MB's how do you feel leaving a beloved nanny behind?

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Anonymous wrote:It must be hard for both parents to have busy careers and still get in some parenting work.

Go away, bitter nanny. I can't believe people actually leave their children with you.

They don't - that's why she has so much time and bitterness to share with us!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you can't afford school or your lease because you lost your job with only a few weeks' notice, then you couldn't really afford them eny way. You need to take some ownership amd get control of your finances. It is no one's fault but yours if you have no safety net.

Clueless.

Not at all. I am a nanny myself, with bills to pay and no family support to fall back on. I have definitely been through times in my life when I was living paycheck to paycheck, so it's not that I don't understand how someone could get in that position. What I am disagreeing with is her implication that it is somehow the family's fault that she can no longer afford those things. If she has not built up a safety net for herself, and that is no one's responsibility but herself. If living with her aunt was an option, why wasn't she doing that rather than leasing a place of her own while going to school? It is fine for her to make those choices, but not fine for her to imply that the family is somehow responsible for making sure that she can maintain her lifestyle. Losing one's job is always a possibility, and it just as easily could have been the case that she had a medical condition that meant she had to quit. Would that have been the family's fault too?

A medical condition isn't a choice; a bigger paycheck is. Except of course if they can't provide basic necessaties. But they had a nanny.

So next time you are offered a better job with a bigger paycheck you are going to turn it down, right? After all, no one should decide anything based on money...get real.

Wow. Just wow.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you can't afford school or your lease because you lost your job with only a few weeks' notice, then you couldn't really afford them eny way. You need to take some ownership amd get control of your finances. It is no one's fault but yours if you have no safety net.

Clueless.

Not at all. I am a nanny myself, with bills to pay and no family support to fall back on. I have definitely been through times in my life when I was living paycheck to paycheck, so it's not that I don't understand how someone could get in that position. What I am disagreeing with is her implication that it is somehow the family's fault that she can no longer afford those things. If she has not built up a safety net for herself, and that is no one's responsibility but herself. If living with her aunt was an option, why wasn't she doing that rather than leasing a place of her own while going to school? It is fine for her to make those choices, but not fine for her to imply that the family is somehow responsible for making sure that she can maintain her lifestyle. Losing one's job is always a possibility, and it just as easily could have been the case that she had a medical condition that meant she had to quit. Would that have been the family's fault too?

A medical condition isn't a choice; a bigger paycheck is. Except of course if they can't provide basic necessaties. But they had a nanny.

So next time you are offered a better job with a bigger paycheck you are going to turn it down, right? After all, no one should decide anything based on money...get real.

Wow. Just wow.

Sorry, do you work for fun? I'm pretty sure we are all employed for the money to varying extents. What is so wrong with acknowledging that.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not blaming the family at all. I did lease a place to cut down on commute time because my aunt lives too far away. I realize this is life and situations change. I am just venting that it couldn't have happened at a worst time. F.Y.I - MB and DB already make quite a big of money. DB stated he would make a high salary and that's why they chose the job. I know it was an offer too good to pass up. I know my charge will be just fine and so will I. I'm happy good things are happening. I've had this exact situation happen with two other families already. I'm bummed that I give everything I can to my job only for it to end abruptly. The families are happy and I'm the one getting screwed at the end of it all. The family isn't to blame for anything. I just have horrible luck.

OP, something is fishy here. On the other thread you started you specifically said the reason that DB took the new job because it was significantly less hours than his current one so that he could spend more time with MB and with kids. Now it sounds like you are just trying to get sympathy by saying it only took the job for more money. Besides that fact that it is their prerogative to do that choosing to move for a job that enables him to spend more time with his family is admirable.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not blaming the family at all. I did lease a place to cut down on commute time because my aunt lives too far away. I realize this is life and situations change. I am just venting that it couldn't have happened at a worst time. F.Y.I - MB and DB already make quite a big of money. DB stated he would make a high salary and that's why they chose the job. I know it was an offer too good to pass up. I know my charge will be just fine and so will I. I'm happy good things are happening. I've had this exact situation happen with two other families already. I'm bummed that I give everything I can to my job only for it to end abruptly. The families are happy and I'm the one getting screwed at the end of it all. The family isn't to blame for anything. I just have horrible luck.

