WiFi Code

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone made an excellent point.

How in the world can you trust someone to be responsible for your child all day long....Yet not trust that they won't access WiFi before his nap.

I see ZERO logic here.
Plus from how you are phrasing your words, you sound more like a mother than a boss.

I feel bad for your nanny. Hopefully she finds some normal people to work for!

Not sure what prevents you from seeing the difference.

I trust nanny NOT to abuse and neglect my child and protect them from general harm

I do not trust nanny to be 100% focused on my child, to not take long phone calls, to be on her phone throughout the day, etc. So I do what I can to eliminate some of these issues.

If you don't trust your nanny to be focused on your child, you need a new nanny, to put your child in daycare or to stay home with your child yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone made an excellent point.

How in the world can you trust someone to be responsible for your child all day long....Yet not trust that they won't access WiFi before his nap.

I see ZERO logic here.
Plus from how you are phrasing your words, you sound more like a mother than a boss.

I feel bad for your nanny. Hopefully she finds some normal people to work for!

Not sure what prevents you from seeing the difference.

I trust nanny NOT to abuse and neglect my child and protect them from general harm

I do not trust nanny to be 100% focused on my child, to not take long phone calls, to be on her phone throughout the day, etc. So I do what I can to eliminate some of these issues.

Why is your expectation 100% focus constantly? That's ridiculous and what's led you down this crazy road. No one focusses on anything constantly for hours at a time, and that includes your precious snowflake. You seriously need to chill out or parenthood is going to kill you.

[Anonymous]

Then ultimately what you are indirectly stating is that for you & you ALONE....As long as your child is not being neglected or abused, then that is good enough for you.

This is just sad. Very sad.

And then you state that you don't trust your nanny 100% yet you leave your child alone w/her.

Even sadder.

Parents should advocate to the hilt for their kids...Why can't you??!

This truly baffles me.

[Anonymous]

Trust is earned, not given. Clearly OP has not yet had reason to trust her nanny on the WiFi issue. Why? I have no idea. For myself, I've definitely seen our nanny on her phone for extended periods of time. Never mind we talked in the interview about our expectation that phone use be limited to nap time only and the nanny said that was no problem, of course she'd never dream of being on her phone while DC was awake. Never mind that I've brought this up more than once. Makes me wonder what is happening at the play ground where there are no cameras. Makes me wonder if it is possible to believe anyone who says they won't use their phone in an interview. It comes down to integrity. Someone agrees to act (or in this case not act) in a certain way, and then does the exact opposite. It creates a trust issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust is earned, not given. Clearly OP has not yet had reason to trust her nanny on the WiFi issue. Why? I have no idea. For myself, I've definitely seen our nanny on her phone for extended periods of time. Never mind we talked in the interview about our expectation that phone use be limited to nap time only and the nanny said that was no problem, of course she'd never dream of being on her phone while DC was awake. Never mind that I've brought this up more than once. Makes me wonder what is happening at the play ground where there are no cameras. Makes me wonder if it is possible to believe anyone who says they won't use their phone in an interview. It comes down to integrity. Someone agrees to act (or in this case not act) in a certain way, and then does the exact opposite. It creates a trust issue.

On the one hand the people on here will say if you aren't happy with your nanny you should fire her, but on the other hand they will also say you should never fire your nanny for something so trivial. @@

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trust is earned, not given. Clearly OP has not yet had reason to trust her nanny on the WiFi issue. Why? I have no idea. For myself, I've definitely seen our nanny on her phone for extended periods of time. Never mind we talked in the interview about our expectation that phone use be limited to nap time only and the nanny said that was no problem, of course she'd never dream of being on her phone while DC was awake. Never mind that I've brought this up more than once. Makes me wonder what is happening at the play ground where there are no cameras. Makes me wonder if it is possible to believe anyone who says they won't use their phone in an interview. It comes down to integrity. Someone agrees to act (or in this case not act) in a certain way, and then does the exact opposite. It creates a trust issue.

