MB's how do you feel leaving a beloved nanny behind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny so I may have no right posting on this thread but...

I would think that any good mother would be concerned about their child/children losing a beloved nanny but not about themselves. I'd been with my charge since he was 10 weeks old and his mother knows how attached he is to me - she's a very good mother and I am certain she would be concerned with her child's reaction or heartbreak at being away from me for the first time in his life. And although MB and I do like each other and, more importantly, respect each other - I honestly don't think she would feel much of anything but concern for her child if she needed to leave me behind. I would absolutely miss my wonderful charge but I wouldn't give MB or DB much of a second thought. (And I don't mean that cruelly). They are my employers and the parents of a child I love - but I have no bond with the parents.

What an odd post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you are very young.

Jobs end all the time. All of us would like guaranteed job security, but that isn't the way life goes.

Move on. Take care of yourself. Wish your NF well.

You're right. Here today, gone tomorrow. Learn to chase the highest paying job, just like your employers?

[Anonymous]

This thread is so bizarre. I'm sorry, OP, that you are upset to find out that your NF is moving but do people seriously think a family should consider not moving for a great opportunity because it might upset the nanny?

We moved about a year ago because DH had been in the military. When he got out there were no good jobs for him where we lived so we had to move. I had to leave a job I loved and we had to say goodbye to the nanny we'd had for 2 years. It was a hard decision we made but we had to do what was best for our family. I can't imagine our nanny suggesting we should stay for her sake.

OP, I realize that's not really what you were saying but the posters calling your NF inconsiderate are out of their minds. Your employers gave you plenty of notice and have offered to help you find a new position. What more could you expect?

[Anonymous]

OP of the other post. I'm not entitled or feel my employers are indebted to me. I know things come up and we never know when it's going to end. I'm not upset at my employers for doing whats best for them. I'm upset at the situation and predicament I'm left in. I had to drop all my classes and will have to put off school, once again. I just canceled my lease and will be moving back in with my aunt until I find another situation. I know I've been with them going on four months but it did come as a complete shock. MB and I had many discussions and she talked about never leaving DC and how all their family is here and so forth. We had a meeting at the 3 month mark and they both agreed it would be long-term and for to get my own place. Now a month later I am out of a job, school is put off, and I'm back to my aunts. I'm just upset over the situation, not at them. They really are great people and I know they wouldn't screw me over intentionally. Everything happens for a reason.

[Anonymous]

PP again. There was a thread a while back from an MB saying she was upset because her nanny got engaged and was leaving even though they had talked about long term plans. That poster was attacked for being upset that the nanny's plans had changed. How is this different?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP of the other post. I'm not entitled or feel my employers are indebted to me. I know things come up and we never know when it's going to end. I'm not upset at my employers for doing whats best for them. I'm upset at the situation and predicament I'm left in. I had to drop all my classes and will have to put off school, once again. I just canceled my lease and will be moving back in with my aunt until I find another situation. I know I've been with them going on four months but it did come as a complete shock. MB and I had many discussions and she talked about never leaving DC and how all their family is here and so forth. We had a meeting at the 3 month mark and they both agreed it would be long-term and for to get my own place. Now a month later I am out of a job, school is put off, and I'm back to my aunts. I'm just upset over the situation, not at them. They really are great people and I know they wouldn't screw me over intentionally. Everything happens for a reason.

PP here again, my comments were directed at you by the way, I think what you are feeling is legitimate and normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP of the other post. I'm not entitled or feel my employers are indebted to me. I know things come up and we never know when it's going to end. I'm not upset at my employers for doing whats best for them. I'm upset at the situation and predicament I'm left in. I had to drop all my classes and will have to put off school, once again. I just canceled my lease and will be moving back in with my aunt until I find another situation. I know I've been with them going on four months but it did come as a complete shock. MB and I had many discussions and she talked about never leaving DC and how all their family is here and so forth. We had a meeting at the 3 month mark and they both agreed it would be long-term and for to get my own place. Now a month later I am out of a job, school is put off, and I'm back to my aunts. I'm just upset over the situation, not at them. They really are great people and I know they wouldn't screw me over intentionally. Everything happens for a reason.

OP, if you had to make life changes like that because your job is ending (I don't know why you would do that now before trying to get another job) i think you need to reevaluate some things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP again. There was a thread a while back from an MB saying she was upset because her nanny got engaged and was leaving even though they had talked about long term plans. That poster was attacked for being upset that the nanny's plans had changed. How is this different?

Because all employers are awful and they are trying to screw
Over their nannies. Didn't you know this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again. There was a thread a while back from an MB saying she was upset because her nanny got engaged and was leaving even though they had talked about long term plans. That poster was attacked for being upset that the nanny's plans had changed. How is this different?

Because all employers are awful and they are trying to screw
Over their nannies. Didn't you know this?

Oh just shut up, bitter mb. Ok?

[Anonymous]

These things happen OP, it's called life. It sucks but it's just one of those things. Whenever I'm interviewing I always tell the families that I'm looking for a long term fit, but that no one knows the future.

In my nanny career I've seen couples get divorced, babies die, families move across country, families move out of the country, job opportunities that are too good to pass up, etc.

[Anonymous]

You've only been with the family a few months, you sound like a stalker.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you can't afford school or your lease because you lost your job with only a few weeks' notice, then you couldn't really afford them eny way. You need to take some ownership amd get control of your finances. It is no one's fault but yours if you have no safety net.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you can't afford school or your lease because you lost your job with only a few weeks' notice, then you couldn't really afford them eny way. You need to take some ownership amd get control of your finances. It is no one's fault but yours if you have no safety net.

Clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you can't afford school or your lease because you lost your job with only a few weeks' notice, then you couldn't really afford them eny way. You need to take some ownership amd get control of your finances. It is no one's fault but yours if you have no safety net.

Clueless.

Not at all. I am a nanny myself, with bills to pay and no family support to fall back on. I have definitely been through times in my life when I was living paycheck to paycheck, so it's not that I don't understand how someone could get in that position. What I am disagreeing with is her implication that it is somehow the family's fault that she can no longer afford those things. If she has not built up a safety net for herself, and that is no one's responsibility but herself. If living with her aunt was an option, why wasn't she doing that rather than leasing a place of her own while going to school? It is fine for her to make those choices, but not fine for her to imply that the family is somehow responsible for making sure that she can maintain her lifestyle. Losing one's job is always a possibility, and it just as easily could have been the case that she had a medical condition that meant she had to quit. Would that have been the family's fault too?

[Anonymous]

Of course it's a shame when life happens in a way that derails good relationships w/ nannies and the families they work with. That's a bummer for everyone.

It's also life.