OP, something is fishy here. On the other thread you started you specifically said the reason that DB took the new job because it was significantly less hours than his current one so that he could spend more time with MB and with kids. Now it sounds like you are just trying to get sympathy by saying it only took the job for more money. Besides that fact that it is their prerogative to do that choosing to move for a job that enables him to spend more time with his family is admirable.

I thought she said the new job would pay more.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not blaming the family at all. I did lease a place to cut down on commute time because my aunt lives too far away. I realize this is life and situations change. I am just venting that it couldn't have happened at a worst time. F.Y.I - MB and DB already make quite a big of money. DB stated he would make a high salary and that's why they chose the job. I know it was an offer too good to pass up. I know my charge will be just fine and so will I. I'm happy good things are happening. I've had this exact situation happen with two other families already. I'm bummed that I give everything I can to my job only for it to end abruptly. The families are happy and I'm the one getting screwed at the end of it all. The family isn't to blame for anything. I just have horrible luck.

OP, something is fishy here. On the other thread you started you specifically said the reason that DB took the new job because it was significantly less hours than his current one so that he could spend more time with MB and with kids. Now it sounds like you are just trying to get sympathy by saying it only took the job for more money. Besides that fact that it is their prerogative to do that choosing to move for a job that enables him to spend more time with his family is admirable.

I thought she said the new job would pay more.

This is what she said in the previous thread:

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OP here. It's not exactly the same. We both wanted a long-term arrangement but this job offer was out of the blue and abrupt. It allows DB now works 60-90/hr weeks and this job will allow more time with MB and my charge ( and possible siblings). I understand why he jumped at it. They aren't leaving just to leave. I know a lot of decision went into this and they weighed it all out. I'm not annoyed and there are no hard feelings. It's just a sucky but happy situation. MB and DB are wonderful people, employers, and parents. I'm happy for them and I think the overall situation of less stress, hours, etc., will be great for them. It's just too bad it had to come to an end so soon instead of years down the road. I know that they love me and wish they could keep me but unfortunately I can't make that type of move happen. I know we will keep in touch and its not the last I will see of my charge.

He may also be making more money but from this post it sounds like that's not why they decided to move. I just seems convenient that the story changed depending on the thread.

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'm not blaming the family at all. I did lease a place to cut down on commute time because my aunt lives too far away. I realize this is life and situations change. I am just venting that it couldn't have happened at a worst time. F.Y.I - MB and DB already make quite a big of money. DB stated he would make a high salary and that's why they chose the job. I know it was an offer too good to pass up. I know my charge will be just fine and so will I. I'm happy good things are happening. I've had this exact situation happen with two other families already. I'm bummed that I give everything I can to my job only for it to end abruptly. The families are happy and I'm the one getting screwed at the end of it all. The family isn't to blame for anything. I just have horrible luck.

You're thinking about this all wrong, OP. You're not getting screwed and if you think that, then, in fact, you are blaming the family. Which is foolish.

You also don't have horrible luck. What you do have is unusual expectations. Jobs are not permanent until you don't want them to be. They don't guarantee that your plans for school or life will be all set. They just guarantee that if you show up are needed, and do a good job, you will get a paycheck that week.

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OP, my children's nanny left a void in our lives that will never be filled. Sure, we have had other child care providers since then but not like her--so loving, kind, funny and hard-working. She has a family of her own now. We still keep in touch and she visits whenever she is in town.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny so I may have no right posting on this thread but...

I would think that any good mother would be concerned about their child/children losing a beloved nanny but not about themselves. I'd been with my charge since he was 10 weeks old and his mother knows how attached he is to me - she's a very good mother and I am certain she would be concerned with her child's reaction or heartbreak at being away from me for the first time in his life. And although MB and I do like each other and, more importantly, respect each other - I honestly don't think she would feel much of anything but concern for her child if she needed to leave me behind. I would absolutely miss my wonderful charge but I wouldn't give MB or DB much of a second thought. (And I don't mean that cruelly). They are my employers and the parents of a child I love - but I have no bond with the parents.

What an odd post.

I don't find this post odd at all - this is exactly how I feel. I'm sure my MB would feel the same way - concerned for her child but not about herself or me.

[Anonymous]

What makes you think you were beloved? Employee, that's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think you were beloved? Employee, that's all.

STFU, troll.