MB cried hysterically

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I quit today. I can only give one week of notice because if family issues. MB came home from work like she normally does. She is a nurse and works nights. When she came in and asked how things were, I broke the news. She said that she understood and then began hysterically crying. How would you rectify the situation?

I think you are bragging. Poor MB, I feel for her.

What are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Other than offer a friend to replace
you there isn't too much you can do.
If she doesn't understand then shame
on her, things happen. Do what you
to do, both parties will be fine.

[Anonymous]

I would cry too if a trusted nanny only gave me one weeks notice that she was leaving. That is unacceptable. You are putting her in a situation where she will probably have to choose between questionable short-term care or missing work and potentially losing her job.

[Anonymous]

Every MB knows the cardinal rule: backup care.

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP, you're both unkind and unprofessional. You come here and tell a story about your MB crying because she just lost her trusted childcare with very little notice and you ask how to rectify the situation.

You know how to rectify it. Don't screw them over by giving so little notice. But you say you can't do that and you don't even care. How do I know you don't care? Because of your incredibly insensitive followup that you think they have lots of money and can just find another nanny with an agency.

So you screwed your NF with no notice and then, meanly, came here to share her very understandable reaction. Unbelievable. Frankly, if you really, really want to rectify it, this is what you do. If they offer you any severance (they shouldn't) or any bonus, you should refuse it and explain it wouldn't be right for you to take anything extra when you have treated them badly.



(I find it very interesting that the nanny troll who laments the departure of nannies on the well being of children is silent when it's the nanny who treats the employer badly with a hasty departure.)

[Anonymous]

Op here. What can I do. I have an emergency taking place in Europe that I need to attend to. Honestly, the money that MB and DB have is irrelevant. I suppose that I was rationalizing with the fact that they could afford it. For that, I apologize. I obviously do feel bad because I hate to have to do this, but this is what it comes to. I cannot just ignore family obligations because of my nanny family. I'm sorry but it doesn't work that way. DB has even taken his kids to the free daycare in his workplace in the past when they have given me time off. Pp, I think that you are overreacting and being very one sided. If you had a family emergency, would you be sticking around to make sure your employer was okay?

[Anonymous]

Why did you post here at all, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you post here at all, OP?

Because I was wondering if it was completely terrible that I quit my job. I kind of felt that MB's response was an overreaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. What can I do. I have an emergency taking place in Europe that I need to attend to. Honestly, the money that MB and DB have is irrelevant. I suppose that I was rationalizing with the fact that they could afford it. For that, I apologize. I obviously do feel bad because I hate to have to do this, but this is what it comes to. I cannot just ignore family obligations because of my nanny family. I'm sorry but it doesn't work that way. DB has even taken his kids to the free daycare in his workplace in the past when they have given me time off. Pp, I think that you are overreacting and being very one sided. If you had a family emergency, would you be sticking around to make sure your employer was okay?

Yes, nothing is more important then keeping your word. Honestly, go to Europe and stay there. We don't want you in this country and I hope you never work a job again since you clearly don't appreciate it. Have a nice life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you post here at all, OP?

Because I was wondering if it was completely terrible that I quit my job. I kind of felt that MB's response was an overreaction.

How is being sad that a beloved employee leaving you an overreaction? Showing emotions is normal...

[Anonymous]

Legally she cannot sue you because employment is at will and is a civil matter and most people do not take the time and effort to go into a court of law to sue. They are too busy searching for a replacement and scrambling for childcare.

If this lady was good to you, then I think you should do all that you can for her to help her find someone else. Do you have someone responsible and trustworthy you can recommend, even temporary while she searches for someone long-term? To leave her high & dry as a nurse will be an extreme hardship for her OP.

Is there any way you can stay a little while longer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Legally she cannot sue you because employment is at will and is a civil matter and most people do not take the time and effort to go into a court of law to sue. They are too busy searching for a replacement and scrambling for childcare.

If this lady was good to you, then I think you should do all that you can for her to help her find someone else. Do you have someone responsible and trustworthy you can recommend, even temporary while she searches for someone long-term? To leave her high & dry as a nurse will be an extreme hardship for her OP.

Is there any way you can stay a little while longer?

Op here.

Thanks for your reply! at most I can stay two weeks but then I really have to get home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you post here at all, OP?

Because I was wondering if it was completely terrible that I quit my job. I kind of felt that MB's response was an overreaction.

How is being sad that a beloved employee leaving you an overreaction? Showing emotions is normal...

emotion is normal, hysterical wailing is not.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're a total pain. You're waffling here on intent, attitude, how long you can stay, etc... is just bloody annoying.

I'm sure your MB is distraught but she's better off without you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legally she cannot sue you because employment is at will and is a civil matter and most people do not take the time and effort to go into a court of law to sue. They are too busy searching for a replacement and scrambling for childcare.

If this lady was good to you, then I think you should do all that you can for her to help her find someone else. Do you have someone responsible and trustworthy you can recommend, even temporary while she searches for someone long-term? To leave her high & dry as a nurse will be an extreme hardship for her OP.

Is there any way you can stay a little while longer?

Op here.

Thanks for your reply! at most I can stay two weeks but then I really have to get home.

Ok, so if you can stay 2 weeks then stay 2 weeks. I'm not sure what your point of posting was unless you just wanted to hear people tell you that you are doing the right thing and too bad for your NF.

I don't think most people will fault you for doing what you need to do for your own family. Your obligation is to them first, then your NF, and that's fine. Whether you meant it that way or not, your post was kind of critical of your MB for being upset that she needs to find a replacement for you on short notice. Your post was asking what you could do to make it better but in all your follow-up posts you basically said there was nothing you could do, so why did you ask? That is why it just seems like you are looking for people to agree with you that your MB overreacted and you should just go and not look back.

I think the situation just sucks for everyone. It sucks for you that you have a family emergency and have to leave and it also equally sucks for your NF that they only have 1 week to scramble to find reliable and trustworthy nanny care. It doesn't matter how much money they have, it still takes time (not money) to find a good and trustworthy person to take care of your child. And it's not the same as just having backup care, that's for a week or less if your nanny is sick or takes vacation (and you usually have more than 1 week notice when a nanny takes vacation). So while you need to do what you need to do just accept that it is hard for your NF now too.