On the one hand the people on here will say if you aren't happy with your nanny you should fire her, but on the other hand they will also say you should never fire your nanny for something so trivial. @@

I make it clear in the interview that I don't use television with young children. I also make sure that the parents knows that I use my phone for select reasons when my charge is awake (videos for child to watch of him/herself, pictures for parents and relatives, music, calls and texts directly related to child). However, I have references who all say that I stick to those rules, and that their older children complained and tried to have the parents change my mind (didn't work). Most people trust a child who complains about the nanny not having games on her phone and/or not allowing the child to watch cartoons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust is earned, not given. Clearly OP has not yet had reason to trust her nanny on the WiFi issue. Why? I have no idea. For myself, I've definitely seen our nanny on her phone for extended periods of time. Never mind we talked in the interview about our expectation that phone use be limited to nap time only and the nanny said that was no problem, of course she'd never dream of being on her phone while DC was awake. Never mind that I've brought this up more than once. Makes me wonder what is happening at the play ground where there are no cameras. Makes me wonder if it is possible to believe anyone who says they won't use their phone in an interview. It comes down to integrity. Someone agrees to act (or in this case not act) in a certain way, and then does the exact opposite. It creates a trust issue.

Well there was your giant red flag. It is totally reasonable that a nanny might need or WANT to be on her phone at some point when a child is awake and this woman was flat out lying when she made that statement. Flame away but when my 5 year old charge was sitting quietly playing/drawing/working on a puzzle and all of my other tasks were done, I was certainly going to check my facebook or read a news article. I (and most adults) would go insane if this were not an option.

I am currently a pediatric ICU nurse. I am responsible for dying children, literally, and my employers have no problem with us occasionally checking our email or even watching a dumb youtube clip during our downtime (read: not on break!) .

Why are parents so obsessed with having an adult interact with their child 100% of the day? Why is an adult doing regular adult things, like looking at a phone, not allowed for nannies? MB's how many of you lock your phones in a drawer and are strictly engaged in work activities during your entire day? As one PP pointed out, if you trust a person to care for your child, why don't you trust that they can responsibly engage in other activities throughout the day; why the double standard and micromanaging for something so petty?

[Anonymous]

MB here. I don't see the double standard. My day job does not involve small humans who can choke on something in a matter of seconds if I'm not paying attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I don't see the double standard. My day job does not involve small humans who can choke on something in a matter of seconds if I'm not paying attention.

And what's the excuse for half of the child's nap, but not the other half of the nap?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I don't see the double standard. My day job does not involve small humans who can choke on something in a matter of seconds if I'm not paying attention.

You have hired someone mightily challenged if you think they are unable to make sure a child doesn't choke and do ANYTHING else at the same time. Come to think of it, you might be pretty challenged yourself if you think keeping a child safe means you can never take your eyes off of them.

[Anonymous]

How much do you parents really expect from a nanny with no education? She is going to devote her whole life and day to your child for $10 an hour?? Of course she is going to be on her phone and watching Hulu at the park. Get a grip

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much do you parents really expect from a nanny with no education? She is going to devote her whole life and day to your child for $10 an hour?? Of course she is going to be on her phone and watching Hulu at the park. Get a grip

1. Not all nannies are the uneducated bumpkins you assume.

2. Professional nannies don't accept $10/hour.

3. Professional nannies don't sit on their phones all day or watch Hulu at the park. We are discussing wifi during the charge's nap, not during the rest of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am constantly listening to music and using the Internet for projects for the kids. I am also an adult and may have an email to read or a task to complete during the workday, just like all the MBs out there. I would never work for a family that didn't have respect for me and an understanding of how life works for all adults.

How life works for ACTUAL adults is that we don't expect everyone's WiFi to be available to us. Use data on your phone for your occasional email or task. You only need WiFi if you're on your phone too much.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, maybe you could bring this up to your MB since this is what I do with my nanny and it works wonderfully.

I gave the nanny our wifi code, but since shes only here on days we are not I set up some rules on the router to block certain sites and such but most importantly the wifi only work for 1 hour right in the middle of nap. I didn't want the nanny rushing our son to sleep or letting him oversleep because she was playing on the phone, so I set it to kick on 30 minutes after nap usually starts and runs for 1 hour, which is about 30 minutes before he generally wakes up since he is napping for 2 hours.

That is a win win, maybe you can bring it up.

I think your idea is brilliant!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, maybe you could bring this up to your MB since this is what I do with my nanny and it works wonderfully.

I gave the nanny our wifi code, but since shes only here on days we are not I set up some rules on the router to block certain sites and such but most importantly the wifi only work for 1 hour right in the middle of nap. I didn't want the nanny rushing our son to sleep or letting him oversleep because she was playing on the phone, so I set it to kick on 30 minutes after nap usually starts and runs for 1 hour, which is about 30 minutes before he generally wakes up since he is napping for 2 hours.

That is a win win, maybe you can bring it up.

I think your idea is brilliant!

Especially so because when the nanny is in the middle of looking for classes or projects to offer your child, or writing a personal yet important email losing her work when the wifi dies is a fantastic thing!!