Reference from a pissed off boss?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:THREAD FROM 2013, PEOPLE!

Are you thinking there are no more “pissed off” parents these days? Good nannies should learn how to protect themselves from vindictive employers. Don’t you think? If you have better suggestions, please share here. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why it's so important to have regular and routine reference letters in your file. If they seem uncomfortable with it, there's your red flag. Move on ASAP.

These are not always easy to obtain so stop advising people to get one! Some employers will not give a reference every year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Giving false information when asked for a reference is something you can sue them for. Get a third party company to call them and then sue

HAHAHHAHAHAAH

I know a nanny who sued successfully. Stop laughing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why it's so important to have regular and routine reference letters in your file. If they seem uncomfortable with it, there's your red flag. Move on ASAP.

These are not always easy to obtain so stop advising people to get one! Some employers will not give a reference every year.

A savvy nanny will not waste her time with such people. She’s likely to get burned whenever she leaves them. Believe me.

[Anonymous]

Goes both ways. Seems this nanny is pretty pissed at the MB. Why would MB leave her kids all day with a nanny pissed off about her job? Kids cannot defend themselves.

It's a relationship that required trust on both sides. You may be sad about your reference but MB is worried about her kids. What exactly happened? Doesn't seem like the trusting relationship worked out and your reference is the price. MB has to miss work, find a new nanny, kids need to learn routine with someone new. Nanny is not the only victim here. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why it's so important to have regular and routine reference letters in your file. If they seem uncomfortable with it, there's your red flag. Move on ASAP.

These are not always easy to obtain so stop advising people to get one! Some employers will not give a reference every year.

I would not stay with parents who refused to write a reference letter each year.

[Anonymous]

I am a mother boss. I do not expect a reference from current NF. I am happy with at 3 references from former NFs.
It’s understandable that you may not have or unabl3 to get a reference from current NF.

[Anonymous]

Be prepared to be fired on the spot when you tell her you are leaving. Also, if you ask for a reference for extra babysitting, she will probably say no and fire you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Goes both ways. Seems this nanny is pretty pissed at the MB. Why would MB leave her kids all day with a nanny pissed off about her job? Kids cannot defend themselves.

It's a relationship that required trust on both sides. You may be sad about your reference but MB is worried about her kids. What exactly happened? Doesn't seem like the trusting relationship worked out and your reference is the price. MB has to miss work, find a new nanny, kids need to learn routine with someone new. Nanny is not the only victim here. Get over yourself.

The MB is not a victim. If she were a decent employer, the nanny would not be looking for a new job.