Big Law attorney turned.... nanny?

[Anonymous]

^^That is correct. Obviously, our child-raising philosophies would have to mesh but, otherwise, I think I'm getting a good deal for the peace of mind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Question for those of you who said you would hire OP at $15/hr to bring her son along: Do you currently hire a nanny? Does that nanny bring her own child along? What do you pay her?

I suspect these people like the idea of "someone like them" (read: white, American, highly educated), and live in areas where the nanny they would more likely employ is $20-$25/hr.. Then, OP is a bargain. I still don't see them dropping their kid off at her house for that rate, though.

NP. True, but I also think these families would be pretty upset the first time OP's kid bites theirs or gets their angel sick (very likely with older sis bringing home kindergarten cooties each day).

Not so. That is significant savings for someone like me to watch my child when I cannot. I would give it a year and then we could reevaluate whether it works for both parties.

From reading DCUM, it seems that in most nanny shares in this area, each family pays about $10-12/hr. Plus in a true nanny share, each child and family is on more "equal footing" as opposed to this situation. So you would be paying substantially more, for less equal status--so that a top tier law school graduate can be your nanny?

OP is more of a SAHM taking in a child for income. She probably will not alter her lifestyle to focus on that child. She will have her two kids with her. She is doing it in her home for her convince.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Question for those of you who said you would hire OP at $15/hr to bring her son along: Do you currently hire a nanny? Does that nanny bring her own child along? What do you pay her?

I suspect these people like the idea of "someone like them" (read: white, American, highly educated), and live in areas where the nanny they would more likely employ is $20-$25/hr.. Then, OP is a bargain. I still don't see them dropping their kid off at her house for that rate, though.

NP. True, but I also think these families would be pretty upset the first time OP's kid bites theirs or gets their angel sick (very likely with older sis bringing home kindergarten cooties each day).

Not so. That is significant savings for someone like me to watch my child when I cannot. I would give it a year and then we could reevaluate whether it works for both parties.

From reading DCUM, it seems that in most nanny shares in this area, each family pays about $10-12/hr. Plus in a true nanny share, each child and family is on more "equal footing" as opposed to this situation. So you would be paying substantially more, for less equal status--so that a top tier law school graduate can be your nanny?

OP is more of a SAHM taking in a child for income. She probably will not alter her lifestyle to focus on that child. She will have her two kids with her. She is doing it in her home for her convince.

Well, OP claims her older child will not be there. So she will have her Dh trek her daughter out to the before school care program at school at 6 am and then the daughter will stay there until the after school program closes around 6 pm. So that OP can be a "SAHM" for the baby boy. But not the daughter. She can stay "in school full time." Sucks to be the older daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^That is correct. Obviously, our child-raising philosophies would have to mesh but, otherwise, I think I'm getting a good deal for the peace of mind.

So the fact that OP hasn't even cared for her own children full-time would be inconsequential to you? You would be fine with someone with no credentials, limited and outdated references and the messy complication of her own kid coming along as long as she was "like you?" That is some grade A blind elitism you are sporting there, my friend! OP, you have met your soul mate!

[Anonymous]

Your degree in this case is irrelevant. I would prefer not to leave my kid with a nanny who is also taking care of her kid, because, if push came to shove (as it will, many times over), the nanny would always meet the needs of her own child before taking care of mine.

[Anonymous]

OP,
I do think you could find someone to hire you while bringing your son along--but I don't think it will be for the wage you want or how you envision it.

Because you have no relevant experience (no, babysitting in high school and college is not the same thing) you will not be able to command a top salary. You will probably be able to get $10-12/hr (likely closer to 10) IF you bring your son to THEIR house, and your daughter is never along. This would mean having absolutely no involvement with your daughter during working hours (so 7 am-6 pm ish?) So teacher work days, snow days, spring break, all summer, etc.--you will have to find alternate care for her or take a day off. Field trips, special school events, passing out cupcakes on her birthday? Too bad, you won't be there. You will essentially be a "SAHM" who sees her oldest child on the weekends and for 20 minutes before bedtime.

