MB's how do you feel leaving a beloved nanny behind?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you can't afford school or your lease because you lost your job with only a few weeks' notice, then you couldn't really afford them eny way. You need to take some ownership amd get control of your finances. It is no one's fault but yours if you have no safety net.

Clueless.

Not at all. I am a nanny myself, with bills to pay and no family support to fall back on. I have definitely been through times in my life when I was living paycheck to paycheck, so it's not that I don't understand how someone could get in that position. What I am disagreeing with is her implication that it is somehow the family's fault that she can no longer afford those things. If she has not built up a safety net for herself, and that is no one's responsibility but herself. If living with her aunt was an option, why wasn't she doing that rather than leasing a place of her own while going to school? It is fine for her to make those choices, but not fine for her to imply that the family is somehow responsible for making sure that she can maintain her lifestyle. Losing one's job is always a possibility, and it just as easily could have been the case that she had a medical condition that meant she had to quit. Would that have been the family's fault too?

A medical condition isn't a choice; a bigger paycheck is. Except of course if they can't provide basic necessaties. But they had a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP again. There was a thread a while back from an MB saying she was upset because her nanny got engaged and was leaving even though they had talked about long term plans. That poster was attacked for being upset that the nanny's plans had changed. How is this different?

I will tell you. Things like birth, death, marriage, and even divorce are considered "life events."

Chasing a bigger paycheck can be an obsession with certain people. One hopes you don't uproot your family (too often) for that purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. There was a thread a while back from an MB saying she was upset because her nanny got engaged and was leaving even though they had talked about long term plans. That poster was attacked for being upset that the nanny's plans had changed. How is this different?

I will tell you. Things like birth, death, marriage, and even divorce are considered "life events."

Chasing a bigger paycheck can be an obsession with certain people. One hopes you don't uproot your family (too often) for that purpose.

You don't know what choices they were facing and you have no right to imply that they are money obssessed "certain people". Often it's not a bigger pay but either move for the company or buh-bye because of some internal company stuff like cost cutting or restructuring. They have to think about the family and children long-term, beyond next 2-3 years.

[Anonymous]

I'm not blaming the family at all. I did lease a place to cut down on commute time because my aunt lives too far away. I realize this is life and situations change. I am just venting that it couldn't have happened at a worst time. F.Y.I - MB and DB already make quite a big of money. DB stated he would make a high salary and that's why they chose the job. I know it was an offer too good to pass up. I know my charge will be just fine and so will I. I'm happy good things are happening. I've had this exact situation happen with two other families already. I'm bummed that I give everything I can to my job only for it to end abruptly. The families are happy and I'm the one getting screwed at the end of it all. The family isn't to blame for anything. I just have horrible luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. There was a thread a while back from an MB saying she was upset because her nanny got engaged and was leaving even though they had talked about long term plans. That poster was attacked for being upset that the nanny's plans had changed. How is this different?

I will tell you. Things like birth, death, marriage, and even divorce are considered "life events."

Chasing a bigger paycheck can be an obsession with certain people. One hopes you don't uproot your family (too often) for that purpose.

You are kidding right? Parents are now supposed to consider their nanny's personal life when making life decisions? And YES, moving for a job is a life event, wheter or not it is linked to a bigger paycheck.
The egos here are just astounding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you can't afford school or your lease because you lost your job with only a few weeks' notice, then you couldn't really afford them eny way. You need to take some ownership amd get control of your finances. It is no one's fault but yours if you have no safety net.

Clueless.

Not at all. I am a nanny myself, with bills to pay and no family support to fall back on. I have definitely been through times in my life when I was living paycheck to paycheck, so it's not that I don't understand how someone could get in that position. What I am disagreeing with is her implication that it is somehow the family's fault that she can no longer afford those things. If she has not built up a safety net for herself, and that is no one's responsibility but herself. If living with her aunt was an option, why wasn't she doing that rather than leasing a place of her own while going to school? It is fine for her to make those choices, but not fine for her to imply that the family is somehow responsible for making sure that she can maintain her lifestyle. Losing one's job is always a possibility, and it just as easily could have been the case that she had a medical condition that meant she had to quit. Would that have been the family's fault too?

