s/o does anyone offer maternity leave to nannies?

[Anonymous]

She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

You understand that maternity leave that is paid is generally accrued annual and sick leave. If a nanny has it to take, great, but if not, its like the rest of us LWP. Families have to pay for another caretaker while the nanny is out on leave. Most cannot afford to pay two full salaries, especially when there is no guarantee a nanny will come back after you pay maternity leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

You understand that maternity leave that is paid is generally accrued annual and sick leave. If a nanny has it to take, great, but if not, its like the rest of us LWP. Families have to pay for another caretaker while the nanny is out on leave. Most cannot afford to pay two full salaries, especially when there is no guarantee a nanny will come back after you pay maternity leave.

I wouldn't hold out hope that the pp to which you're responding will understand much of any other viewpoint, other than her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

You understand that maternity leave that is paid is generally accrued annual and sick leave. If a nanny has it to take, great, but if not, its like the rest of us LWP. Families have to pay for another caretaker while the nanny is out on leave. Most cannot afford to pay two full salaries, especially when there is no guarantee a nanny will come back after you pay maternity leave.

Then, as an employer, why must I hold a job open for you if I have over a certain number of employees? I have no guarantee that you come back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

Oh yea, treated her right and ended up with a subpar temp nanny for 14+ weeks. Sounds like a win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

Oh yea, treated her right and ended up with a subpar temp nanny for 14+ weeks. Sounds like a win.

Pp who gave nanny maternity leave. We were fortunate. 6 weeks were covered by vacation time and shifting hours around. The other 9 weeks we actually sent our sons to a daycare that many of my older son's (PreK) friends went to. It was summer and they had temporary openings because some people take their kids out for the summer. We had a fabulous experience with the daycare.

It wasn't all roses though. DH and I basically used up most of our vacation time for the year and exhausted our family's help for awhile, but the fact that we were able to maintain a good relationship with nanny made it all worth it.

[Anonymous]

You're a good person pp

[Anonymous]

I'm a pregnant nanny and will go back to work 2 weeks after I give birth. 2 weeks is easily covered so no biggie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a pregnant nanny and will go back to work 2 weeks after I give birth. 2 weeks is easily covered so no biggie.

I hope you don't have any complications. Good luck and congrats!

[Anonymous]

My former nanny family offered me paid maternity leave under the condition that I planned to return to work for them (and I was only their part-time employee, by the way). Ultimately I decided not to pick up the part-time job again after I had baby, as I would have my hands full with her and my full-time career. I communicated that to them while I was still pregnant and worked for them basically up until the day I gave birth.

Even though I did not take them up on the offer, I really appreciated that they offered it to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

Oh yea, treated her right and ended up with a subpar temp nanny for 14+ weeks. Sounds like a win.

Pp who gave nanny maternity leave. We were fortunate. 6 weeks were covered by vacation time and shifting hours around. The other 9 weeks we actually sent our sons to a daycare that many of my older son's (PreK) friends went to. It was summer and they had temporary openings because some people take their kids out for the summer. We had a fabulous experience with the daycare.

It wasn't all roses though. DH and I basically used up most of our vacation time for the year and exhausted our family's help for awhile, but the fact that we were able to maintain a good relationship with nanny made it all worth it.

Thank you for sharing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

Oh yea, treated her right and ended up with a subpar temp nanny for 14+ weeks. Sounds like a win.

Pp who gave nanny maternity leave. We were fortunate. 6 weeks were covered by vacation time and shifting hours around. The other 9 weeks we actually sent our sons to a daycare that many of my older son's (PreK) friends went to. It was summer and they had temporary openings because some people take their kids out for the summer. We had a fabulous experience with the daycare.

It wasn't all roses though. DH and I basically used up most of our vacation time for the year and exhausted our family's help for awhile, but the fact that we were able to maintain a good relationship with nanny made it all worth it.

Thank you for sharing this.

You're welcome. I would even deal with 14 weeks of a subpar nanny knowing an amazing nanny was going to be coming back. The kids' nanny is well worth many, many sacrifices

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She took 4 weeks PTO time, another 3 weeks that we paid her, and then 7 weeks unpaid. It was the best we could do. We told her we could cover 16 weeks from when she started her leave but at 14 weeks she felt like she wasn't going to be ready to come back we needed to have a sit down to discuss the future.

She had been with us for 3 years so we trusted that she wouldn't bail without any notice. And she didn't. She has now been with us for 5 years

To the selfish MBs, read above and profit thereby. Treating your childcare gives properly pays off for all concerned.

You understand that maternity leave that is paid is generally accrued annual and sick leave. If a nanny has it to take, great, but if not, its like the rest of us LWP. Families have to pay for another caretaker while the nanny is out on leave. Most cannot afford to pay two full salaries, especially when there is no guarantee a nanny will come back after you pay maternity leave.

Then, as an employer, why must I hold a job open for you if I have over a certain number of employees? I have no guarantee that you come back.

Because when you have 75 employees (the minimum for required FMLA leave), you can give each employee 1/75 of the missing employee's work while she is out. If you have one employee, your only option is to hire another person, at 100% of the first employee's salary.

Some large companies may choose to get a temp, or may only distribute the missing employee's work among fewer people, but the principle is the same: a larger company can absorb the impact of a missing employee with far less trouble.