Anonymous wrote:I'm a MB and loathe to post, but I'm afraid I'm irritated and it's growing. I'm looking to know what other MBs and Nannies think about this. My son is 10 months old and has been with his nanny for 3 months. I work from home a half day and see clients out of the house the other part of each day. I do like the nanny, and my son seems to love her, and she seems to love him, too, almost too much in my opinion. She has shared that when her kids were little, she worked outside of the home and is enjoying the baby stage with my son. Nanny is not perfect, and that is okay, I am glad she and he are happy, and I would hate it if he did not feel good about his caregiver when I am not here.
BUT - and this is just a gut feeling - sometimes it feels like she wants to take his attention from me and she is competing with me for his love. If I am nursing him when she is here, she will come and stand in his line of sight and speak to him, which anyone with a 10 month old on the boob knows is hard to keep him focused! Or if it is the end of the day and I come home, he will reach for me (or I will reach for him), and she will turn with him in her arms for a big hug and then does not give him to me. She makes a big deal about leaving at the end of the day to see if he will cry - I always leave as subtly as possible to make sure he DOES NOT cry! Right in front of me, she tried to get him to take his first steps - to her! I said something like, oh no, let's wait for his Daddy to come home, but it felt like a stupid mistake on her part and I sense this underlying greediness in her about my son. She can't wait for him to be one year old and able to drink cow's milk so that she can feed him without my pumped milk and without me nursing. She always says she wants to take him home to her house with her. I know I probably sound crazy - but I am considering day care centers because it already hurts that I don't get to be with him as much as I want and the thought that she is keeping his attention and taking his attention for herself when I am here makes me mad. And it makes me think she is STUPID!
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