A medical condition isn't a choice; a bigger paycheck is. Except of course if they can't provide basic necessaties. But they had a nanny.

So next time you are offered a better job with a bigger paycheck you are going to turn it down, right? After all, no one should decide anything based on money...get real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not blaming the family at all. I did lease a place to cut down on commute time because my aunt lives too far away. I realize this is life and situations change. I am just venting that it couldn't have happened at a worst time. F.Y.I - MB and DB already make quite a big of money. DB stated he would make a high salary and that's why they chose the job. I know it was an offer too good to pass up. I know my charge will be just fine and so will I. I'm happy good things are happening. I've had this exact situation happen with two other families already. I'm bummed that I give everything I can to my job only for it to end abruptly. The families are happy and I'm the one getting screwed at the end of it all. The family isn't to blame for anything. I just have horrible luck.

Perhaps the problem is YOU. If this has happened three times now, you are clearly committing way too much way too soon. You rearranged your life for a family that you were with for a few months...there is just something way off here. You are screwing yourself.

[Anonymous]

The first two times we lost a nanny (both to the nanny's "life events") I cried, and worried a lot about our kids. But, they quickly bonded with the new nanny, and were happy with occasionally seeing the old one.

This time, we're the ones moving and leaving our nanny behind. I know the kids will miss her, but we'll Skype a few times at least, and before long, everyone will be busy with their new lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not blaming the family at all. I did lease a place to cut down on commute time because my aunt lives too far away. I realize this is life and situations change. I am just venting that it couldn't have happened at a worst time. F.Y.I - MB and DB already make quite a big of money. DB stated he would make a high salary and that's why they chose the job. I know it was an offer too good to pass up. I know my charge will be just fine and so will I. I'm happy good things are happening. I've had this exact situation happen with two other families already. I'm bummed that I give everything I can to my job only for it to end abruptly. The families are happy and I'm the one getting screwed at the end of it all. The family isn't to blame for anything. I just have horrible luck.

Perhaps the problem is YOU. If this has happened three times now, you are clearly committing way too much way too soon. You rearranged your life for a family that you were with for a few months...there is just something way off here. You are screwing yourself.

Shut up pp. stop attacking her. We all give ourselves to our job, one way or another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not blaming the family at all. I did lease a place to cut down on commute time because my aunt lives too far away. I realize this is life and situations change. I am just venting that it couldn't have happened at a worst time. F.Y.I - MB and DB already make quite a big of money. DB stated he would make a high salary and that's why they chose the job. I know it was an offer too good to pass up. I know my charge will be just fine and so will I. I'm happy good things are happening. I've had this exact situation happen with two other families already. I'm bummed that I give everything I can to my job only for it to end abruptly. The families are happy and I'm the one getting screwed at the end of it all. The family isn't to blame for anything. I just have horrible luck.

Perhaps the problem is YOU. If this has happened three times now, you are clearly committing way too much way too soon. You rearranged your life for a family that you were with for a few months...there is just something way off here. You are screwing yourself.

Shut up pp. stop attacking her. We all give ourselves to our job, one way or another.

Considering that the same situation has happened THREE times, perhaps someone should be a bit stern with OP. Clearly she is not going to learn the lesson on her own...

[Anonymous]

Clearly she thinks these people care about her, or at least their children.

[Anonymous]

I've been with my nanny family 8 years and even I know they when it's time for me to go, life will go on for the kids. Maybe OP is new at nannying, but you are really over estimating your importance when you haven't even been with the family for half a year. Get a grip!

[Anonymous]

PP again- I know of course the kids will miss me and I will miss them, but they will still have their PARENTS. You are not the same, OP.

[Anonymous]

It must be hard for both parents to have busy careers and still get in some parenting work.

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Anonymous wrote:It must be hard for both parents to have busy careers and still get in some parenting work.

Go away, bitter nanny. I can't believe people actually leave their children with you.