Reference from a pissed off boss?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

This is OP. I stopped reading this after it turned into a ridiculous argument about written references-which I NEVER mentioned. It is impossible to get advice on this forum. The simplest questions turn into a giant argument.

Its just one nutty nanny on the written references.

You have been given some good advice about how to approach the situation. It may be more difficult for you to find a position BUT think of the bright side. Since you are not currently unemployed, you aren't under pressure to take a job you don't want because your savings ran out. It may take you longer but unless you think you are about to be fired you have time to search. You may also want to pick up some regular weekend or evening babysitting jobs to secure an additional reference.

You may want to seek out moms who expecting and starting their nanny search earlier. MBs will be concerned about a nanny not being loyal or all of a sudden quitting. If you make it clear for positions its possible to start in several weeks that you want to give your current family as much notice as possible, you will look better.

...or like a martyr. Lol. GL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

It's incredibly hard to sue for slander. The burden of proof is on the person suing, the slanderer doesn't need proof it's true. The other person needs proof it's false.

I actually know an employer who got taken to the cleaners. Funny thing is, that she was completely honest when she gave a former employee a negative, but honest telephone review.

So no, it's not that hard at all to sue a former employer for slander, and win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have worked for my family for 15 months.
I'm ready to move on and am in the process of interviewing.
My boss is definitely going to be pissed off when I quit.
She is incredibly high-maintenance and I know that she will give me crap about quitting.
I can only imagine that she would give me a less than glowing reference (although I have been a good nanny to their son) to potential employers.
What do I do when people tell me they want to speak with her?

Next time follow "Essential Proceedures"?
How else can you protect yourself?

[Anonymous]

Giving false information when asked for a reference is something you can sue them for. Get a third party company to call them and then sue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Giving false information when asked for a reference is something you can sue them for. Get a third party company to call them and then sue

HAHAHHAHAHAAH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

This is exactly right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

It's incredibly hard to sue for slander. The burden of proof is on the person suing, the slanderer doesn't need proof it's true. The other person needs proof it's false.

If she is given bad references and this is reason she is not hired, she can sue for damages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

This is exactly right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

It's incredibly hard to sue for slander. The burden of proof is on the person suing, the slanderer doesn't need proof it's true. The other person needs proof it's false.

If she is given bad references and this is reason she is not hired, she can sue for damages.

This could get nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

It's incredibly hard to sue for slander. The burden of proof is on the person suing, the slanderer doesn't need proof it's true. The other person needs proof it's false.

If she is given bad references and this is reason she is not hired, she can sue for damages.

This could get nasty.

Suppose it's objective facts like she is constantly late or misses 30+ days a years "sick."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

It's incredibly hard to sue for slander. The burden of proof is on the person suing, the slanderer doesn't need proof it's true. The other person needs proof it's false.

If she is given bad references and this is reason she is not hired, she can sue for damages.

This could get nasty.

Suppose it's objective facts like she is constantly late or misses 30+ days a years "sick."

If you can document this, no worries. You should also have a copy of a warning letter you gave the sitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she says anything negative about you, she had best have proof. Or you can successfully sue her for slander.

Slander is a false statement, usually made orally, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, thus harming the reputation of the person defamed.

It's incredibly hard to sue for slander. The burden of proof is on the person suing, the slanderer doesn't need proof it's true. The other person needs proof it's false.

If she is given bad references and this is reason she is not hired, she can sue for damages.

This could get nasty.

Suppose it's objective facts like she is constantly late or misses 30+ days a years "sick."

If you can document this, no worries. You should also have a copy of a warning letter you gave the sitter.

Ancient thread!

[Anonymous]

If I agree the stay on with a family past the first 30 days, I always first get a written evaluation of my work. I want to know (in writing) if they’re pleased with my hard work.

[Anonymous]

THREAD FROM 2013, PEOPLE!