Nanny has too high expectations

[Anonymous]

OP does she also applaud them on their good behavior? If not then yes I'd definitely talk to her. Tell her to ease up a little. I understand teaching manners but forcing young kids to say 'please' or 'thank you' everytime, esp if she doesn't do it, would be annoying.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Yes she tells then "good job" and such. I just feel like kids shouldn't be expected to be formal. Does it rely matter how a kid asks for something. It's basic communication. I don't understand why nannies and others feel that they are due things that they aren't. It's entitlement

[Anonymous]

Trolling troll is trolly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes she tells then "good job" and such. I just feel like kids shouldn't be expected to be formal. Does it rely matter how a kid asks for something. It's basic communication. I don't understand why nannies and others feel that they are due things that they aren't. It's entitlement

So a nanny expecting children to ask politely for things is now considered entitlement? I don't understand how some parents can be so clueless. I feel sorry for your children b/c they are likely talked about for their lack of manners...a parenting failure on your part OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes she tells then "good job" and such. I just feel like kids shouldn't be expected to be formal. Does it rely matter how a kid asks for something. It's basic communication. I don't understand why nannies and others feel that they are due things that they aren't. It's entitlement

Therein lies the problem. You don't respect your nanny and don't feel like your kids have to either. Asking a child to ask nicely for something, and to say please and thank you is not formality, and the way they say things does indeed matter. Your children will not do very well, or be well liked/tolerated if they don't learn to speak and behave in a civilized manner. Being polite is a habit best learned young. Also, everyone is entitled to common courtesy, from the Queen of England to the homeless man on the corner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes she tells then "good job" and such. I just feel like kids shouldn't be expected to be formal. Does it rely matter how a kid asks for something. It's basic communication. I don't understand why nannies and others feel that they are due things that they aren't. It's entitlement

This isn't about nannies expecting something they shouldn't. It's about expecting children to speak politely. It is unfortunate you can't see that. I hope your nanny finds a job where she's appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Your kids sound like jackasses ...just like you, no wonder you're their mother!
Only learn from the best!


exactly why kids are being BANNED from airline, restaurants, you AND YOUR BRATS have entitlements, not the other way around.

Open your ass you fool!

[Anonymous]

OPPS** lol PP here. OPEN your EYES jackass!

[Anonymous]

Requiring a child to use manners isn't a formality. It's called being polite.

Yes, it DOES matter how a child asks for something. Do you honestly see no difference between, "Give me the red crayon" and "May (or can, if may is too formal) I please have the red crayon"??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you do when your son tells you, "turn on the tv"?

OP takes her orders from her children and nanny doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes she tells then "good job" and such. I just feel like kids shouldn't be expected to be formal. Does it rely matter how a kid asks for something. It's basic communication. I don't understand why nannies and others feel that they are due things that they aren't. It's entitlement

What you call "formality," the rest of the world calls "basic manners." Yes, it matters how your kids ask for things. Kids who don't learn basic manners are in for a rude awakening.

And the fact that you don't think your nanny deserves to be treated with respect by your children tells me pretty much everything I need to know about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes she tells then "good job" and such. I just feel like kids shouldn't be expected to be formal. Does it rely matter how a kid asks for something. It's basic communication. I don't understand why nannies and others feel that they are due things that they aren't. It's entitlement

How is common courtesy an entitlement? I'm in my 40's and I always say please and thank you when talking to people and when I need to ask for something. Why? Because it is common courtesy.

How do you treat people? The fact that you don't think manners and common courtesy are needed make you a very entitled person. I'm glad I'm not your nanny and I hope I never have to do business with someone like you.

[Anonymous]

OP, can you explain what you mean by saying it is entitlement?

Also, if you only expect 'basic communication' from children, is that what you expect from adults too? Children are learning vocabulary, grammar, manners and social skills from the adults around them. They are adults-in-training. If we don't teach these things, what then? Is basic communication all we should expect from adults?

[Anonymous]

I can't believe I wasted my time reading this entire thread to find that OP learned nothing from all the responses. I feel sorry for her children. -- MB

[Anonymous]

OP she a troll. Don't feed her.