MB cried hysterically

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.


-OP.

Just go away OP. No one here thinks you're the martyred wronged party. The MB will find a solution, hopefully someone of better nature. Hopefully you'll find a position with an employer for whom you have more respect when you're ready to return.

Different poster here, and you need to STFU.

Guess you failed charm school. You're probably also the OP.

No, I'm not OP, and yes, I get paid to teach manners. Part of that means NOT being your doormat. Sorry.

You get paid to teach manners? Sure you do. Sure honey. I am laughing at you though, so thanks for the entertainment.

I'm laughing at you too, hon, all the way to the bank.

[Anonymous]

Op here.

I wont stay on with them because I honestly don't have a date of return to give them. I think it would be worse for me to say "I will be back on Sept 1" and end up having to renege on that promise when I have to stay in my home country.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to leave then I think it is unfair people are bashing you. I assume it is a dire situation that absolutely requires your physical prescence. If so, then there is nothing more you could have done. Depending on the circumstances, staying another week might not be wise. For example, my aunt is in the hospital now, due to lung cancer, and is not expected to live much longer. If I were out of the country, I would not wait an extra week just in case she made it just so MB could have more time to find a back up. I give that example to say, you know what actions are justified in your own situation better then anyone else. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Guilt is not helping anyone. Make every effort to be helpful then let yourself be free of the guilt knowing you did everything possible.

I am in a similar scenario. The only reason I thought that MB was overreacting, was because it seems like when you weigh out the two scenarios (left without a nanny vs. needing to go see a dying relative), her's is probably the lesser of two.


-OP.

That's fine, I don't think anyone disagrees with you that you need to leave but then accept the crappy situation for everyone and just go. It's your condemnation of your MB for being upset that I think most people have a problem with. It's not as if your MB is angry at you or telling you not to go. Just because your situation may be worse doesn't mean she's not allowed to be upset too.

^This. I'm sorry about your relative OP, but how terrible and petty for you to say that MB is not allowed to be super upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are planning to come back, why quit? I would rather you go home to help your family (as that is what I would do) and then come back. Its not like you are asking them to pay you in the interim. Its summer. For a few weeks if the kids are 3+, they can always go to summer camps. If younger, your friend sounds like the perfect solution. If you are wonderful, I'd be upset you were leaving and not willing to come back. If you are coming back and I know your friend, that would be fine for us and I'd be happy to have you back when your family situation is resolved.

Exactly. There is a big difference between telling the employer you have a family emergency and need time off right away vs. just quitting with no real notice and no consideration for what this will do to your charges. You seem to lack emotional intelligence, OP.

[Anonymous]

I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

I'm calling troll at this point. No one is this dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

I'm calling troll at this point. No one is this dumb.

What exactly is wrong with that line of thinking?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

I'm calling troll at this point. No one is this dumb.

What exactly is wrong with that line of thinking?

You did not require a leave of absence with length unknown due to a family emergency - you quit. Both could have the exact same outcome but you chose the crueler or the two possible paths. I'm sorry you cannot see this.

It doesn't matter now - you did what you did - I'm sure she was just taken by surprise and is probably fine about you leaving now.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

I'm calling troll at this point. No one is this dumb.

What exactly is wrong with that line of thinking?

You did not require a leave of absence with length unknown due to a family emergency - you quit. Both could have the exact same outcome but you chose the crueler or the two possible paths. I'm sorry you cannot see this.

It doesn't matter now - you did what you did - I'm sure she was just taken by surprise and is probably fine about you leaving now.

Different poster here. You sound like a peach.

[Anonymous]

OP is a classic narcissist. It's all about her. She never once mentioned leaving her charges or who will care for them - it's "me, me, me". She doesn't even have the decency to accept that a working mother may be scared about her children's welfare and/or her job without childcare next week. She is getting an ego boost from her employer's tears.

The family and children are better off without her. And her "home country" can have her!

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

I'm calling troll at this point. No one is this dumb.

What exactly is wrong with that line of thinking?

You did not require a leave of absence with length unknown due to a family emergency - you quit. Both could have the exact same outcome but you chose the crueler or the two possible paths. I'm sorry you cannot see this.

It doesn't matter now - you did what you did - I'm sure she was just taken by surprise and is probably fine about you leaving now.

Different poster here. You sound like a peach.

Sorry, OP, I call it as I see it - I am honest. You chose a the cruelest option when it would have cost you NOTHING to do it with kindness and understanding. The outcome would have been the same. You demonstrated callousness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is a classic narcissist. It's all about her. She never once mentioned leaving her charges or who will care for them - it's "me, me, me". She doesn't even have the decency to accept that a working mother may be scared about her children's welfare and/or her job without childcare next week. She is getting an ego boost from her employer's tears.

The family and children are better off without her. And her "home country" can have her!

+1 OP is a sick woman. Good riddance. And I'm tired of her pretending to be other people on this thread by typing a lame "New poster here" before her latest attack or defense. Tiresome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it makes more sense to leave and have no obligation to the family than to have to string them along if I can't come back on time.

I'm calling troll at this point. No one is this dumb.

What exactly is wrong with that line of thinking?

Nothing. But no one is harping on you for THAT. But you are too dumb and narcissistic to realize that.