Nanny has too high expectations

[Anonymous]

I think she's an ignorant and selfish person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she's an ignorant and selfish person.

OP that is.

[Anonymous]

Really, your kids are 6 and 8 and don't say, "please" and "thank you?" Is this a troll post? By the time a child enters school there is no excuse for them not to have basic manners being a staple in their development and speech.

By age 2, any child I've worked with has been able to say both. Currently I work wit ha 3 year old, and not only does he say "please" and "thank you," he asks to be excused from the table, will take the napkin from his lap and wipe his own face off and then bring his dishes to the sink.

If her tone or demeter is off putting, such as she is extremely harsh to them or yells at them or calls them rude, then I can understand your concerns. If it's simply asking for the kids to use manner words, I don't see the problem.

[Anonymous]

I literally LOLed when OP dropped the word "entitlement".

Pot, meet Kettle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes she tells then "good job" and such. I just feel like kids shouldn't be expected to be formal. Does it rely matter how a kid asks for something. It's basic communication. I don't understand why nannies and others feel that they are due things that they aren't. It's entitlement

How did entitled nannies even get brought into this? It's not nannies wanting anything, it is talking about your children learning manners.

You are wondering if it matters how a kid asks for something, and it does. Do you go to a neighbors house and pick up a glass and go and fill it with water, or do you ask for a glass of water? Even if you don't say please, asking something like "May I have a glass of water?" or "Do you mind if I have a glass of water?" are both acceptable a well. And then hopefully you will respond back with a thank you after getting your water. This is called being polite. You don't assume you can have it even though most won't deny you basic water. You also don't demand it which is what "Give/get me some water." is. That is not a question, it is a sentence which in this situation is a demand. When do you think children are supposed to learn things like this? If you don't teach them while they are 2-8 yrs old, they are not going to suddenly learn it when they are 15-18. If anything, that is the time period they might start to drop their manners in a defiant manner and then pick them back up again once an adult. If you never teach them, they might never be polite, or have respect for others. Being formal is using the correct fork or spoon at dinner, or possibly praying before eating or things that you don't do often etc. Manners should just become part of everyday life.

I think basic communication should include phrasing things into questions instead of everything being a statement. That means, instead of making statements like "I am hungry." that the child says "I am hungry, can I have a snack?" Statements don't get them results, questions will give them the answers they are looking for. "Can I turn on the tv?" can get a "Yes", or a "Can you turn on the tv?" might get a "No, you can turn it on yourself." result.

[Anonymous]

They are 6 and 8, not infants. If you want little brats hire someone who let's them do as they please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids sound like jackasses ...just like you, no wonder you're their mother!
Only learn from the best!


exactly why kids are being BANNED from airline, restaurants, you AND YOUR BRATS have entitlements, not the other way around.

Open your ass you fool!

OMG! I know it was a typo but I almost pissed my pants

OPEN YOUR ASS YOU FOOL!!!!

I'm dying...