP's nanny's choice to drink her protein shake once her charge is napping. I am sure you have a designated break at work to eat your lunch, but in no way would your boss dictate what you must consume, nor with whom.
Most people who work full time enjoy eating their lunch in peace, why should this situation be any different?

OP has two opportunities a day to spend with her child creating "family meal time", and she needs to work within those confines. Is she going to ask her kid's teacher to eat with him once he is in school? Will all guests consuming food in the home be required to do so at the family table together? Just how much do her child's eating issues get to dictate daily life?

Thanks Op. Always great to post about yourself in the third person. Sounds like you've made up you're mind so this thread can RIP: you are the victim here, yes yes. Do not do anything to help your child eat. You are the victim, there is no mutual solution here. You must quit your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer to eat by myself for 2 reasons.
1. Lunch is usually the only time I have to relax. I don't want to rush through lunch just to make sure I'm actually able to eat. Between cleaning up spills and making sure your child eats-my lunch can get interrupted.
2. I portion, measure and track everything I eat.
I don't want to share my lunch with your kid. Kids always ask for food that isn't theirs.
Don't make this an issue. Really. Don't.

Sounds good Op. We hear you loud and clear.
Eat when ever you want but also devise some plans to get your charge to eat better. You are with him 40-50 hours a week, do your job. mB and he doctor suggested eating together would foster food eating habits, tell them to shove that idea up their @ss and come up with a better one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I prefer to eat by myself for 2 reasons.
1. Lunch is usually the only time I have to relax. I don't want to rush through lunch just to make sure I'm actually able to eat. Between cleaning up spills and making sure your child eats-my lunch can get interrupted.
2. I portion, measure and track everything I eat.
I don't want to share my lunch with your kid. Kids always ask for food that isn't theirs.
Don't make this an issue. Really. Don't.

Sounds good Op. We hear you loud and clear.
Eat when ever you want but also devise some plans to get your charge to eat better. You are with him 40-50 hours a week, do your job. mB and he doctor suggested eating together would foster food eating habits, tell them to shove that idea up their @ss and come up with a better one.

So funny how most parents on this forum demand that bring her OWN food. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I do my intermittent fasting days I drink water and/or nibble on carrot sticks while my children eat (I am an MB). They don't seem to notice the difference.

That's nice but it is also your choice, just as it is OP's nanny's choice to drink her protein shake once her charge is napping. I am sure you have a designated break at work to eat your lunch, but in no way would your boss dictate what you must consume, nor with whom.
Most people who work full time enjoy eating their lunch in peace, why should this situation be any different?

OP has two opportunities a day to spend with her child creating "family meal time", and she needs to work within those confines. Is she going to ask her kid's teacher to eat with him once he is in school? Will all guests consuming food in the home be required to do so at the family table together? Just how much do her child's eating issues get to dictate daily life?

Actually, in many jobs there are team lunches, client lunches, etc, which means it is dictated when, with whom, and to some extent what (if you go to a certain restaurant) you eat! Another example of nannies thinking there job is in some super-special category without the requirements many working people face.

Actually, no. I worked in an office, and I made sure that I ate before "team lunches" so that my gastro-intestinal issues wouldn't be set off by restaurant cooking. My boss had no issue with it, and I didn't eat with the rest, but had to sit there.

[Anonymous]

Child has three meals a day. Is it only lunch with the nanny? Kids can learn that people are hungry at different times, choose different foods, and so on. That's good for them. She should be sitting with him during the meal, and it'd be lovely if she wanted to have some carrots or apple slices with him, but please let this go. You have 66.6% of his meals to model "how our family eats" - he will survive one meal a day with someone who eats differently.

And two thumbs up to the hilarious part of the thread up above! You're a mom, OP. Can't you recognize how exhausting it is to field unending demands and questions and requests for a bite of your food at every meal? Let her eat in peace on her own time! "No Henry, you may not put your foot on my plate. No, we don't put our feet on our own plates either, our feet go under the table. Food stays ON the table, only feet go under it..." was the general narration of my most recent lunch as a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I prefer to eat by myself for 2 reasons.
1. Lunch is usually the only time I have to relax. I don't want to rush through lunch just to make sure I'm actually able to eat. Between cleaning up spills and making sure your child eats-my lunch can get interrupted.
2. I portion, measure and track everything I eat.
I don't want to share my lunch with your kid. Kids always ask for food that isn't theirs.
Don't make this an issue. Really. Don't.

Sounds good Op. We hear you loud and clear.
Eat when ever you want but also devise some plans to get your charge to eat better. You are with him 40-50 hours a week, do your job. mB and he doctor suggested eating together would foster food eating habits, tell them to shove that idea up their @ss and come up with a better one.

Are you drunk? I'm asking that seriously because you seem really drunk.