How long did it take you to stop missing a former charge?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be surprised if some of these children who had beloved nannies suddenly banished from their lives, disown their evil parents down the road. For those too young to know what happened to them, they’ll just suffer with depression, or worse.
The parents will report to the psychiatrist that they can’t imagine why Laria is so sad most of the time. But let’s see if some meds will help make her be happy again.
I think there might be a special place in hell for those parents.

I agree.

This.

Yep. I am an MB and a psychologist - I agree. The parents won’t see it right away but it will manifest in later years.

[Anonymous]

I still feel the heartache of missing a former charge after seven months. I hope it goes away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My charge right now is awful and I will be dancing my way to the car on my last day and I will hopefully never spend one second thinking about my charge again after that.

MB here of a really difficult kid. I really hope that you look for a job with a child or children you like unless there is something really strange going on here. Life is too short to do a job you hate and that kid deserves better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be surprised if some of these children who had beloved nannies suddenly banished from their lives, disown their evil parents down the road. For those too young to know what happened to them, they’ll just suffer with depression, or worse.
The parents will report to the psychiatrist that they can’t imagine why Laria is so sad most of the time. But let’s see if some meds will help make her be happy again.
I think there might be a special place in hell for those parents.

I agree.

This.

Yep. I am an MB and a psychologist - I agree. The parents won’t see it right away but it will manifest in later years.

Really, I had I think two, maybe three nannies growing up. I cannot remember them for the life of me and I hated as a teen they'd visit every once in a while as I didn't remember them and had no attachment. My parents would try to get us to engage, hug, all that and it was uncomfortable. They were caretakers but they didn't replace my parents, grandparents or other family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be surprised if some of these children who had beloved nannies suddenly banished from their lives, disown their evil parents down the road. For those too young to know what happened to them, they’ll just suffer with depression, or worse.
The parents will report to the psychiatrist that they can’t imagine why Laria is so sad most of the time. But let’s see if some meds will help make her be happy again.
I think there might be a special place in hell for those parents.

I agree.

This.

Yep. I am an MB and a psychologist - I agree. The parents won’t see it right away but it will manifest in later years.

Really, I had I think two, maybe three nannies growing up. I cannot remember them for the life of me and I hated as a teen they'd visit every once in a while as I didn't remember them and had no attachment. My parents would try to get us to engage, hug, all that and it was uncomfortable. They were caretakers but they didn't replace my parents, grandparents or other family.

You weren’t bonded to your nannies. Can you understand how different it would have been for you had you been bonded and she simply disappeared one day? OP and others are talking about having one loved nanny from birth to three-years-old who is there one day and gone the next.
Can you see how this would be damaging to a young child?

And no one is saying that a nanny can replace a parent or grandparent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be surprised if some of these children who had beloved nannies suddenly banished from their lives, disown their evil parents down the road. For those too young to know what happened to them, they’ll just suffer with depression, or worse.
The parents will report to the psychiatrist that they can’t imagine why Laria is so sad most of the time. But let’s see if some meds will help make her be happy again.
I think there might be a special place in hell for those parents.

I agree.

This.

Yep. I am an MB and a psychologist - I agree. The parents won’t see it right away but it will manifest in later years.

+1. I am an MB and I agree with this. Having a nanny just disappear one day after the child loved and was bonded to her is damaging.