DC said nanny told him to "be quiet"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should fire her immediately. It is far better to have a nanny who is willing to drive with distractions and take route guidance from a child than a horrible, no good, very bad nanny who would tell a child to "please be quiet." Remember: self-esteem first, safety last.

Was this really necessary? I asked an honest question. I NEVER mentioned firing her. Now whose over-reacting.

Touche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should fire her immediately. It is far better to have a nanny who is willing to drive with distractions and take route guidance from a child than a horrible, no good, very bad nanny who would tell a child to "please be quiet." Remember: self-esteem first, safety last.

Was this really necessary? I asked an honest question. I NEVER mentioned firing her. Now whose over-reacting.

Touche.

Seriously? She didn't even spell "who's" correctly.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are overreacting.


My biggest concern is that you could be teaching your son to not trust and listen to this nanny. And that can reach into his interactions with future teachers, coaches, even employers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a new nanny for about a week now. We had her do several trial days and I've been around quite a bit and so far she has seemed very good with DC. Yesterday she drove him to school for the first time without me. I know she gets a little concerned about driving a new car (she drives our car) when she's not familiar with the route but she said she was comfortable going herself yesterday. She went a slightly different way than our previous nanny did and she told me DC was telling her she wasn't going the right way. Anyway, I took him to school today and on the way he told me that yesterday nanny went a different way and then told him to be quiet. I asked him specifically what she said and he told me she said "X, can you please be quiet for a minute?" I totally get that he may have been distracting if he was telling her she's going the wrong way and I know a lot depends on her tone but I can't help but feel a little bothered that she told him to be quiet. Am I overreacting. He told me he was afraid she was going to be angry with him and I told him to tell me if she does. Please be kind in your responses. If I'm over reacting that's fine, I just honestly want to know what other people think.

Haven't you ever told your child to please be quiet?
Honestly, woman. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should fire her immediately. It is far better to have a nanny who is willing to drive with distractions and take route guidance from a child than a horrible, no good, very bad nanny who would tell a child to "please be quiet." Remember: self-esteem first, safety last.

Lol, you are funny!

[Anonymous]

Is STFU better? You are really overreacting. I've said be quiet to my own kids for good reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread is what is wrong with DCUM. I politely asked a question. I fully agreed I may have been over-reacting and have no problem with anyone telling me so. What I have a problem with is the way people say it. You know nothing about me or my DC yet you are calling him names and putting me down.

Our previous nanny was with us for 3 years and had infinite patience so I guess I'm comparing the new nanny to her. And before everyone jumps on me and says I can't keep a nanny or I'm the reason she left - she left because we moved. She cried in her last day because she knew she would miss us.

I'm so done with DCUM. I don't know why people can't politely give advice. If the nannies here want to have good employers there is no reason they can't help people in a nice way. All this does is make me defensive and annoyed instead of saying you know what, I am over-reacting. I guess the anonymity of the forum makes people feel like they can be bullies.

Mat be that's the problem, that nobody ever told you anything out of the line, and now you are not able to cope with criticism (justified or unjustified). This is life, and your snowflake and you need to start building a little bit of resilience to other people's ways in order to be able to grow as a strong, confident kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread is what is wrong with DCUM. I politely asked a question. I fully agreed I may have been over-reacting and have no problem with anyone telling me so. What I have a problem with is the way people say it. You know nothing about me or my DC yet you are calling him names and putting me down.

Our previous nanny was with us for 3 years and had infinite patience so I guess I'm comparing the new nanny to her. And before everyone jumps on me and says I can't keep a nanny or I'm the reason she left - she left because we moved. She cried in her last day because she knew she would miss us.

I'm so done with DCUM. I don't know why people can't politely give advice. If the nannies here want to have good employers there is no reason they can't help people in a nice way. All this does is make me defensive and annoyed instead of saying you know what, I am over-reacting. I guess the anonymity of the forum makes people feel like they can be bullies.

The very idea that a mere nanny dared to ask your child to stop distracting and correcting an adult while she was driving ! And the shocking indifference to your plight. The brutality with which people have responded to your concerns. DCUM is going rogue right before our eyes!

[Anonymous]

Huge overreaction. So huge you should probably not hire a nanny as there will be constant turnover which is bad for your child if this is any indication.