If you wanted more time with your daughter--watching the other baby at your home, flexibility to have her come home at the end of the school day instead of aftercare, etc. You could format it more like a home daycare--but then you'd really need to charge closer to $200/week for full time care.

Sure, there are a few posters that have said they'd love to hire you at $15/hr--but notice that isn't what they are actually doing. None of them actually have a nanny situation like what you are hoping for.

[Anonymous]

I'm an attorney that graduated from a top tier law school, and your education would be a negative to me because I'd worry you would leave the job and because I'd think you were strange to be nannying in the first place.

A nanny with their own child is a deal breaker for me anyways. No way I'm putting my kid in a situation where they always come second.

Your rate is insane. We had a nanny for $17 an hour with a masters in childhood education.

[Anonymous]

OP -- I'm similar to you in background and, elitist as it may sound, I would absolutely view your education, etc as a huge plus. That said, market rate for a share in DC is $10-$13/hour per family and that's exactly what I'd view your setup as. Also, I think the lack of nannying experience and the sharing with someone's own kid would both be negatives to balance out the positive of the background. So while I'd be game to hire you, I wouldn't -- and can't imagine who would -- pay you $15/hour. $10 is what I'd be thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I definitely would NOT do this if it's for 200-300/week. I was thinking closer to $15/hour ($3000/mo for full time). That would be enough extra cash to continue finish paying down my student loans and have some breathing room in our budget.

I can look into the adjunct thing. I really don't want to do legal work on the side.

My ideal would be to find someone who has an older child who goes to my DD's school and a baby who needs care, so that they'd be on the same schedule as us and live/commute to our area.

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Serious question- who do you think you are? Let's be real here. No one is going to pay you $15/hr when you have zero nanny experience and haven't even looked after your own kids full time!! Nannies with 10 years experience don't make $15/hr from a share ($15 + $15 = $30hr, you have to count your kids). You say your other child will be away the whole time which is 1) awful 2) red flag (why hire someone who can't care for their own child?) 3) not true. There's sick days, snow days and school closures. When the newborn needs shots, I suppose your 'share' child will have to come? If you run out of diapers or an emergency item and have to go to the store, share child will have to come?

Your situation is wayyyyy more complicated than a nanny who comes to the house in a share without kids, potential errands, school closures and an elitist attitude. The biggest red flag is that you think you are entitled to $3000 a month (haaaaaaa) and don't deserve typical share rates when you have zero nanny experience. You also aren't doing this because you like kids (clearly you're not a caring person if your other child is sent away from early morning to evening to make your life convenient) you're only doing it for the money. RED FLAG.

[Anonymous]

LA nanny here- You could get this in LA, probably nowhere else. White, American educated nannies here earn $25-$35 and sometimes $40/hr for special needs. For sure you could get $15/hr here but probably nowhere else in the US. I earn $30/hr with one family and $40/hr for my weekend job where it's special needs. Undocumented nannies in Beverly Hills earn $20/hr. Move to LA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP -- I'm similar to you in background and, elitist as it may sound, I would absolutely view your education, etc as a huge plus. That said, market rate for a share in DC is $10-$13/hour per family and that's exactly what I'd view your setup as. Also, I think the lack of nannying experience and the sharing with someone's own kid would both be negatives to balance out the positive of the background. So while I'd be game to hire you, I wouldn't -- and can't imagine who would -- pay you $15/hour. $10 is what I'd be thinking.

I am the poster ragging on a PP for elitism and I see no issue with wanting a nanny with a prestigious education, provided that isn't the ONLY factor you are looking for, at the expense of actual proven ability to successfully care for at least one child for days on end with no breaks.

[Anonymous]

I think we scared OP away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we scared OP away.

She'll find someone to pay her rate.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine borrowing so much money in student loans and then realizing you aren't cut out to work in your chosen field anymore but still have all that money to pay back. OP, what you are asking is a lot perhaps do a part time home based work while keeping an eye on your baby?

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP for all the mean/snarky comments on here.

You asked a legit question & have received a lot of unjustified criticism back.