I went through nanny's phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Never went through our nanny’s phone (not ok). We did have a situation in which we traveled as a family and brought the nanny. The nanny was constantly on her phone (unusual for her as she is an older nanny) and this was during the holidays. I leaned in to give the nanny a hug (I was standing behind her) while she was on the couch with phone in hand. When I leaned in from behind to hug her I saw she was saying how she could not stand to be around me and could not last being in the same house as me while I would be on maternity leave for 4 months (I was pregnant with my second child at the time). I mentioned this to my husband who was already livid with her as we had asked her not to sleep in the same bed as our 3 year old on the trip but she did so anyway (common for her to ignore parents wishes and do as she pleased). When we flew back home, my husband said he looked over (he was sitting next to the nanny on the flight back home) he saw that she was writing on her phone how I was a “b*tch”. I had no idea nanny hated me this much as in the three years she was employed by us as I thought we had a pleasant relationship. We did fire her when we came back for a variety of reasons.

You leaned over to hug her? Bull crap! Frankly, from your list, you are exactly what she said you were. Also, your 3 yr old probably wanted to stay in room with her parents but you're too selfish so she slept in bed with the only person she knew who actualy loved her. Why would your husband care if she slept in bed with nanny. I do not niece a word you wrote.

You are your husband should have respected your nanny’s privacy. That’s a hell of a lot of accidentally reading someone’s phone for one trip! And you should have talked to her about her being unhappy.

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To the poster of 10:04. Yes, boundaries. You hit it on the nail. While my former nanny has spent a lot of time telling her former employers and just about anyone who would listen of how awful of a person, parent, and human I am (and how she hopes my daughter turns out troubled like her mother), I have taken the time to understand what went wrong (specifically how I contributed to the situation and what I could have done differently) and how I can be a better employer. I now taken it upon myself to constantly check in with my nanny as well as other household staff vs waiting for them to come to me if there's any issue. I have implemented some much needed boundaries and will never again allow myself to be in the situation I found myself in with our former nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should fire yourself from being an employer immediately. Seriously, when you work in someone's home you DO have an expectation of privacy, especially of your own items. It's not as if you work in a law firm and looked at your assistant's company computer.

You should feel COMPLETELY guilty. She doesn't HAVE to tell you she has a Facebook page. It's none of your business.

-MB who thinks you're completely in the wrong.

Agree. Nannies should not automatically trust their employers.

Why did you pull this up from 2015? Bored?

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Anonymous wrote:I sincerely hope you are a troll.

I doubt someone would actually do that...

I know someone who would.

[Anonymous]

Omg

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Anonymous wrote:This post is 4 years old................. stop replying

Or you could simply scroll up and press the "back" button on your browser. The conversation isn't yours to stop.

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What a bad rude and disrespectful person you are. Bcs you are her boss don't make you have the right of break her privacy. It's her phone. How would you feel if she was the one checking your phone one day while you forgot it at home. And also it's ridiculous the way that you are blaming her for having more of pics of your kids that you have never seen them. I also take lot of pics of my charges; whom a love them so much but no always send to the mom everysingle pic. Usually i just send the cutest and funniest. And i am not going to be sending then mom so many pics bothering while they are busy at work and make their phones full with so many pics. I think they would block me haha. In short. You are so nasty.